I have severe OCD. My ten year old has it. Please, how do I determine if he is having TOCD/HOCD of if he is experiencing dysphoria ? We are extremely conservative and Christian and I am struggling to determine if this is OCD or not for him. It makes it harder since I have OCD myself and it’s become a new theme for me.
you can't take that decision yourself, you're too biased! The best option would be scheduling a call for him with a psychologist who specialises in OCD
1. Don’t ask here, u will just have people telling you “iTs oKaY To Be Gay” because they don’t know what HOCD or TOCD is and they for some weird reason feel discriminated against, u need to speak to an OCD specialist who has dealt with cases like this before, ur just gnna get more anxiety posting here
@Anonymous You’re probably right. My own ocd is making this very difficult for me. We do not have any pediatric psychologist near or ocd specialist :(
@dimples4christ1 I feel you, this shit sucks. Hell on earth, if I find some therapists with good rep thru google I’ll defo link them here for you
It depends on his own thoughts on it. If he is terrified of it, then it’s worth taking him to a specialist in sexuality OCD, but if he is accepting towards himself and is only afraid of how others will react, it is definitely not OCD.
@LikeAnOnion He is only 10. He doesn’t know what is him and what is his OCD. These thoughts and random comments only come up when he is having a very obvious OCD flare that includes other obsessions that are unrelated to sexuality which is why I think it could be tied to his OCD. He doesn’t even know about sex or anything like that. He is flaring bad, vocal tics, etc. These comments and concerns don’t come up when he isn’t flaring.
@LikeAnOnion Bullshit reply by the way, because someone with HOCD will read this and get convinced “wait I’m only scared because of how people will react so that must mean it’s true!”. “It’s definitely not OCD” yeh like you would know lol, mr therapist over here, it’s DEFINITELY not the “LGBTQ” in ur bio which is making u make this comment and form ur own judgement 😂
@dimples4christ1 Then it sounds like it is OCD. Should bring it up with a specialist
@Anonymous You are misunderstanding me. There’s no need to be rude. I have struggled with this personally too (without it being true) but that’s not important here. I’m sorry I worded myself clumsily, I’m autistic so that happens. I only meant that if it is clearly ego-dystonic, it’s OCD, and if he accepts himself and identifies as gay, in a way which makes it not ego-dystonic, it is not. Any grey areas should be discussed in therapy with a professional, as I said. Sorry I triggered you, but there’s no need to bring my sexuality into it, I know I didn’t. The cure for HOCD isn’t homophobia either..
@LikeAnOnion Well, he is only 10. He doesn’t really understand anything and is very sheltered and we are very conservative . He only knows that we personally do not support LGBTQ, but he is aware of what it is. I never pass judgment or claim to know other’s status with God, just that we believe God doesn’t make mistakes when he created us. He has never in his life indicated he could be experiencing dysphoria and these comments and odd questions only come up when he is clearly experiencing an OCD flair, with physical tics and all. That is why I am trying to decipher it all.
@dimples4christ1 I am thinking they could be intrusive but I’m not seeing anxiety or physical duress, but he is confused and doesn’t want the stuff there he says. He is uncertain I guess.
@LikeAnOnion Yeh I understand, my bad aswell, it’s just because I know how it feels for the person who posted this to read that initial comment and have a panic attack or something because of it
@Anonymous Yeah, I know that feeling as well
Please contact NOCD and ask for a free consultation.
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My son has Pure O religious/scrupulosity with GAD and Bipolar. My son was diagnosed with Pure O religious OCD two years ago. He has to complete a task so that God doesn’t send him to hell if he doesn’t do it. These tasks are dangerous like doing multiple back flips on concrete, or jumping off balconies three times, doing MMA slams on his back three times. The thoughts are telling him if he doesn’t do this he will go to hell. Or he is so worried about blaspheming the holy spirt and loose his salvation. He knows this is his OCD. He knows the scripture and that God is one of peace and love. Been there and done that on quoting scripture and reminding him he is saved. I can see the torture he is going through and it is painful to watch. He also needs to be stuck next to me at all times cuz it makes him feel safe. This is impeding on my life as I feel I have a toddler again, he is 24 and a former 4 star football player. He wants this to stop, he is in therapy and working on it. He was free from these thoughts from November 2023 till April 2025. He is dealing with narcissistic trauma with his father and this triggers the OCD. My question is what can I do to support and help him through these episodes and not agitate him and to help him heal?
My husband and I have 3 kids.. ages 13, 7 & 1. Our 13 year old has always been somewhat “different”, even as a toddler. He was very quiet and socially awkward. Not much has changed in that department. He isn’t into sports and has a very hard time finding anything at all that interests him. He doesn’t have many friends as he is still awkward and has a hard time fitting in. He has OCD. Specifically moral OCD. He feels like he has to confess everything to me that he feels isn’t appropriate. Curse words he hears on tv, something off-color that he or his friends said at school, anything sexual he hears on tv or in a joke. He laughingly tells me but he is reading my face to gauge my reaction on the subject every time. We tell him constantly that he doesn’t have to confess to us but, of course, those who know much about OCD know that this is harder than just simply telling them they don’t have to give into their compulsions. He is very anxious and worries about everything. He also has inattentive ADHD so he’s currently on medicine for that but can’t tell if it’s actually helping anything or not. He’s on anxiety meds too that we are trying to assess. Honestly, we have also wondered if he may be on the spectrum but high-functioning. Not sure. We are very worried about his future. He is not maturing and doesn’t care to learn how to better himself since he’s getting older. Anyway, now that I’ve given a little background, my reason for posting is that I wonder if we have created all of this. First of all.. I am a hovering mom. Im very overprotective and have a hard time letting my kids do much because I’m anxious myself. I grew up with a yelling mom and stepdad. Sadly, I have resorted to this trauma behavior much of my son’s life as well. I try my hardest not to lose my temper and yell but, I am very ashamed to say, that I haven’t been able to do a very good job with that. I have been overly critical also. Learned behavior. I will add that we are also a religious family that goes to church and follows the Bible. My husband was raised differently. His parents are very mild mannered and calm. Very sweet with my husband and his sister growing up and they aren’t “yellers”. They live out in the country and are very lax about many rules when my children go out there. Not that they let them do whatever they want but at the same time… they do seem to have a hard time saying no. My sister in law and her family live across the street from my in laws so they’re all out in the country together living their peaceful, carefree life. 🙄 They seem to think that my husband and I have brought all of this on ourselves with how we have so many rules and boundaries. They’re of the mindset that we should be exposing him to movies with curse words and letting him hear innnapropriate things and curse words more. This is how they parent their 10 year old (who is homeschooled so.. in my opinion they don’t have to worry so much about him repeating the curse words at school. We are at a Christian, private school where I also teach so it’s a bigger deal making sure my kids don’t hear those things and repeat). Anyway.. first and foremost, I’m looking for advice on how to reverse the damage from me losing my temper these last 13 years. I swear I am trying my hardest and strive everyday to be a good mom. I want so badly for them to WANT to keep a close relationship with us when they become adults living on their own. But I am so scared I’m ruining them. Does it seem to be the case? Also, do you think we have caused this OCD? Be honest with everything please. I am constantly very worried we are doing this wrong.
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