This is not ocd related. But does anyone feel that they’re so used to being in toxic relationships instead of someone who actually loves you. I feel like in a way that’s why it feels numb and weird to be with someone who actually tries. It’s kinda like i associate pain with love if that makes sense In no way am i supporting anyone being in a toxic relationship just fyi lol
Yes your brain can get addicted to the chaos and stress of being in a toxic relationship. It definitely takes time, self reflection, and rewiring your brain to have a new perspective on relationships after going through so many bad ones. Relationships should make you feel safe happy, excited, fulfilled and peaceful (for the most part but all couples have disagreements sometimes). Relationships should not be like an unpredictable emotional roller coaster that’s unsafe, chaotic, and draining or makes you question your morals, sanity or outside relationships.
@LavenderGreyhound Yeah like you said it can get addicting, I wanna get out of that cycle. But also the whole pain feels like love to me is what gets me. I know I wanna be with my partner. But I feel like I can’t experience love without pain. So what can I do ?
@LavenderGreyhound Also I do love him btw
@Rachel2727 I think you just have give yourself grace and time to adjust. Maybe even express to your partner how this is the first stable relationship you’ve been in, so you’re adjusting to that. You also have to trust your partner, unless they give you a reason not to. Love should NOT feel painful or hurtful. That’s just going to take active practice on your part to let go of that. You just have to learn to appreciate “the boring and mundane” if that makes sense. Because stable relationships have their own ebbs and flows, but not having constant chaos means there will be “boring” points. But it’s better than going through nonstop fighting, tears, and heartache. Especially if you love the person you’re with.
@LavenderGreyhound Thank you !
I just know that my OCD is about to cost me my relationship because I spend so much time dealing with the nonsense in my head I don't havs enough time to focus on being a good BF 😒
@scotty2hotty Aww I’m sorry to hear that. 💔 I hope things get better for you and that you’re able to mend your relationship. Maybe dedicate some days to where you solely show up and are present for your partner and spend quality time together. I know hard it is to even be present for yourself at time due to OCD though. 💔
hey there, i totally get where you're coming from. it's really tough when your normal has been turned upside down, even when it's for the better, right? the feeling of being numb or off because someone is actually treating you well can be so confusing. it's like your emotions are trying to navigate uncharted territory. i've got a different flavor of ocd (pure o over here) but the emotional turmoil? totally relatable. i'm here to listen anytime you need to vent or just talk it out. 🌟 by the way, my therapist mentioned this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com), and i think it might be a good fit for you. since you're dealing with these complex feelings and thoughts, "unstuck" could help you sort them out, especially when they start to feel overwhelming. it's like having a mini therapist in your pocket, guiding you through the tough moments step-by-step. i know app promotions can be annoying, but i'm just sharing this because it's been a lifesaver for me. no pressure, just something that could be worth checking out. feel free to hit me up with any questions about it. 💬
@JenniesOCDBrain Thank you !
hey everyone. i’m not sure if this app will help me or not, but i feel the need to try anything because i can’t keep living like this. i struggle with obsessing over everything in my life. it feels like everyday my brain picks a new thing in my life to obsess over. for the past couple days ive been obsessing over my interpersonal relationships. for example; “do i like the people im with” “do i like my friends as more than just friends” “do i actually love these people or am i lying to everyone”. it’s been really messing with me and making me question my support system. i can’t stop stressing. i’m even afraid to talk about it with my therapist because i have those thoughts about her too. i’m new to my OCD diagnosis (got diagnosed last month) i was hospitalized for a week because i couldn’t function. i also obsess over my sexuality and nothing i pick for me ever feels quite right. i recently started a relationship with someone who’s trans, so maybe that’s why? does anyone else go through this? my brain tries to convince me that i do this to myself and that im making it all up. but who would want to feel this way? uggghhh
I’ve been dealing with a terribly overwhelming bout of OCD for a few months now, possibly the worst I’ve ever had in my 12 years of having it; which is what led me here. I’ve always had doubts in my long term relationship, but none that have been quite this vicious, making me question my sense of safety with this sweet man who has ALWAYS made me feel safe and comfortable. It picks on every aspect of our relationship, and any moment it can to make me question if he’s actually secretly a bad person. This thing has a chokehold on me and it is so scary and debilitating, especially with it targeting something I care so deeply about. And now weeks into therapy, I almost feel that unpacking it is making me feel worse and my OCD is finding all sorts of new things to pick on. Any comforting words would be appreciated… I’m trying really hard to work through this.
I’ve been dealing with this harm theme for almost four months now, and well obviously life hasn’t been the best for me, the thoughts really circulate on hurting others, why couldn’t they just been about me instead? (I apologize to those currently suffering from self harm ocd) it’s gotten to the point where I don’t know if my thoughts are really intrusive now, and it doesn’t help that I get urges to act on these thoughts. Why have I been cursed with such vile thoughts why me why now. The only good news so far is that I’m finally going to see if this is ocd or not and get diagnosed by a psychiatrist once I start college here in a few weeks(Thank gatos for my college has mental health resources) but honestly it just doesn’t really feel like ocd. I don’t know if I feel anxiety because it’s not the typical anxiety I feel. While my compulsions are mental it’s just wierd. Like I’m worried that ERP wouldn’t work for me. Sometimes I get thoughts like, how do people live without these thoughts? And how do they occupy their time? I know I used to be like other people, yk where I wasn’t worried or concerned because of these thoughts, like yeah I’ve had intrusive thoughts before in the past and they absolutely scared me, but I was just able to get over them. So why now does it feel like i can’t shake them off? Why do they have to show up everyday? And why have I become so apathetic? Like my empathy and sympathy feel like they’ve disappeared? And it’s so bad that sometimes I feel like if someone close to me just passed away I would feel nothing. Like when I heard my abuelo had skin cancer I just felt nothing and I was obsessing over the fact that I didn’t. Has anyone ever felt this way? Is it just ocd or something worse?
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