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Relationship ocd ):
How can I do erp for my relationship ocd? The break up urges are insane and it is breaking my heart because I love my partner so much š
How can I do erp for my relationship ocd? The break up urges are insane and it is breaking my heart because I love my partner so much š
I know you love your partner, but it's all the OCD doing this to you
@Speckles I am terrified it will win. The urges are insane and Iām crying in bed right now because it breaks my heart to think about š
@cam1724 @cam1724 I hate to see your in such pain, but try to remember this will pass. Darn OCD. I hate it!! I've been listening to music. I have a song now its called "I get knocked out but I get up again" chumbawumba I think. It helps... maybe you can find a song?
cam1724 checking
What kind of compulsions do you have? What triggers your thoughts? Keep putting yourself in situations that trigger you obsessive thoughts and then minimize the compulsions by not ruminating, answering questions etc.
@winterdream I honestly have no idea what my triggers are. They start as soon as I wake up, and all the way until I go to sleep. š my biggest compulsions are ruminating, reassurance seeking, checking feelings, and googling. I havenāt been googling as much, but Iāve been going into forums and comparing and reassurance seeking š
@cam1724 I would first limit how much youāre going into forums and reassurance and then work from there. I would also try not to fight the thoughts but let them be in the background while you do your thing. The voice gets quieter eventually :)
@winterdream Thank you so much for your advice ā„ļøš
@cam1724 I don't have ROCD, but can relate!!
@Speckles Iāve had harm and suicidal in the past too, those felt extremely real as well. This one has been the hardest for me though bc it just seems more real and justifiable š
@cam1724... it's not real...I know it doesn't feel that way. But it's all fake. I have HOCD
@Speckles I had harm ocd really bad years ago. It was absolutely terrible. Then it went to suicidal. Now itās all relationship. It makes me sick how our own brains can fight against us so much. I know itās not real, but it feels so real and I am so terrified it will win
Harm OCD... it sucks! It goes after people I care about too š«
@cam1724 it's not going to win! You aren't going to let it! Remember that...I hate how r brains do this too. It's not fair. You should watch Maria Bamford utube... she's a little crude, but she'll cheer u up!!
@Speckles Thank you so much for talking with me ā„ļø it has been so hard. I hope you find some peace soon too. I will look her up, thank you so much š„²
You are welcome! I hope I helped you a little. You can even get my text # if you want. This thing is a hell of a battle!!
@Speckles I would like that! Itās been hell to deal with. Feel free to message me if (:
I guess I can do that thru here? I'm pretty new to this site
@Speckles I actually have no idea how to privately message through here. Do you have Facebook or Instagram?
@cam1724 yes FB you could friend me on there. It's CM Subers
@Speckles I think I sent you a request
@cam1724... I'll go look
@cam1724 that is your acct under bc so many people have requested me as a friend and I have no idea in hell who they are, so I ignore it
@Speckles Mine is under Clarissa Melendez
I found u It,but Darn... it's saying invalid request and won't let me for some reason. WTH! I tried it a few times
@Speckles Hm thatās weird. What is your profile picture on Facebook? Iāll look for you again
I'll try again
@cam1724..... did u retrieve it back?
@Speckles I havenāt gotten anything
@cam1724 try it again and get back to me bc now the whole request is gone! Errrr
@Speckles Whatās your profile picture so I know Iām sending the request to the right person?
@cam1724 cam1724 it won't let me copy it and I'm not tech savvy.
How many CM Subers are out there?
@Speckles I just sent it again
Ok... checking
I am in a relatively new relationship (around 2 months) and it has been completely virtual due to varying circumstances. I have never been in a serious relationship before and my past āexesā have never been this serious or brought up any of these feelings. About a month in I started having tons of symptoms and thoughts I figured were due to an SSRI change (i eventually went back to my original med/dose) however, it has remained quite bad since. Thoughts include: -I donāt actually like my partner, I just like the feeling of being wanted -I have crushes on other people, including my partners friends who I barely know -I donāt feel butterflies so I must be losing feelings for him -I think heās ugly/im just not attracted to him -Iām secretly a lesbian and Iām wasting his time by being with him -a general feeling of dread, wrongness, or needing out of the relationship -not being able to believe him when he reassures me about everything -all of the above is just my genuine feelings and Iām using ocd as an excuse These are obviously crazy things to think, however one of my biggest compulsions is confession and self sabotage so I have told my partner all of these things in detail. Heās really great and patient about all of it but I can tell it weighs on him. Hes even recently expressed feeling like itās his fault and that he wonders if it wouldnāt be this bad if I was with someone else. I feel so miserable but i feel like Iād be miserable in any relationship but im scared thatās not the truth and my ocd isnāt real. When itās good i feel the most romantic love for him Iāve ever felt toward anyone ever. Heās an incredible person but I just feel so alone and lost on what to do. Iāve literally tried to break up with him like five times and each time weāve ended up wanting to stay together. Iām really really scared Iāll never get better or this is simply the wrong relationship for me.
for me itās getting to the point where i donāt feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. iām trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. itās like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i canāt catch a break. itās like i want to be with him so bad but my brain wonāt allow me. any advice?
Hi - Iāve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We havenāt spoken since. Thereās a lot of outward details to this but Iāll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didnāt give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and Iām still so confused. Heās never been in a relationship as serious as this before. Iām incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because thatās when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and itās churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because itās too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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