Please read this I got no one to tell them this :(

I got social anxiety and I’m so sensitive and I have low self esteem and low confidence. Today my professor at university asked me to explain something to the class, I didn’t know how to explain it but I tried my best, I’m not confident but I can act as if I’m confident, my voice was clear and I kept eye contact with others and I was doing well, suddenly the professor interrupted me and mocked my explanation infront of others becauseI was explaining the wrong topic(he’s actually known for bullying students), and some of my classmates laughed VERY HARD, it sounded personal as if they were waiting for a chance to laugh at me, I didn’t say anything and just kept laughing and smiling but while feeling like a loser inside It really hurt me, I felt like people doesn’t really like me and they hate to see me trying to be confident as if I’m not allowed to, and I hate myself for being weak and not knowing how to respond and for being affected by it, these sort of events really trigger my OCD and worsen it, I feel miserable, what should I do?

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A23

Date posted: 1y

So what you tell yourself honestly plays a big part in how we view ourselves. There are resources online about self-esteem and I think cognitive behavioral therapy concepts apply well here. Things may seem certain ways, like people waiting to laugh but it may not true at all. Second if you feel the professor was rude, you can tell him after class (might be a good exposure perhaps) or you could report him. Regardless if you have OCD and self esteem issues, I think seeking a professional is the right way to lower your symptoms

A23

Date posted: 1y

I would explore university counseling services, some universities even have anxiety clinics

lyn lyn

Date posted: 1y

@A23 Exactly, I know thinking that people were waiting for a chance to laugh at me may not be true but I guess it’s OCD trying to control my thoughts, especially that this wasn’t the first time they laugh at me like that, and they do have a record in bullying too so I’m afraid they are targeting me or something I really want to tell the professor how bad he makes me feel sometimes but I’m afraid I will sound over sensitive and he will start embarrassing me again or something, I’m too weak to handle these situations and I never knew what’s the right thing to do, it’s draining

lyn lyn

Date posted: 1y

@A23 Also I forgot to mention that I actually study fine art, which makes everybody competitive towards each others, and I always have thoughts that they might be doing this out of jealousy or competition as what my other professor said, cuz I actually am kinda good at what I’m doing but I lack confidence

A23

Date posted: 1y

@lyn lyn It's hard to not care what others think, but in a way it could be really relieving to tell the prof how you feel. If the prof has an issue with a student communicating their feeling towards his behavior, then it's kind of his problem. But there's a chance he understand your comment and maybe even apologize. Regardless something to consider but don't dwell on too much, even tho it's easier said than done

A23

Date posted: 1y

@A23 I suppose you could first tell the prof (good exposure for the self consciousness perhaps) and then if he's still rude, you could maybe report him (and ideally not caring what he thinks, leaving up to the school). But I understand how this can be challenging, I'm pretty much suggesting exposure related solutions

lyn lyn

Date posted: 1y

@A23 Thank you for your advice 🙏🏼 I appreciate it

flyana

Date posted: 23w

Where did my confidence go?

I am struggling to feel like I deserve any of the confidence I used to have. I’ve done a lot of pretty cool stuff in my life, and I used to think it was impressive. I was so proud, and I would light up when others gave me compliments. Now, it feels like all a lie, and I can’t stop thinking everyone would hate me if they knew the terrible things I’ve thought or said or done. I make art, for example, and I’ve had a lot of success with it. But now, I feel like others would troll me or destroy my work, and then tell everyone that anything I touch is trash. Basically, I fear being bullied for the mistakes of my past — or even just for my thoughts. My therapist keeps telling me I’m completely normal and I’m the only one beating myself up, but my OCD says, “No, she’s wrong — you should stop pursuing your dreams and push away anyone who likes you, because they’ll all hate you eventually.” I know it’s ridiculous, but it feels so real. Anyone have advice for rebuilding confidence in the face of OCD?

shirleyCstar

Date posted: 22w

Advice and Unbiased Opinions Please!!!

This isn’t OCD related so I’m sorry, but I don’t know another platform like this where I can talk to other people and actually get responses. OCD has been a huge fucking setback for me in life. I had to drop classes, wasn’t able to do things, and just felt so shitty all the time because of it. I feel like I blame OCD for everything I’m not. I constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Just today I saw someone I once knew and felt all of those feelings I used to have that made me miserable. Anyways, I tried taking my driver’s test a couple days ago but I wasn’t able to. The DMV only accepted cash. I felt upset but it was whatever. I’m almost 19, and I don’t have a driver’s license. So passing it would mean a lot to me. I compare myself to others my age; they have cars, hobbies, friends, go to college, etc… I don’t have any of that. Maybe comparing myself and all of that is my fault. My family says it’s my fault I’m sad because I just wallow in it. Hearing them say that makes me frustrated and hurt, but maybe they’re right. My mom texted a couple of my siblings in a group chat I wasn’t a part of, “He wants to wallow and be depressed. And woe is me, wah wah wah.” That made me really angry because my siblings were agreeing with her. Maybe they are right. Maybe I am selfish and think the world revolves around me. My sister tells me I need to advocate for myself more, I just don’t want to be a burden. I’ve only been a burden my whole life. My OCD created this whole issue in my family and I hate that. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want an answer. Am I really a loser? Do I really wallow in it? Am I not trying like my family says? I just want to talk to someone.

kiwicowgirl

Date posted: 18w

I’m “bad” at sex (18+)

So I got dumped today by my situationship. For background, we talked for like 3 months, and I just recently lost my virginity to her. We only had sex twice. After she said we should still be friends, goofily (reassurance-seeking) I asked “but the sex was good right?” And she told me it was “good for a virgin” which hurt my feelings, then going even further she said “not in my top ten.” This made me CRY, like on the spot, right there in front of her (not the most embarrassing thing I’ve ever done…. But definitely in my top ten). I started having intrusive thoughts about how I’m unattractive/unworthy of love. She asked me why I was crying, but I just said “I don’t like myself very much,” which is always the underlying problem with me. And she reassured me that I’m “not a bad person” and “it’s not because you’re not smart or not beautiful.” But the reassurance made me spiral more, bc I was thinking “I didn’t even mention feeling unattractive or stupid, she can just tell that I am.” Then it kept getting worse and worse, “I’m unattractive/unlovable/stupid. I’m not good at sex, I’m not good at anything.” I had to stop myself and realize it was OCD obsessing over the things “wrong” with me. I think I started this post wanting reassurance, but now I think I want to know if anyone has any tips on accepting criticism as someone with OCD, bc it always sends me down a “there is something wrong with me” spiral.

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