I'm sad about life things. I don't really have friends, but does that even really matter? And I don't feel like I've ever truly been heard by anyone, not even those with OCD. I know that people won't understand my struggles, but I still want someone to talk to about them, but every time I try to I always end up feeling unheard and hurt.
Hii. A lot of people doesn't have friends. Especially adults. Don't be ashamed or sad. Love youself. Catch hobbies, do exercise. Live your life as well as possible. Hugs š«
Yeah but a lot of adults also still have people who understand. And or a partner/spouse
@Anonymous This feeling will make you anxious. Just stop and think well. You have nocd, internet and more. You can search online about you problems. You can search a good therapist. You can talk with people with the same problem as you. A lot of people from the past never had this possibility. They passed away thinking they're bad. You're amazing. You deserve love!!! Having friends or not, you have your unique identity!
@Lizzie Scheavi 1) I can't find anything helpful on the internet about my specific issue 2) I can't talk to anyone who has had my issue or has had it to the extent I have it, and I have searched for people like me in this way with no luck but finding people who don't understand how I feel 3) My unique identity doesn't make me special/needed. There are trillions of unique identities that never existed, and if I never existed, nobody would know -- this isn't exactly "It's a Wonderful Life"
@Anonymous not all i donāt but still trying my best. so can you! at some point will be good just keep believing
i'm so so sorry to hear this is something you are going though:( it sounds really tricky but you are not alone in this fight <3 there is a discord server that's designed for ocd support! i've been apart of it for about 4 months now & absolutely love the community. here's the link if you are interested in joining:) sending love & support your way! stay strong my friend! https://discord.gg/mQxyBmGwhU
I dunno. With how little people understand what I'm struggling with...
Yes u r not alone! Good friends r rly hard to come by but maybe worth trying to get to know people. Were all so messed up so dont worry abt ur ocd getting in the way of making friends
Sure. But even if I found friends, they wouldn't understand or be able to help me with my issue, and life wouldn't change fundamentally
Friends can support that you arenāt feeling well, but they donāt need to know exactly what is wrong with you. Like for me, I just let people know so much. Iād be too embarrassed to tell them my problems. I have not yet found someone with my exact problem either. I pray there isnt anyone who can identify. Be humans are Sooooo complex, there are millions of types OCD types. I try to tell my husband and he gives me a blank stare, but he says āIām sorry. Let me know what I can doā or many times he already knows to just leave me be. Everyday, I need alone time, I have to ground myself. I too, wish I could talk with someone who can relate, but it just isnāt possible yet. But, we all can relate that we are a work in progress and trying to do our best everyday. Troopers we are. As for friends, it takes effort on your part as well. If you donāt go places and join in, then itās hard to make friends. But I can relate to you. I hear you big time. ā¤ļø
Thanks. I think this helps. I always tell people about my issues -- what I'm hoping for, I'm not sure -- and they always try to disprove my worries, even though they can't and oftentimes agree with my fears just not to my face. The more I try to confide, the more alone I feel. I don't even know what to do, or what's really wrong, or if it's a problem with others not being able to just listen or if it's my fault...
Like rn, I sort of want to confide because you seem to get a bit more of the things that I could be going through, but you wouldn't understand, and you might say something hurtful without thinking... It seems like people just want to fix the issue, and aren't willing to just "be there". At least that's how it seems. Idk...
It seems that everyone I could make friends with and confide in would always react the same way, even if at first they seem to really understand. In some ways, they're bound to let me down, right? Feel free to not answer this directly, but I was just wondering what you'd say if I said I was a Christian who thought that it seemed clear that God and Jesus have a special place in their heart for Jewish people compared to Gentiles and that I was sad about that.
I'm sorry. I probably shouldn't have asked like that.
I donāt really have many friends and I feel like everyone I know hates me and idk if itās part of my ocd or just other anxiety or depression but it makes me very sad :(
Unrelated to OCD, I just want to go off for a couple of sentences: I have no friends or any memories to look back on. Never been on a date or had someone who cared about me. Iām tired of being alone, itās one of the reasons that I have so many mental health issues. I have always had no friends. Never been out or anything. Iām tired of this loneliness and Iām almost 20, I canāt make anymore friends because itās not the same when youāre an adult. Thatās all.
Iām fairly new to treating my OCD and have felt crazy for most of my life. It didnāt help that no one in my life truly understood OCD and always said I was being dramatic. I very recently (within the past few months) finally got diagnosed with OCD and my whole life started to make sense. However, I recently opened up to someone I really believed I trusted about the intrusive thoughts I have and now feel worse than I ever have before. They essentially called me a psychopath and said they are worried for the people around me. Even though I would and could never hurt anyone. Iāve never felt more alone and broken in my life. I already try very hard to hide my OCD and everything associated with it because no one in my life understands so itās been easier to deal with it myself than listen to everyone say whatever they have to say about my situation. After what happened today Iām even more inclined to just keep it to myself. I donāt know what Iām expecting from writing this but I figure this is the best place to write what Iām feeling. Going through OCD is hard enough on itās own. But when people are telling you they think youāre a danger to society and are crazy because of your intrusive thoughts it really hurts. Iām just tired.
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