Anyone with hocd ever had the urge to kiss their female friends but then freak out? Like the hocd is making feel like id enjoy it. But i know deep down (even though the feeling is murky rn because of the hocd) that i want a husbamd/bf one day. It keeps bringing up the fact that when i was a kid id watch cartoons and see the female characters and think they were attractive. But never where i wanted to be with them ya know? This is really unhinging me. I just want to like guys again normally ?

oh GOD i get the urges a LOT. i just 'want' to lean in and stuff and i just want the feeling to go away ffs

Omg thank goodness i thought it was just me. I get like a tingling feeling too if i accidentally brush up agsinst girls too (family, friends etc.) Then my ocd is like yea ik you were attracted to girls. ?‍♀️ Omfg thanks so much

See HOCD has the ability to make you feel like you would enjoy doing shit with your sex , even when you know deep down you definitely wouldn’t. And btw , that tingling feeling is the most common thing of them all with HOCD and OCD in general. It’s a known thing. For one , that area is so sensitive so almost anything could trigger it, especially anxiety and whatever you’re currently fearing. It’s best to accept that it’s there and not even bother to question it , which is the hardest thing ever ??‍♂️??‍♂️

Yea it's totally insane. It's so crazy, cuz i "feel" like im a lesbian. Like maybe thats y ive never dated a guy because in sectetly gay. I mean ive had loads if crushes on boys. But never dated even when guys asked me out because it never felt right. Except for this one guy, but it didnt work out. Now the hocd is telling me it didnt work out because im gay. But it's weird i have to force myself to fantasize about girls. Guys are a no brainer. Am i secretly gay because ive never felt right having a bf or never wanted one till now? I mean these thoughts, urges, feelings... do they ever go away is there a self help?

Lol i was sitting in a car with on of my friends, and for some reason I haf thoughts like, am I supposed to lean in and kiss her? Should I be attracted?

Ahhhh I can understand that when you look back and feel like you didn’t date guys bc you weren’t straight. With OCD we automatically assume that we had to live a certain way before in order to consider ourselves certain things but that’s being way too hard on ourselves ?? like I’m straight and I haven’t dated a girl in years. And that doesn’t mean anything , you know ? There could be many reasons why you didn’t date at that time , like insecurities , being busy , focusing on other things , anything really. But of course the best thing to do is to get to understand the fear and why you have it. And come to realize that it doesn’t need to be a fear because there would be nothing wrong with being lesbian ! To answer your question , they do go away and there is totally self help. I don’t know the absolute best option , but I’d recommend cognitive behavioral therapy and to stay off of forums. They can become a compulsion and usually do. May have said it before haha but if you ever wanna chat just lmk. I have Instagram and if you wanna know it just ask :)

I have and it unhinges me also

@arielcorey do you ever get thoughts too like ssying how good their lips look etc and then the urges come into play? Like i dont even want to go over to my best friends house to watch tv just becsuse im so afraid i'll hsve those feelings or thoughts

yessss

I get thoughts about sex ... and lips too

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I do too, and the ocd makes me think i'd like it. But ik i dont. ?? im scared of everything now and im afraid i'll never b able to connect w/ a guy because im secretly gay ! ? like what happened to the good old days w/o hocd?

I think its teiggered by trauma at least mine is forsure bec before it I never had these thoughts and I think it teiggered my anxiety even worse is it normal to have it with PTSD also?

Triggered

I think it is normal definitely. The only trauma i can think of is that people in my family thought i was gay because i never dressed girly growing up and i always liked different things. Mine started in 8th grade.

That's a trauma for sure

Oh good to know. Well im glad we're all in this together! Hopefully one day we can go back to liking guys w/o the hesitation. Ihope everything wotks out with u. I've started to do the self ERP on this app. U shoukd check it out too it might help

I did as well thanks