How to let go of the past

It’s already been a year from my breakup. I feel a lot better and learned a lot about myself. It’s also been 6 months since we last spoke to each other. I feel like when we stopped speaking to each other became the moment where I finally started feeling all of my emotions more at once. I’m at this period of my life, where I hate to admit I still long for him to reach out to me. I want to get rid of this false hope and want to be more accepting of how over this has been for me. I can’t say I want closure, I think I just want someone to be by my side. I do tend to feel a lot of loneliness but I know this will pass. Any advice on letting go?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 48w ago

i gave up hope but it was beautiful. I focused on myself. i’m 21 rn and it happened 2 years ago. I told myself no dating for at least a year. Got into music, food, friends, family. Fell in love with myself. Tried talking to girls after a year but was so uninterested because no one gave off the same amount of stability and self love that I did that I completely lost interest in finding love. Until my current girlfriend came around and swooped me off my feet… Love happens always, love finds you! The key is patience. You are well on ur way

Username: Anonymous1790Anonymous1790

Date posted: 48w ago

@Anonymous Thank you so much, this message gives me hope.

Username: scutodragonscutodragon

Date posted: 48w ago

This isn’t the typical happy ending but it’s the truth and it deserved to be heard this is just the life i moved to another hobby which was a hobby just in name and I did not care for it so my ocd could not ruin it somehow I don’t want to give non ocd people the chance or the opportunity to rise That’s why I’m kind of happy I will never pressure architecture my ocd just isn’t going to handle it it doesn’t help that I struggle with technology due to ocd and lack of patience because my ocd want’s everything to perfect but the nature of technology is glitches and everything is persevered so if you mess up one thing it’s there to last and haunt you

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 48w ago

just being present. it will let itself go when it’s ready. A part of letting go is accepting that it’s here now, and knowing it’s temporary. Experiment how you can find fulfillment and happiness in this chaotic headspace. You’ll grow a lot. Suffered some bad breakups over the past 7 years but i’ve had nothing to complain about but awesome stories and memories. I’m unchanged in a forever changing world

Username: Anonymous1790Anonymous1790

Date posted: 48w ago

@Anonymous Thank you for this perspective. I tend to forget that I shouldn’t dwell in the emotions, just allow them to past and acknowledge it. I appreciate it a lot. I don’t want to get stuck on the mindset that I won’t find love again, it’s a triggering self limiting belief I have at the moment. I’m still very young and this breakup was my first love. I don’t want to give in to losing hope

Username: scutodragonscutodragon

Date posted: 48w ago

My ocd ruined a lot of hobbies and things I loved in the past

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 48w ago

@scutodragon ocd does nothing but convince you of things. It can NEVER permanently "ruin" anything true to your soul. If it was a passion, it still is. OCD is just inbetween you and those feelings you once felt

Username: scutodragonscutodragon

Date posted: 48w ago

@Anonymous It goes past me my story with ocd is much worse than other people And my ocd is more stronger than others that why erp never worked because I was simply not able to function I used to like architecture in Minecraft but my ocd grew impatient I accidentally made a schematic group file which my ocd hates and want it deleted the staff kept delaying it and my ocd grew worse until I lashed out and lost control I got banned from that server and then when I was trying to get unban they said I was not fit to be there and i completely gave up I tried to be perfect like them but it was just not meant to be and I’m filled with envy it’s pointless to have hobbies because those without ocd will always have the upper hand I reported them to mojang but nothing happened and they got away with it I learnt it the hard way don’t care or like something in the first place don’t give those non ocd demons a chance to ruin it

Username: kittea

Date posted: 2y ago

another post break-up day that just completely wrecked me. i hate how much this shit won’t leave my mind. i can’t stop going over every detail and bringing myself to the verge of a panic attack. these last few days have been absolute ick. it’s been almost two months—i don’t understand why i’m not better. and it feels so stupid to feel this way and not have my best friend to confide in because he’s not by my side anymore. i just feel sick to my stomach and like walking away from everything i’ve been doing to distract myself because clearly it’s not working. if you have any advice on breakups and navigating them with ocd, please share—i’m struggling more and more every day.

Username: Mayte

Date posted: 2y ago

I want advice

How do I get over an ex that I was with for a whole year?

Username: Anonymous 16

Date posted: 1y ago

Getting over someone

I’m going thru a breakup and I’m having a terrible time. I can’t eat I can barely sleep and everyday I feel terrible. I’ve had him in my life for 3 years and we’ve always depended on each other. I’m just lonely and sometimes I’ll feel a bit better and then I’ll just fall back down. Everyone just tells me it’ll get better or I’ll find someone else. But I’m not feeling better and i don’t want anyone else. I make a con list about him and I can’t even feel any disgust towards him. I think about how I’ll have to restart with someone but I feel like it’ll be just be the same. I’ll get promised that we are gonna get married and grow old but then after 2 years it’ll just go to shit and I’ll just get used. I try talking to others and I just don’t feel any better. Im supposed to go to a party but I don’t even wanna go and I don’t even wanna do Halloween. Everything reminds me of him I just can’t not think about him. Sad part is he wasn’t a good bf so I’m more frustrated that I got attached to this person. Idk what to do anymore

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