i recently got a new job and i am so happy with it! after my first day i got this horrible wave of anxiety and panic. i don’t know why this happened. i haven’t had this much anxiety in a very very long time. can a change in your routine trigger your anxiety?
Sooo, I actually really relate to this post bc I started a job back in September and I swear, my perfectionism is slowing me down sooo much…😬 I’m usually in a retail type environment but the one I’m in now is a small company where I mainly am doing repetitive work for my entire shift… I’ve never done this type of work before and I’m not sure if it’s good for me or not 😅 I LOVE what I do but the perfectionism is literally driving me bonkers 🥵
@black_sunrise im literally the same!! my previous job i had done for five years. even though i would get so mad at certain things my supervisors would do, i was very comfortable there and had the same routine everyday for the past five years. now im doing something COMPLETELY different! it’s a great job and basically perfect! i just feel like out of my comfort zone and just feel so weird. i cried when i came home. not from hating the job or anything. just the anxiety of doing something different from my everyday. ugh i just want this to go away
@cl2016 Gahhh I definitely feel out of my comfort zone, too! It’s extremely frustrating but at the same time, I think I like it??! 🫣😅😅😅 I had to change my schedule a month after I started because I had a mental breakdown and had to leave for the day… I was just so stressed out from a lot of things in my life that just exploded that day… thankfully I didn’t lost my job lol
@cl2016 I want this to go away, too! I just need a break from myself for one friggin day 😩 I cried too ☹️
@black_sunrise And I NEVER cry 🫤
@black_sunrise my worry is having a mental breakdown and being fired from missing so much work. how could i be anxious about something that could happen when it’s never happened before or has happened yet?! i hate my brain! 😓
@cl2016 YES! Exactly! I think I have probably told my boss five times by now how much I don’t want to lose my job… even though there’s literally no indication and/or reason for me to think that way! 😫😫😫
I'm experiencing the same thing and panicking about computer plugs in the new office since I fidget a lot with nerves and it makes no sense why I am fearful about messing up cords... with my feet... idk. I haven't felt a lot of anxiety at once since starting the job. I feel your discomfort. Just remember perfection doesn't exist.
Yes, for sure change and stress will trigger mental illnesses. But that doesn’t mean you need to stop doing The Thing anymore, especially a job you’re happy with and need to do for paying bills.
@Nica of course i won’t stop! anxiety isn’t going to win this time around! this wave of emotions and anxiety just honestly caught me off guard and i’m just trying to see if this is “normal” for people who struggle on a daily with anxiety/ocd/depression
@cl2016 Can’t stop, won’t stop 💪🏻 your brain will always act weird at random times, but ride that wave!
thank you guys so much for sharing your experiences. this makes me feel less lonely and less insane. if you guys ever need someone to talk to about this i’m here! i would love to keep sharing about our experiences with new job anxiety. stay king to yourselfs 🫶🏼
I’ve been really struggling the last week and I need some help. I’ve been seeing a guy for about 2 months who checks a lot of my relationship boxes. He’s so kind and we have a lot of fun together. The first few weeks I was totally smitten but had moments of fear about being committed. We talked about it and decided to take things slowly, and then I would have days of feeling like every thing was perfect with some fearful feelings in between. Two weeks ago now my SO-OCD and ROCD started to come back a little as well as my more anxious-avoidant behaviors. I started to get more scared of the future and it was more intense. At the end of last week, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He is exactly the type of person I see myself marrying and has great values and is so secure about me. Until last week, he generally made me feel so safe and secure. Ever since saying yes, I feel so scared and anxious and my SO-OCD and ROCD is on max. I also find myself getting more annoyed and irritated about things that were minor annoyances or non-issues before. I’m having intense physical responses to both OCD themes, and the nagging thought and feeling that I need to end things with him because we aren’t right for each other. It makes me feel so sad and guilty. Sex is becoming harder because of the thoughts too, whereas at first it was perfect. I don’t know who I can talk to about this without them telling me to just break up with him. Everything is so new so I think they’d chalk it up to my intuition. But I do want to be in love and have less fear around relationships, so I don’t want to give into the fear. I think it could help me to set boundaries and have space for myself more often. I think I need some advice or insight. I know I shouldn’t ask for reassurance, but having some around how other people have felt at the beginning of a relationship would help. Why is it that the label is freaking me out so much? How do you guys set boundaries to prioritize yourself when you feel this way?
Hi!! My names Calista R. Woodbury-Rabon. I recently got married in March of this year. And have been struggling with my severe anxiety disorder since I left my toxic 3 year relationship about a year ago. Over the past several months, I have noticed that I go through phases where: I have a full body “anxiety attack”. Or at least that’s what I call it. For example : when we went to cookout and they told us they were out of the chili for walking tacos. I had a full blown anxiety attack or at least what I thought was an anxiety attack and starting hyperventilating and crying. Therefore, the only solution (in my mind) was that I wouldn’t be able to calm down until I had the walking tacos. Another example : My husband bought me a pajama set that was only recently put out because it was a patriotic item which means that after the summer it’d be gone… I ended up picking up the wrong size. So that night when I went to put on the Pajamas and realized they were too small I started hyperventilating and crying. All because these $17 pajamas did not fit me and it was no fault of my own. Whenever this happens, I usually end up spiraling and crying and saying a lot at once very quickly. And I usually look crazy and don’t make a lot of sense. Usually after the spiraling is over with I’m very exhausted and usually will cry myself to sleep. My husband more often than not will say stuff like “it’s not that big of a deal you can get something else.” << when it has to do with food etc. OR “we can just buy another set of pjamas the next time I get paid.” << in relation to the pajamas in this instance. But honestly no matter what him or anyone else tells me in that moment. All that matters is that I can feel the anxiety in my bones. And I can’t breathe and in that moment my world as I know it has ended. I’ve tried taking online free “quizzes” to find out if I acctually have OCD and they’ve been negative. I also did some research and learned that you can have all the symptoms for a OCD “flare-up” but present no active case of OCD or symptoms. So I guess what I’m trying to find out is if I don’t have “OCD” than Is this out of body experience caused from my “severe anxiety disorder” diagnosis ? Or just anxiety in general?? Thank you for taking the time to read this even if you also aren’t sure!! Means a lot to me..❤️🩹
i’ve unfortunately fallen into the cycle of trying to figure out my thoughts and find answers as to why i feel so distressed. this still pertains to the situation regarding changing my room for those reading who have seen my multiple posts over the last few days. i’ve been so distressed and in so much panic about it. i’m also panicking over my other room looking so different from when i left it. it’s been making me feel crazy because to me there’s no reason for my anxiety to latch so hard onto something that seems so minuscule. i was thinking i was having anxiety over change, but it’s like symptoms of ocd too that’s making it really hard for me to let go. SO i started thinking maybe it was perfectionism ocd? i’ve realized over time that i do compulsions to where things have to feel “just right”, but i also do that with any environment i’m in. like it HAS to feel cozy to me and provide me comfort in order for me to feel at ease. and this change is causing me to panic because there’s something wrong that i can’t find an answer to. maybe the different colored carpet? but it’s also more than that it feels like. however, now it’s spreading into other areas of my house where i’ve always been fine in and possibly to just any area i’m in at all. hence why it’s making me feel crazy because there’s no reason for me to be THIS distressed over that as i’ve never really had this problem before. and when i did it would last maybe an hour to a couple of days at most, but this has been going for over 2 weeks with my really bad anxiety being this week. i’m doing a little better, but it’s still hard when i can feel that panic waiting for me to acknowledge and just engulf me in the ocd cycle. i’m also analyzing basically any feeling i have so i just feel off in general and like i’m going insane. i’ve been so hyper focused on how i feel and that will send me spiraling too. multiple themes then start coming in like existential ocd and fear of solipsism. not to mention my harm and contamination ocd that just adds on when i’m this vulnerable. then i worry if no one is real, then no one feels the way i do. or just in general that what if no one feels the way i do. honestly, i think being out of college and in my house with nothing to do is causing me too much time with my thoughts. which is why i’m so distressed about everything that pops into my brain.
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