Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

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I don’t have OCD but I think my son has it. Yesterday he totally snapped because I assumed a bag of chocolates could be shared by the entire family. This triggered so many reactions on him that evolved into him throwing the bag of candy to me….. I got upset and told him that his OCD didn’t give him the right to be disrespectful specially to a caring and understanding parent. Now he says he hates the whole family and that he won’t talk to us in 2 years. I don’t pressure him. He finished a GED but he hasn’t done anything in about a year and a half. I understand life is difficult for him and I give him time. It’s so difficult for me to understand why such small issues take priority over other life changing issues such as being productive, finding a job, friends, etc. He told me so many bad things yesterday . He also changed his name and has had different obsessions throughout the years like spitting, calories intake obsessions, exercise obsessions. Etc. Can somebody help me as to what to do? Should I ignore and wait for this to pass or try to communicate and possibly make it worse ? This situations also affect his brother and the entire family, I have tried everything but nothing seems to work. If I recommend this website to him I’m afraid it will unlock more obsessions that he currently doesn’t have…… I’m lost and my hope is almost gone Not even sure if his condition is OCD or something else ….. he won’t go to a doctor face to face (just via video call) nor take therapy and during the calls he completely disengages with the doctor…… I need yo do the talking.

Username: Unique121Unique121

Date posted: 1y ago

If he’s grown he needs to take his life into his own hands you don’t have to put up with his behavior since being kind isn’t obviously getting him anywhere you need to give him a choice either try to get help or he can get kicked out I have ocd and that would never make me behave to the one that birthed me

Username: Will86Will86

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

There's a difference in excuse and explanation. Most ppl don't need help making excuses just help being reminded they don't work. Regardless of his diagnosis im with unique. Our recovery is our own to control and noone should have to suffer cause of us. That's not being support it's being a punching bag.

Username: NicaNica

Date posted: 1y ago

Is he under the age of 18? If so, then you can get him help on here since he’s a minor. But if he is 18+ years old then what you said to him about be disrespectful was true and do not give into his complaints or reassurance demands. That won’t help him at all. He can say all he wants about him having to do certain things because of OCD but that’s a lie. Everyone has a choice and he’s choosing to give into his OCD, and being violent about other people, not to be in around him, and give him into his needs is wrong of him.

Username: SomaticSun🌤️SomaticSun🌤️

Date posted: 1y ago

Sounds like he just doesn’t like to share

Username: bluuberrybluuberry

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

i would say start by being as kind as you can, and ask him what he needs. maybe he doesn’t even know, so maybe that’s why he’s reluctant to try anything. you could talk to a doctor about your concerns privately, but i wouldn’t do anything huge without your son’s consent- that kills trust. so just begin by asking what he needs and be more patient. ocd is terrible and there were days where i couldn’t get out of bed; i am a very productive person usually, so this tells you that ocd is very difficult. but yes, just ask him what he needs :) hope that helps

Username: KathyOCDlandKathyOCDland

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y ago

Following

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

He’s 20

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I agree. I feel giving in to avoid an episode is wrong. I just do it at times for the rest of the family.

Username: Gsellocd1Gsellocd1

Date posted: 1y ago

Hi, I don’t know if that is ocd? or not, but he sounds unreasonable and childish. Is there any problems in the family before couldn’t be other things that’s bothering him with the family? Perhaps write a letter to him asking why it got blown out of proportion, and that you’re willing to listen?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank you all for your help. He definitely has a condition. Not sure why he has reacted like this for years. Vocal tics and cutting tags of the t shirts came first when he was 10 or 11, then all his notebooks became extremely messy and he lost all drive and motivation ….. he has this idea of fairness that he takes to extremes

Username: Mr.ocdMr.ocd

Date posted: 1y ago

I completely agree with unique the only times ive ever lashed out towards someone i cared about because of my OCD is when i am interupted during a cumpulsion but i apologize afterwards. Im not a professional but it seems like theres something going on aside from OCD because that sounds like an issue with his mood. But definitely do not tolerate the disrespect hes old enough to comprehend what hes doing. Unfortunately we are the ones that have to have the willingness to seek help it cant be pushed on us or it wont work well, sorry you have to go through this but it might be time for some tough love of course by talking it out like you need to find the strength withing yourself to want to speak to a professional, i know its scary and you might be afraid of what they say but you have to be strong for yourself if not you going to have to change your behavior or move out something along those lines but you know whats best you got this!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Thank you for your sincerity

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I have one last question Does OCD can make difficult for a person to take a shower, brush your teeth ? My son has some behaviors like cough but only and exclusively in the restroom, also extend his arm , at times roll his eyes for a second always in the same direction, spitting frequently on the floor inside the house,, he needs to wear think insoles every time he goes out with us (he says height is a problem for him) …… are these behaviors associated with OCD??

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

I meant thick insoles *

Username: Cabby

Date posted: 5y ago

Hello ?? I’m new here. I’m a mother to a 7 year old boy that has not only been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum, Sensory Integration, ADHD but also OCD. He is afraid or germs, and he’s constantly asking me for reassurance with bad thoughts he is having. From his mind telling him he’s going to hurt me but he doesn’t want to, to telling me his mind is saying he likes boys but he thinks it’s nasty, to constantly repeating things that he did bad years ago that no longer matter even tho he has already told me. Also him saying things that I know didn’t happen but yet he says he’s not sure if it did or if it didn’t happen. To him brushing his teeth and counting. He can brush his teeth now and 2 minutes later I’ll ask him if he brushed his teeth and he will say did you me brush my teeth and if I say no he will say he doesn’t remember and he will go and brush again and again until I say yes I saw you. This is all so overwhelming I don’t know what else to do.

Username: datablade

Date posted: 4y ago

I downloaded the app as my son (age 35) is suffering from ocd - not working and not willing to take medication or therapy. After two years of begging him to do something for himself we are at the point of banning him from our house, but then he is on the street (which we would like to avoid). Illinois has poor mental health care solutions and the Health Dept folks say “have the police remove him”. Not exactly helpful. Certainly we are not the only ones in this situation. My son is highly intelligent but can not overcome this disability. Any suggestions are welcome

Username: athena17

Date posted: 1y ago

Partner of someone struggling

Hello, I do not have OCD but my boyfriend does. We’re both in our early 20s, we have been together for almost a year. I’m making this post seeking advice , thank you for taking the time to read. He’s always had issues obsessing over my past and asking me questions and things of that nature. I talk to him about it and answer when he wants to ask me stuff, but the problem is i don’t want to talk about these things because it’s really traumatic for me. He tends to obsess over my past romantic history which brings up bad feelings for me (SA, DV trauma etc) I want to help him but it’s VERY hard to stay patient when it’s triggering me. Every time he asks me about these things i either end up having a panic attack or getting so upset with him which ends up making him feel worse because he can’t control his obsessions and it’s a really hard cycle for both of us. I don’t understand much about OCD and it confuses me how one minute everything is fine and the next he is upset. and he hasn’t been diagnosed yet but is working on getting into therapy. He has his own trauma which i think is where this all stems from. But in the meantime I want to find better ways to help but also keep my own mental health in check. I’m willing to do whatever I can to help him with his issues. It’s also really isolating because it’s a difficult situation and i’m having difficulty finding anyone who relates and can help. Thank you for reading this. 🥺 And anyone who has advice would get greatly appreciated.

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