So hey guys I’m like 16 and I had my first sexual encounter with my boyfriend three days ago I was a virgin but I really love him so I let him take my virginity while we was doing the deed he came in me with my consent but now I’m scared I’m pregnant but now we just had this big fight and I now feel dirty for letting him touch me because he might leave me I hate feeling this way I really loved him that’s why I let him take my virginity.
I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I know how painful that can be ❤️ depending on when it happened you may still be able to get a morning after pill . Also for most women there is a 5-7 day period in the middle of the month when you’re most fertile . If it’s outside of this time you should be in the clear . If you use a period tracker it will tell you when that it is . If your consistent with tracking then the more accurate it will be and then you will be able to identify even without it when your fertile as you get to know your body. I am 29 years old when I was a teen I lost my virginity to a boy as well I felt I loved and later on did the same thing and what I have learned in those experiences and from people around me is that unless a guy is truly committed and not just infatuated with a girl they normally leave and lose interest after sex . Sorry I know how bad that sucks . If you able to get morning after pill that would be your best bet but typically needs to be take in within 48 hours after to really work.
Going foward if you’re able to identify the difference between infatuation and love this will help you prevent this again from feeling heart broken because this effects us differently then it does guys :( really sorry Hope this is helpful. If it gives you any hope once I learned this difference between love and infatuation I was able to find my husband at 17 and we got married at 19 and been together almost 10 years. Also fights happen in any relationship. Protect yourself and if he is being weird and you feel him pull away. Then don’t call, don’t beg this will be the hardest thing ever to do and most of us don’t do it successfully lol 😂 but that will be the way to get him to commit again is to not chase after him if he suddenly acts like he loses interest after sex .
@Lisbett Okay thank you so much for this he probably think I cheated on him because I didn’t respond in two hours because he has trust issues but that still doesn’t give him an excuse to treat me like that your advice was so helpful and I’m definitely not begging to get back with him if he wants to act like a jerk he can
@Unique121 take this from someone who has experienced this, break up with him first. He may have trust issues but this is manipulative behaviour
@lanacocd Thank you for saying this he tried to come back but I ended things with him 🥰
Tw* abuse / coercion I recently broke up with an ex we were on and off five years. I woke up this morning with disturbing memories of things that he did. Previous of my ex I dated a guy in 9th grade who took advantage of me he asked me to perform an ( oral act) I didn’t know how to do. I agreed and he was rough with me eventually I told him to stop multiple times and eventually I was able to break myself free from him. Now my ex of 5 years we made out a lot but we hadn’t made it to a certain part. In public he would always groupe me and when we would go back to his car to make out ( I was 14 he was 17). As teenagers I didn’t have a problem about the making out we were both horny teens but my issue was this one night. I remember the exact date we made out but he was more aggressive then he usually was and he wanted to take things further I told him no I’m not ready for that. Every time I said no he would make out with me more aggressively to change my mind and at some point we both ended up in our underwear. He then kept begging me to basically ( continue with the rest of it ) I told him no multiple times until I eventually gave in and said yes because he wouldn’t budge to me saying no and every time I did he would make out with me more aggressively. Once I said yes the rest was history. I remember that night I layed in bed crying and my skin felt disgusting like I wanted to rip it off. I slept there with no blanket without changing my clothes because I felt shame. Now that I left him finally I still get disturbing memories of that night and the other times after that he would beg me to do acts and if I kept saying no he would grab me aggressively or groupe me aggressively. I have never told anyone in my life this story because idk how they would react to this. I feel like I was sexually coerced and abused and he will do it with another girl. And I blame myself for thinking he would ever change. Prior to me breaking up with him we would make out but even when I told him no he would start kissing me aggressively until I gave in and when I denied it all together he would act like a baby. I hold myself accountable for us making out but sometimes I didn’t want to and he would ignore that. Other times he would groupe me in public and make out with me then beg for head. Sometimes I wish I had someone to guide me and teach me about people like this because I am an older sister of sisters. I have a father that I am not close with and he’s narcissistic like my ex. I just hate the memories because they literally come at any part of the day. I feel like some of the things he did to me I forgot some of them and that’s why they come back.
Hi I was on here a few days ago talking about how I have POCD because of CSA & how I couldn’t trust my bf. I ended up telling him about this while we were out in nature one day, a pretty secluded area but there were still children visible in the area. We changed by holding a towel up around each other. That was a bit too much for me but I needed to change. He had to urinate and he went behind a tree but I told him just to go in the water because if anyone catches any glimpse of him on accident, it’s illegal and just wrong especially because there were kids across the river. I ended up confronting him about my OCD fears, which was causing me to distrust him (I don’t even trust my own brothers). This man was my first everything, I loved him so much I wanted to trust him so badly. He ended up being offended after I shared my fears. He was offended that I would ever think of him as someone who would hurt kids (like my dad did to me 💔. and yes, he knew what happened to me as a child before alllll of this happened so I though he would understand). He was so offended he told me it was time to go home. He changed in f*cking public. IN PUBLIC AFTER I TOLD HIM THAT CHILDREN MIGHT SEE. We drove 1hr+ back home in silence. It didn’t even process in my mind fully, after this happened I was texting him how much I loved him and didn’t want to break up. But as I started to think about that moment I just feel sick in my stomach. I hate myself I hate my l-fe I genuinely don’t want to b3 h3r3. I’m probably gonna get rid of myself. I can’t do this anymore. I can’t even be in love in peace. I can’t nothing is normal in my life nobody is normal I can’t do this anymore
Huge tw I’m so scared I’m a r*pist people have told me I am. I wanted to lose my virginity when I was 19 I felt embarrassed and ashamed I hadn’t. I decided to get drunk and find someone in a club to lose it to. I don’t remember much other than I was happy it was finally happening and remember thinking my plan had worked. I was told by friends that the other person was drunk and possibly on drugs. I must be a r*pist as I knew what I was doing and instigated it, I took advantage and used someone. I feel sick and don’t deserve to move on I can’t even apologies as it was a complete stranger what if they’re living with trauma because of me.
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