NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

Any Ideas…?

I’m running this by this ND community because Google is useless. I feel threatened all the time and feeling threatened is making me constantly irritable. Am I overdoing it? I may be tbf. I meditate nightly and I’m on permanent vacation but I do a lot of studying and I’m trying to expand a business. I need a way to wind down that isn’t drugs. I’ve been clean for 8 years and my instincts tell me to use drugs to unwind but the whole idea gives me a panic attack and I often get defensive if I feel threatened like this and lose my temper.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

The using drugs to unwind may be a compulsion so is not risk that. How do you feel threatened? Can you give an example because I think I know what's going on

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid I am scared of everyone. I’m afraid I will offend them and they will tell me off. I’m usually so confident. And drug users or dealers especially will make me act out. Then I get scared of repercussions. I’m in Asia at the end of the day and I’m on my own. I don’t know who these people are or who their friends might be. I’ve been travelling today and it is especially bad. Constant compulsive research into my business and constant efforts to make it expand are wearing me out. I’m lucky that in this hotel I can hear their rooftop bar’s music from my room because I was getting anxieties about disturbing my neighbours and music is my number one way out of anxiety.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@NotSoNewb82 I mean the concerns are valid but why dou you feel you'll offend them or they'll tell you off? That's not necessarily in your control. Stoicism was something that helped me with that. There are plenty of people who obsessively research business ideas to get where they want in life, it's just learning to switch off and moderate yourself once and a while. Other than music, do you do anything else to unwind? Also curious as to what your business is about ngl

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid I’m a landlord with one property but I have no mortgage. I have been heavily researching how to make that into multiple properties with mortgages and trying to make it happen. I landed in Kathmandu yesterday and there are a million things to do and see. I went up a million steps to the Monkey Temple today. It seemed like a million. And I saw a similarly exaggerated million monkeys haha. I’m going to walk to The Buddha Stupa tomorrow and figure out the rest of my week as I go. I caught a bicycle rickshaw today but walked back and I’ll walk from now on. The rickshaws have a big mark up and I love to walk.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@NotSoNewb82 That sounds awesome. I actually want to own multiple properties myself and Airbnb the heck out of them. Self sufficient income, and a holiday home if I want a break. If you have any tips on how to do that I'd love to hear them. No pressure or anything though as I won't be able to start this for a few years.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid Where are you? I’m British and I looked at YouTube, podcasts and audiobooks mostly but not sensationalised clickbaity stuff. Teach yourself how to invest and make that a part of your strategy if you can. I can recommend Pensioncraft for investment education, he covers US and UK and he does also cover property sometimes.

Wolfram

Date posted: 1y

@NotSoNewb82 I'm in England. Any sources for help would be amazing

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid They say to avoid gurus, courses that cost 1,000s and anything that is get rich quick. I think the scenario is that you can get very rich from property but the bulk of your profit will come from capital appreciation (the value of your property increasing) and the rent is just pocket money. I intend to invest in Manchester to begin with and diversify to Liverpool in case something happens to the property market in Manchester for sone reason. Then I intend to buy a global index fund to diversify out of property in case that market fails in general.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid Property Hub on YouTube and their podcast is gold. Moving home with Charlie and Honest Money are fact based and show you the data but tbh I think their opinion is wrong. Damien Talks Money, Nischa. Niche will give info on mortgages.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid I myself am waiting for a buoyant market so like you a couple of years maybe, maybe sooner.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid Look after your self care too as putting properties onto an unpredictable market will send your OCD crazy.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid Speak to a mortgage broker too when you are ready. They are the last word in your situation really.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@Invalid Bottom line is I don’t know. Your situation will be unique to you but these are good sources of information to help you make your own mind up.

ElleIsForLovely

Date posted: 1y

Do you like tea? A bubble bath?

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@ElleIsForLovely I ate meat for the first time since July and I’m not so wound up now. Btw keema buffalo noodles… mm mm mmm.

NotSoNewb82

Date posted: 1y

@ElleIsForLovely I’m usually in India which is a tea drinking kind of place with fantastic masala chai. I’m in Kathmandu this week.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

I have had panic attacks. I feel threatened all the time and irritable. I pray often for God's healing.I know people that have taken drugs and ruined there life. Please don't do the same thing. God knows our struggles and will heal us in His timing.

Will86

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Congrats on 8 years sober. Stress is a mean bitch and she makes us bite. I am not sure about how to help you to relax because relaxation is so personal. Like some ppl like the beach. I hate it, it causes me more stress. I like to read a book however my roommate is a TV watcher. You'll have to find your way and not expect one session to work. I seen you mediate which is good but maybe look at your schedule? Make sure to set aside time regularly for yourself? Studying and expanding a business can be a full time/ot gig. I can't remember the woman's name but she speaks about living with adhd. I don't have it or know if you do but she speaks on personalized unwinding for neurodivergent people. Look something like that up? Gluck

Andi 🤓☝️

Date posted: 17w

Anxious

I'm at my college and don't feel like being here. I didn't even want to come here. I woke up with anxiety bc i feel like i need to solve this. I had a bad stomach ache when i arrived to school and still havent even eaten breakfast yet bc i feel like i have to solve this. Im just so worried bc i have harm thoughts daily. If i could i would remove this! I dont want to think anymore. Its just, how do I know i dont have real urges when I'm feeling a negative emotion like anger or disappointment or annoyance? Im worried EVERY time i feel a negative emotion. Yesterday I was playing video games with my neice (we are close in age range) and she made us lose. She started blaming me and I guess i felt a little annoyed, it really wasnt my fault (dumb mini argument it was more playful since we started laughing but it was a bit annoying). Anyway i got a harm thought while feeling annoyed of me getting off the couch and lunging at her to attack. I immediately look at my bodily reaction and I tense up to stay as still as possible. My stomach was hurting and i wanted to leave as fast as possible. I stood up and turned off the game and said i was tired while making sure to stay back from her (and i had my hands away and stiff) but i felt so uneasy. I laid I bed and felt sad and heavy. And i kept getting thoughts that said "íts only a matter of time before you can't take it anymore". I started to reassurance seek using ai to ask if i was about to or if they are real urges or thoughts i mean until i eventually fell asleep in the middle of the compulsion. Im just so worried, what if I act out impulsevly one day? I dont want to! But what if when feeling a negative emotion, i suddenly dont care and do something? I really dont want to! I dont even want to feel negative emotions anymore since they trigger the thoughts and I dont want to think about any of that. As a result i tend to avoid my family as much as possible bc they are annoying sometimes. I just wish i was all alone sometimes so i wont get any more thoughts and so everyone can be safe. I usually just stay in bed under my blankets all day long to avoid my family and pets. I am constantly uncomfortable. I miss when i would never think any of this. Living life has become very scary for me now. 😞

blehh

Date posted: 12w

PLEASE help

im getting so annoyed i cant stop thinking about time and death and everything how do i stay present and cope literally almost everything is triggering me its been weeks it feels like everything is moving so slow yet so fast and i can feel every second and i keep getting random memories of things i usually wouldn’t even remember they aren’t bad but its just another reminder of time passing and the only thing that helped just enough is xanax but i cant keep taking it every day cause i dont wanna get addicted i need like natures xanax or something how do i produce the same effect a xan gives without taking one for the love of god bro as soon as i think its getting better i start spiraling an hour later and wont be able to stop and its making me feel like i need to go to a psych hospital or something but then i feel like what if im not bad enough to go to one

EzDi123!

Date posted: 12w

Releasing mental tension

I’ve been feeling a little bit better these past few days but today it’s been very stressful for me having a lot of hard thoughts and unable to release tension mentally giving me a headache and feelings of panic. Having a hard time connecting with reality. Any ideas or suggestions on how to grab myself and release tension?

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