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You have to remember though that you can’t just out of the blue ‘discover’ you are a lesbian, it’s something that you’re born being. You can’t just be forced to be something against your will. She was probably always a lesbian but hid it for some reason.
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- 7y
^ I agree, people argue that sexuality is fluid, but that usually applies to what we get aroused by, find attractive, etc etc. sexual orientation, is however programmed into us before we are born. It’s in our brain chemistry, it cannot change !
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- 7y
Stop avoiding it , that’s a compulsion and just adds to your problem. Expose yourself as much as you to what scares you , look at lesbian porn or look up lesbian pictures anything like that. That should spike up ur anxiety until you me body gets use to it and u just get bored of the thought. The thoughts will probably still be there but you will desensitize yourself to them and they will have less of an effect on you. This is basically ERP, of course I’m not an expert but it helped me with harm ocd.
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@Laurie @Brookenoel I know but it’s got me thinking like “oh maybe I’m this way too” and I now have this fear that if I get with a guy I won’t enjoy the relationship.... when in the past all I’ve wanted was a relationship with a guy :( when I had my first kiss my thought immediately was that I wanted to do it again... I feel like so isolated... when I forget the thoughts for one second, they come back. I’ll admit they’re better at school but still effective...
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- 21w
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- 20w
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- 19w
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