- Username
- annaaa
- Date posted
- 5y ago
Omg! I used to have this with my ex!!!! You’re not alone... I think OCD can take a genuine subconscious suspicion and turn it into a full on ritualistic obsession. Perhaps your skepticism is warranted, but the compulsions around it aren’t, you know? I suggest having a candid conversation about your feelings with him. For example, “I fear that you’re interested in other girls and it’s causing me anxiety. Do I have reason to feel that way?” I also suggest that you stop doing the checking. It’s a form of seeking reassurance, and it won’t help mitigate the issue. Good luck :)
Wow... idk if this is a “sign” that you replied to my question but your username is the same name as my dog who passed away last month. Although sad, I actually smiled. Thank you for your advice. We have talked about it and he’s somewhat understanding to the best he can... but it’s honestly SO difficult to resist/ignore the compulsions. Especially when I text him, and he doesn’t reply ... I’m always waiting and checking and waiting and checking to see when the response comes through. And if he doesn’t reply then I go and incessantly check social media !! It’s so consuming
I’m so sorry to hear about your dog ? I’m glad I could make you smile, though :) I’m glad I could pay some unknowing homage. So of course it’s hard to resist checking his accounts and stuff. Any compulsion is hard to fight off. But maybe try limiting yourself first. Like “okay I can check his Instagram 3x a day” if he doesn’t respond to your text, but you’ve already checked 3x, you have to resist. It sounds super silly, but retraining our brains is kinda just part of OCD even with the little stuff. Do you think you could manage something like that? (Obviously doesn’t have to be my example)
I’ve tried so many things... 1. Putting my phone on “do not disturb” - so if any notification (not necessarily from him) comes in I’m not immediately grabbing my phone to see 2. Putting only HIM on silent / hide notifications 3. Completely deleting all my social media platforms for two months to entirely rid of any possible way to engage in compulsions and reassurance seeking It’s exhausting... almost like i know to engage in the compulsions is bad but I do it anyways over and over agin
Do you think that at the root of the issue there may be some anxiety about the relationship in general?
Definitely a lack of trust that exacerbated the ocd... and we’re really working on building that trust back ... but I’m more so just trying to find a way to resist/stop worrying about what he’s up to in order to not consume my day!!!
Have you explained the OCD part of your relationship anxiety? Like have you told him about the compulsions?
Yah briefly, and told him the reason I went on a social media hiatus months ago was BECAUSE of my compulsions
i am going through the same thing.... i’m a lesbian and my girlfriend is pansexual, so sometimes (most of the time) i am so scared she’s going to cheat on me with a guy, or another girl, or whatever’s in-between. i don’t have social media (besides this, but i’m not sure i count it as such as no one knows me and i like it that way) but she has twitter and i’m constantly checking on it! i get so upset sometimes when i see her interacting with others.
I’ve been diagnosed with OCD but I don’t have these intrusive thoughts like everyone else...so I’m convincing myself I don’t really have OCD I struggle I guess with rOCD (and more)...I guess I always check to see if a person texted me back. I blow up the persons phone until they respond. I use to have it really bad where I had so much anxiety if I didn’t do it and so much anxiety if I did. When guys leave me....I freak out and have damn near a heart attack from panicking so much. And once I get this thought in my head whether it’s “you should’ve said this” or “he probably lied to you when he said this” or whatever there’s this feeling in my body. It’s like an uncomfortable negative vibe and that thought becomes priority. I have to do it. I have to text them and it’s hard to think of anything else. And when I do it doesn’t stop so i shouldn’t give in but sometimes I do. And if I get over that thought later another might replace it and it starts again. Anybody else feel this way...?
Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!
So I've always had an issue about my partners watching porn. I've always felt super uncomfortable with it and just now realized that maybe it has to do with rocd... but then I fight myself on it because I feel like maybe it's just something that I strongly believe in. My current boyfriend thinks I'm crazy for not letting him watch porn. I then caught him watching porn once after he said he wouldn't and I freaked out. I felt really insecure. He said that he would stop doing it but I obsess over it and I check his phone when he's not looking. I also obsess over if he is talking to other girls. And then when I don't find anything, i tell myself that he has just gotten better at hiding stuff.
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