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You have to remember though that you can’t just out of the blue ‘discover’ you are a lesbian, it’s something that you’re born being. You can’t just be forced to be something against your will. She was probably always a lesbian but hid it for some reason.
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^ I agree, people argue that sexuality is fluid, but that usually applies to what we get aroused by, find attractive, etc etc. sexual orientation, is however programmed into us before we are born. It’s in our brain chemistry, it cannot change !
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Stop avoiding it , that’s a compulsion and just adds to your problem. Expose yourself as much as you to what scares you , look at lesbian porn or look up lesbian pictures anything like that. That should spike up ur anxiety until you me body gets use to it and u just get bored of the thought. The thoughts will probably still be there but you will desensitize yourself to them and they will have less of an effect on you. This is basically ERP, of course I’m not an expert but it helped me with harm ocd.
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@Laurie @Brookenoel I know but it’s got me thinking like “oh maybe I’m this way too” and I now have this fear that if I get with a guy I won’t enjoy the relationship.... when in the past all I’ve wanted was a relationship with a guy :( when I had my first kiss my thought immediately was that I wanted to do it again... I feel like so isolated... when I forget the thoughts for one second, they come back. I’ll admit they’re better at school but still effective...
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I've always found women pretty and admired them since I was younger, never wanted to be with them or anything. I always pictured having a boyfriend and my crushes were always boys. I have a boyfriend now but because this has happened I feel nothing towards him or any men. To be honest I'm so exhausted I don't feel much at all, there was so much anxiety at the start and now there is none. Does that mean I have accepted the thoughts. My mind keeps going you were suppressed all these years but I do find women pretty so that's what's making it worse. Am I just in denial and being delusional? I never doubted my sexuality before this I always considered myself to be straight but I feels like my mind has been twisted and can't remember any attraction to guys but can remember thinking girls are pretty? Does this mean it's all real? I don't know anymore
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I feel sick to my stomach, a few days ago I knew I was straight and could picture my life with my bf again. The anxiety has really lessend and Im more depressed now. I'm 100% convinced I am lesbian even tho I have never had sexual attraction to women, found them pretty but never wanted to be with them. My mind is only picturing me being with women now and it feels like a pit in my stomach. I don't feel emotion now, I'm also on my period. I don't want to be lesbian. I want to be with my boyfriend and have the life I pictured with him. My memory is so dissorted right now. I don't think there's anything wrong with being lesbian, it's just not for me and now that makes me feel like I'm homophobic.
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I am a 18 year old masc lesbian with a loving girlfriend for 1 year, and I have been lesbian for almost my whole life and I have never been attracted to men in any way. flash to my past, My ex girlfriend who used to identify as a lesbian had cheated on me with a man. Recently I saw this tiktok of this masc lesbian turn straight and my friends and girlfriend made jokes I am going to turn straight for my male best friend. My male best friend came over and he’s a great guy but I do not want him in any way. when him and i were hanging out my mind threw in a thought it was “What if i like him”, i came back home and i had the worst panic attack and i felt so sick, i cried and i cried. ever since that day I have been struggling with intrusive thoughts, i don’t want a man in any way, and i feel comfortable as a lesbian but these thoughts won’t stop and they become worse when i see people say being lesbian is a phase or that i haven’t met the right guy or i’ll change in the future. i just want these thoughts to stop, i don’t want to stop being a lesbian ever, i love women so much and i just want all of this to be over with. i do not want a man in any way and im tired of my thoughts doubting myself and i hate the “what ifs”, I just want to be my old self, I want to be happy with my girlfriend.
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