Just read a Reddit forum it said that he thought he had hocd but was actually gay. He found out about that after meeting a gay men and is happy now. I feel really scared

The difference between struggling to accept the fact that he was gay was says that he was probably thinking about him being gay and liking men for his entire life, as gay people are born gay, they don't turn that way. People with HOCD on the other hand, don't typically question this since forever, as obssessions often do, they come on randomly, and they might go away randomly as well. I would advise you to not go into those forums and searching online, as it is a compulsion and its setting you back

Number one thing not to do is search on Google. If you are going to be doing any research go to safe places online, there is a blog on tumblr called pure-o-Soft, I really recommend it, you can send asks about anything you're feeling and they send you trustworthy articles on OCD Do Not check groinal response, think about it, if you fixate on concentrating on any part of your body you will feel something, so don't do it. Do not try and check whether or not you find men attractive, as you will get more obssessed about it and start with the vicious circle again

Well then he Most likely was one of those people that think OCD not as a mental illness, and was struggling with accepting himself instead

But what if im like him

Im really very scared

But what's the different between those?

I don't know I was really scared so I just closed it and had a panic attack

I thought I would make friends with people suffering from hocd and talk to them personally but no one is even responding to me and I am doing all these research instead can anyone please help me?

I don't know