Need advice

I want to move out at 18 I'm 17 now My birthday is in July I want to move out because my mother used to abuse me and I went to go live with my father but we have been arguing and today he called me scum because I didn't get him anything for Christmas My mom and dad divorced when I was young and my dad now has multiple girlfriends and their children bought him gifts and he is mad at me because I didn't buy him one I'm getting tired of everything I think I want to move and live alone by myself so I can be happy I'm saving up money but I don't think I have enough I live down the street from a restaurant I think I want to work there so I can save money but my dad won't let me I don't care anymore I just want to be happy does anyone have any advice or tips Happy New Year's I love you all 💓💓💓

CinderWolf

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Hello, I’ve wanted to move out of my parent’s house since I was 18 (I’m 21, now) and it is honestly super difficult and I’m still living with them. I tried living with my dad for a while and then I had to move back in with my mom. Right now the price of living is super crazy and you need to making like $25-$30/hr to get even a small studio apartment. Groceries are outrageously expensive and insurance rates just keep going up. My advice is to find a high paying job (not sure if you’re planning on going to college or not) and save as much as you can for a year and move out then. Or you can choose to go to college, get student loans, and live off campus if it is THAT bad. If you cannot take it anymore, that is what I suggest doing. Just make sure you are going to have a career later that will give you enough money to pay off your student loan debt. But having student loans is better than living miserably for years and years with no way out. Please take care!

cute taco

Date posted: 1y

I plan on going to college so I can work in mental health but I've been thinking for a long time I want to move out because I'm not happy it's not everyday but I'm still not happy

CinderWolf

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@cute taco I would prioritize your mental health then and possibly move on campus/ move to an apartment near campus with student loans and get a part time/ full time job. Student loans suck but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Just know that then you have to pay for everything such as your car, phone, wifi, gas, groceries, insurances, bills regarding living such as heat and electric, sometimes laundry and you will also have to pay for your essentials like shampoo, cleaning supplies, etc!

CinderWolf

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous Life is hard, but you got this! Just trust yourself that this isn’t forever and you’ll figure it out! Also get support from other family/friends.

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