- Username
- Mialab27
- Date posted
- 5y ago
when people say that around me i tend to just forgive them and let it go since it comes from a place of ignorance and i don't really feel like lecturing everyone i meet :')
Most of the time they're just ignorant and don't realize how offensive it might be. I try to keep that in mind
I can understand the frustration. I personally know people who say things like that and at the end of the day I can’t really be bothered to lecture every single person who doesn’t understand what OCD really is. At the end of the day you gotta learn to forgive them. Before I had OCD I barely understood it myself and thought it was just about cleaning yours hands all the time and keeping things tidy.
I find it infuriating. It was hard when it was just me but now that my daughter also struggles with OCD I witness how damaging these statements can be for others. I also know that perpetuating this myth that OCD is just about being anal and extra tidy truly has prevented folks who have suffered for YEARS with OCD from reaching out and getting help because if one person has intrusive sexual thoughts but all they hear about OCD is offhanded and sarcastic remarks about organizing and clean freaks how do we expect them to reach out for help? Such shameful thoughts can be debilitating. Perpetuating false ideas about OCD is NOT harmless. Folks kill them selves over these struggles. It’s a human responsibility to spread correct info so we can reach those struggling with these horrid intrusive thoughts.
It’s ridiculous how much people discussing HOCD bothers me. I know it’s a form of OCD, which I understand is out of the person’s control. I know mental illness is not a choice. I have OCD, so I get it. I get invasive thoughts about being hetero, so it makes sense that it works the other way too. I know the people who have HOCD aren’t necessarily homophobic. It does kind of make me feel like my sexuality is a worst case scenario, though. I can’t help but think “people are as afraid of being like me, as I am of heart attacks”. Idk. It just almost feels like people are saying “oh no what if I’m gay” “don’t worry, you’re straight. You’re okay because you’re straight” (which I know isn’t the case). It could just be because of the lack of positivity I’ve seen surrounding the queer community lately, though. I’m not trying to call out or invalidate people with HOCD though, I know it’s something that they don’t enjoy, and it’s something they suffer with just as much as I suffer with my OCD. Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest
So I heard one my best friends saying she has OCD. All she did was considered perfectionism and she was organizing peoples stuff on school. I do organize my suff but as a compultion and it is not like it bothers me , I HAVE to, I don’t think she understands. I would be torturing myself instead of organizing ppl stuff, is not like she didn’t want ppl to watch it.I think she wanted attention or smth, but I felt offended about it .
*me preparing to share with loved ones or friends about my mental illness* *taking a deep breath and being brave* me: “So... I wanted to share something deep with you. I have recently been struggling with OCD.” them: “OH MY GOD ME TOO!!!! I hAtE iT wHeN tHiNgS aRe NoT cLeAn!!!!!!!!!”
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