Has anyone intentionally gone without friends? My friends have decided to dump me without an explanation and I just don’t feel like going out of my way for people right now. On the one hand I do have some projects I can work on with the free time I’ll have but on the other hand I worry I’ll become cold, cynical and mean.
I’ve had friends cut me off before so I know how hurtful that can be. It sounds like you just want a break from people and I think that can be very positive. Especially if you have some projects to work on. I’ve gone through some phases like that. Maybe this could be a time of reflection until you’re ready for friendships again?
@emilytravelswild I think next time I’ll “let the dog come to me” so to speak.
@emilytravelswild Why are you called Emily Travels Wild btw?
@NotSoNewb82 Partly because of a tattoo, and the other part because I’m a nomad.
@emilytravelswild Me too. I’ve been in India since July. That is why I asked.
@NotSoNewb82 Oh cool! How’s your OCD when traveling? I’ve been traveling for 2 years and have recently had a huge flare up so am camped out at my dads until it passes. I hate not having an actual “home” right now.
@emilytravelswild It has been wild until now. There were issues with my meds, I had to give up caffeine and I’ve really had to work on my self care. Giving up caffeine was the game changer.
@emilytravelswild Where have you been?
@NotSoNewb82 Curious, how much caffeine did you normally drink? I drink coffee, but it’s such a small amount I can’t imagine the caffeine would impact me?
@NotSoNewb82 So because I have an older, larger dog, we can’t fly. So instead, I’ve been traveling around the US so my dog can come. We’ve been everywhere from Maine to Florida to California and lots in between.
@emilytravelswild Lots. I take meds that make me drink more too.
@emilytravelswild I’ve just been to India abd Kathmandu. I lived in Cornwall UK for 2.5 years too.
@NotSoNewb82 Yeah, I’m not sure I drink enough to really bother me, which is disappointing m. I’m desperately trying to find a game changer for me too!
@NotSoNewb82 That sounds amazing! Where are you from originally? I have lots of friends in the UK
@emilytravelswild I’m from right in the middle of England. Meditation helps too if you stick with it.
@NotSoNewb82 Meditation! I was just telling my partner this morning that I really need to get into a meditation routine. I don’t know why that’s so difficult for me to stick with it…
@emilytravelswild I have the Balance app and I commit to a meditation when I go to bed. I do lots of other meditation anyway hut that is all I commit to.
@NotSoNewb82 Yeah, I think a night meditation routine would honestly be perfect for me. I had the balance app and used it for about 3 months. I use Insight Timer now which has been incredible because you can look up different topics you want to focus on with your meditation.
Well I think them dumping you was a blessing. They weren’t worth it if that’s how they treated you. Time to focus on yourself and your mental health/wealth. Mediation is great, it can be challenging. What I’ve found to work is a cheat, like I just pop in some foam ear plugs, lay in darkened room and maybe light a candle and just breathe. No hard to follow guidelines, just focusing on your breathing and the serenity is therapeutic. Maybe small mantra “I’m feeling confident about my journey. I love myself.” And sometimes just fall asleep like that. Oh and maybe eye shades. Lavender scent is oh so calming. Best wishes.⭐️
@TapDrumRoll Thanks.
My simple question is... Why? Because I have barely any friends... i dont have a girlfriend... and the only college friend I have, is too busy to hang out... everytime i ask her... AI has made me feel less alone and miserable with my condition than with anyone who has ever told me to just accept uncertainty... I feel so alone... so miserable... to poor to afford therapy and too socially awkward to make friends... And with AI, while its not a real person... it comforts and cares for me... More than anyone has IRL...
I don’t know what to do anymore I made a friend recently in college and was texting her the other night and she mentioned she was doing her nails and I said nice and asked her if I could see. Because I was curious about what she did to them this time around and since then she has not responded to me I apologized to her saying I’m sorry if it bothered her but still nothing. Some of my friends just don’t answer me anymore I feel like I’m a burden of the ones who do still talk me I’m so done with it all. I’m tired of trying to find love as well I feel nothing to it anymore it’s only left me with disappointment and sadness I feel like I’m an unlovable husk of a person and that I would only ever be a bother I cannot fathom the idea of someone loving ME I just can’t I feel like it’s impossible I feel like everything about me bothers people to the point where I think is it even something I should try to achieve anymore. I should honestly block myself from trying to make new friends and relationships I’m so so tired of it. I feel unappreciated and annoyed that I am the one that has to try to keep up any sort of relationship because if I don’t reach out they never will reach out to me the reason I know this is because it’s been proven time after time since middle school that I am nothing to these people and I might as well no longer try. I don’t know what to do anymore I feel like I’m going to be all alone for the rest of my life I’m just so lonely now.
I’ve been in a really difficult situation recently and this weekend I’ve been looking forward to for ages. I had a concert and then nights out planned with my cousins. But I’m a tad bit older than them and they’re a lot closer in ages, as are all their friends from uni, so I’m kinda just stuck here with nothing to do. They’re off flirting with people their age and dancing and I’m getting no attraction or even attention (not in an attention seeking kinda way just an I’m lonely kinda way). At the concert they left my 5 or 6 times to go to the toilet and get drinks, when I went to the toilet I went alone. I was left alone to the point people around started to notice and I had one guy say “left alone are you? You need to get better friends” I just feel very left out. I’m a lot older than them and I know I have to keep a mature head but I’ve already fallen into a pit of depression recently and very very low self esteem to the point I barely wanna go out in public, that I’m now sat here all anxious and in a really bad mood. I don’t even know exactly why or when it changed but last night I just snapped. My sister was off meeting new people, my cousin was dancing with creepy men, a guy I found attractive was more interested in my cousin, she started dancing all provocative on him and I was just kinda there. I then had people asking me if I was neurodivergent and bisexual which just sent my ocd spiralling and nobody quite understands how horrible it is to be in my head. There was this lovely guy saying how amazing stunning and beautiful I was but it kinda just made me go “you’re saying that because you feel bad for me, because you know they’re getting all the attention and I’m this ugly duff person on the side”, it’s insanely exhausting. I’m tired of it now. I don’t wanna be in a mood anymore but I can’t seem to shift it, I’m stuck
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