I habe the feeling that Ill never improve. But not because of my ocd but because of my morals. I suffer from horrible thoughts sometimes and I always fear that i enjoy them especially if they are sexual. I dont want to habe these thoughts. But its so difficult to live with someone and your thoughts always tell you you are just exploiting her for her body which I dont want to. But at the same time I admit that I find her attractive.
Physical attraction is human. Don't feel guilty over it. As for what you consider to be awful thoughts, remember what the English writer Samuel Johnson said, "We all have thoughts that would shame hell." Even St. Augustine wrestled with it.
@Steven55! But how do you react when you see a girl whos attractive? I cant figure out if thats a normal reaction lr if I just look at her and using her for my own pleasure.
@PhilippFree There's nothing wrong with finding a girl attractive. It's perfectly natural. How else would we find mates and have families?
Yeah I know. But to be honest that a reason why Im afraid to get married. When I see another woman whos also attractice it would feel like I did something wrong. But the point is finding someone attractice is nothing I decide but something that happens. I guess you noticed but I struggle wirh scrupulosity too.
Catholic?
Yes!
Phillip, it's natural to look at a girl and find her attractive, even if you're married. It doesn't mean you're going to have an affair. It's not what you think, it's what you do that's important, in my opinion.
I know, so am I. That thoughts, words and deeds thing can really mess us up, if taken out of context.
What did you struggle with? Are you also catholic? Or was your ocd about anything else?
I struggled with a host of OCD themes since I was a kid, including scupulosity. Have you considered finding a trained OCD therapist who is Catholic? You may be able to locate one on NOCD. Why not contact them for a free consultation?
Because Id prefer having a face to face meeting and not online. Im European so I guess I cant find a therapist that matches my expectations.
Do you live in Europe?
Yeah!
Hmmm....well, you can go online and access the International OCD Foundation website and see if you can find a trained OCD therapist. You can also look around and find a young priest you can talk to, someone educated and not a troglodike. If you choose this route, I advise that you still retain a trained OCD therapist, one who uses ERP. Without one, you're likely to just pick up another OCD theme once you've worked this one out. NOCD is still an option. I did the in-office thing, too, and found NOCD to be more effective and much more convenient. It's still face-to-face. They have several therapists who treat International clients, even set up their sessions to fit your time zone. Anyway, here are dome options.
I thank you. I guess its important to have someone whos helping you. Because I was trying to do it on my own but it seems useless.
Yes, this is a peculiar disorder and needs a trained OCD therapist in order to move forward. It can't be treated with standard therapy, in fact, standard therapy can be detrimental. Be sure the therapist you consider uses ERP. It's the gold standard for OCD therapy and is highly effective.
I have ocd, i have crazy intrusive thoughts that make me super uncomfortable, the thing is i understand that ocd goes against your morals and try’s to make you feel like a bad person but how do i avoid pushing people away while trying to treat my ocd.. i love my boyfriend so so much but when i get intrusive thoughts about hurting his feelings or doing something terrible it scares me so bad that i’m scared to be around him because in my head it’s like “why am i even thinking of this if i love him so much” and i know i would never do anything to hurt him but i just feel terrible because he’s an amazing boyfriend and i have all these bad thoughts. :(
I am 15 years old and my POCD feels like its not POCD, i feel like i like my intrusive thoughts, but i have more intrusive thoughts about having intrusive thoughts, and i feel like i cant enjoy the things i normally enjoy anymore, like calling with my girlfriend and joking with her because this is still in the back of my mind, its making me question morals and if i ever even viewed P as completely wrong and i hate this so much, i love my nieces and nephews and when they're over i know id never do anything with my intrusive thoughts but when they arent present i feel like i like my thoughts. Before this i was dealing with HOCD and ROCD and i wish i could go back to that
I am a christian guy who grew up in a christian community and family. For as long as i remember, ive had horrible thoughts about all kinds of things that i dont know where to begin. Due to my extreme thoughts, i feel as if i am unworthy of practicing my religioin, such as praying, reading, meditating, etc. I feel ashamed when i go to church, as if i dont belong there because i feel like i am secretely evil, and that God knows i am evil and i am committing blasphemy by going there, and refusing to "repent", from my thoughts. But then again, my thoughts are just thoughts, sure. So whats the problem? - The problem is that in my faith, i have been taught that we must control our thoughts, so they do not get power over us to make us commit sin. Such as "If you think lustfully about a woman, you have already committed adultery with her in your heart". This verse has killed my self esteem, due to the constant unwanted sexual and disturbing thoughts. It makes me feel like a monster, who secretely just wants to abuse and be horrible to people, even though i know very well i do not want this. Sometimes i think horrible things about the people i love very much, such as my girlfriend. It feels so wrong and evil, even though i know it isnt my true will.
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