“Are you ok?”

Wow, this post really resonated with me. I never really thought about it, but I find I get angry when people ask me that. It’s kind of triggering. You are right, it brings up lots of doubts, uncertainties, fears, etc. of course, recovery means we allow those uncertainties, we don’t do anything about them. Social events are difficult for me too. I understand how that was triggering. I guess being aware of it is important and recognizing a trigger means we can apply our tools next time. When someone asks me, depending on our relationship, I will say I’m a little anxious, and leave it at that. In your situation I would say I’m fine, thanks for asking. But, good for you, you went❤️. Thanks for the insight.

I completely understand you, I know how you feel. I think sometimes some people doesn't have the best way or the best words to tell things to others. That can make us feel in very extreme ways I guess it's also because they ignore how we really feel. Maybe not because they want you to feel worse. I wish you the peace you need. I'm sure you will overcome. Don't give up.

The average person when asking are you ok , in their own way they think they are being helpful. It reminds me of when someone says how’s it going? And the generic reply is fine and you . It really means when you say you are doing ok , it means you wish you were or might be , it is more so a goal or a positive answer even if not ok , you aspire to be ok is what it really means .

Unless they are a close friend talking to me in private, I hate being asked if I’m okay. I always feel guilty for lying or telling the truth (which they aren’t ready for). And I totally get the difficulty of being at a party. I was just at a swim party with my family and I went and hid in the bathroom to ruminate for a while. I’m embarrassed and ashamed of that. But the whole time at the party my mind was ruminating on a trigger.