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Has anyone ever experienced wanting to be exactly like someone? Even a crush?
Has anyone ever experienced wanting to be exactly like someone? Even a crush?
Since when are you experiencing this?
@Grm2 Maybe like a year
@Jrizkala05 So it came with you ocd?
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@Grm2 Well I’ve had ocd since way before this
@Grm2 It’s okk lol
@Jrizkala05 Yeah i've suffered from ocd for some time but it hit my harder on pandemia and since then I've felt what you've described here, sometimes it feels like I want to be others including crushes but I've also thought that maybe it's iat admiration or I don't know but it didn't happen before
@Grm2 Yeah, it’s so heartbreaking because I want to be happy as who I’ve always known myself to be. I think also OCD can also make you feel very lost and confused in your identity to the point where you can’t distinguish your likes and dislikes. I also feel like it may be perfectionism because I literally see my crush as perfect and anything other than him isn’t including myself.
@Grm2 I’ve also been dealing with a lot of TOCD themes mixed with thoughts and feelings of no longer wanting to be a girl. I don’t want to feel that way but I just do. It’s so scary cause it doesn’t at all align with who I used to be; I used to be super girly but now, the stuff that used to make me happy just doesn’t. Every time I do something girly, I feel cringy afterwards and feel that the only way to be seen as a person with depth is to be a guy. I don’t want to feel like this or think like this but I can’t stop.
@Jrizkala05 How long you've been dealing with tocd??
@Grm2 Exactly one year
@Jrizkala05 I relate to all what you've said but I've come to terms that it isn't real I've been always comfortable being a man and I really enjoyed it but since hocd it then transformed into rocd and at the end tocd, it's the first time I read someone sharing what they feel while being in this kind of ocd because everyone says " I have tocd" but no one ever says what it feels like, I had to assume I was in it because previously I never felt this way but you're not alone don't give up. What I have analyzed is that sometimes tocd comes from trying to fit into what a man has to be or a woman according to what's expected from us and that makes us spiral into it,, for example in my case I can only be a man if I have lots of women, if I'm strong and big, I can't be sensible and so on because if I'm different from that stereotype I can't be a man at all so what I've been doing lately is redefining my masculinity to detach from that sick stereotype of what a man is and I've been feeling better, we have to reconnect to our true true self.
@Jrizkala05 And btw thanks a lot for sharing how you're experiencing tocd it takes a lot of courage to do it and now I don't feel so weird because I thought I was the only one feeling like this
@Grm2 I’m so happy that we’re not alone in this. I totally get it, people say they have it but don’t explain what exactly they’re experiencing. Im happy I could help you and thank you for sharing your experience
@Grm2 I’m so happy to talk about it and have someone actually get me.
@Jrizkala05 Np feel free to contact me whenever you need it, wish you recovery and happiness 😁
@Grm2 Thank you 😊
Yes.. have felt that
i recently about six days ago ? started talking with someone with the intention of being friends and we’d talk a couple of times a day every for the past six days. But i immediately grew incredibly attached and obsessed with them i have no idea why it’s been driving me crayz. it didn’t help when they teased (?) me i guess and said if my compliments or well praise to soemthing they had done was flirting. it hasn’t left my mind at all. i don’t know what to do or why i’m feeling like this. and the worst part is i can’t say anything to them because i’ll just look weird i bet. i can’t help it i think about them so much and i check their stuff a lot and my lockscreen so much to see if they’ve texted me… is there any way to help with this ? it’s been really draining and causing me to overthink really badly.
Okay, just wanna start by saying that I don’t have ROCD. I have perfectionism OCD, and I get intrusive thoughts that no one will like me, I’ll lose all my friends, I’ll be alone for life, etc. if I don’t have things “just right.” I feel like every time I like someone, my OCD just gets worse cause if I don’t perform compulsions, I feel like I have no chance with him. Your handwriting wasn’t smooth? Guess your love life won’t be either. The volume of your phone was too low? Guess your chances with him are too. Failed to draw your graph perfectly symmetrical? Guess what else you’ll fail at. It’s honestly exhausting, and that it isn’t even it. I feel like I tend to fixate on my crushes also. I wanna be 100% sure they’re a good fit before making a move, and that’s really problematic cause there’s just no way to know. And even if I deem that they’re a good guy, I STILL won’t do anything cause I always expect the worst! What if the first impression that I make is so bad that he wants nothing to do with me? I put so much pressure on myself to get him to like me back that I’m terrified to make a move. I’m so focused on the prospect of a second convo that I don’t even want to have the first convo! Like rn, there’s this dude that caught my eye. He’s a senior in high school, while I’m a junior. I’m taking AP bio, and he’s taking AP chem—both are 1.5 periods, so I see him in the cafe and during the passing period (we leave the cafe halfway through the lunch period). I purposely plant myself next to him in the halls during the passing period but haven’t worked up the courage to talk to him. He’s single, I don’t have any classes with him this year, he’ll be at college next year, we follow each other on instagram, and my friends have told me that he’s nice (and keeps to himself), so there’s minimal risk in trying to talk to him. Thing is though, every time I think about introducing myself, I just imagine all the ways that it can go wrong. What if he hates me? What if my first impression is actually good and we become friends, but he doesn’t like me back? What if I tell him I like him over messages, and he screenshots my text and posts it on his instagram story? I don’t know what to do. I know that high school is kinda early and that I still have time to figure things out. I’m just worried that I still won’t have things figured out when I need to. Any advice or personal experience would be welcome and greatly appreciated!
Heyy so has anybody ever experience in rocd like ur scared that what if u liked somebody else or had a crush on somebody else even tho u never had no romantic or sexual feelings for anybody else only ur bf but u still question urself?
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