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oh GOD i get the urges a LOT. i just 'want' to lean in and stuff and i just want the feeling to go away ffs
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Omg thank goodness i thought it was just me. I get like a tingling feeling too if i accidentally brush up agsinst girls too (family, friends etc.) Then my ocd is like yea ik you were attracted to girls. ?♀️ Omfg thanks so much
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See HOCD has the ability to make you feel like you would enjoy doing shit with your sex , even when you know deep down you definitely wouldn’t. And btw , that tingling feeling is the most common thing of them all with HOCD and OCD in general. It’s a known thing. For one , that area is so sensitive so almost anything could trigger it, especially anxiety and whatever you’re currently fearing. It’s best to accept that it’s there and not even bother to question it , which is the hardest thing ever ??♂️??♂️
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Yea it's totally insane. It's so crazy, cuz i "feel" like im a lesbian. Like maybe thats y ive never dated a guy because in sectetly gay. I mean ive had loads if crushes on boys. But never dated even when guys asked me out because it never felt right. Except for this one guy, but it didnt work out. Now the hocd is telling me it didnt work out because im gay. But it's weird i have to force myself to fantasize about girls. Guys are a no brainer. Am i secretly gay because ive never felt right having a bf or never wanted one till now? I mean these thoughts, urges, feelings... do they ever go away is there a self help?
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Lol i was sitting in a car with on of my friends, and for some reason I haf thoughts like, am I supposed to lean in and kiss her? Should I be attracted?
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Ahhhh I can understand that when you look back and feel like you didn’t date guys bc you weren’t straight. With OCD we automatically assume that we had to live a certain way before in order to consider ourselves certain things but that’s being way too hard on ourselves ?? like I’m straight and I haven’t dated a girl in years. And that doesn’t mean anything , you know ? There could be many reasons why you didn’t date at that time , like insecurities , being busy , focusing on other things , anything really. But of course the best thing to do is to get to understand the fear and why you have it. And come to realize that it doesn’t need to be a fear because there would be nothing wrong with being lesbian ! To answer your question , they do go away and there is totally self help. I don’t know the absolute best option , but I’d recommend cognitive behavioral therapy and to stay off of forums. They can become a compulsion and usually do. May have said it before haha but if you ever wanna chat just lmk. I have Instagram and if you wanna know it just ask :)
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I have and it unhinges me also
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@arielcorey do you ever get thoughts too like ssying how good their lips look etc and then the urges come into play? Like i dont even want to go over to my best friends house to watch tv just becsuse im so afraid i'll hsve those feelings or thoughts
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yessss
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I get thoughts about sex ... and lips too
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???
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I do too, and the ocd makes me think i'd like it. But ik i dont. ?? im scared of everything now and im afraid i'll never b able to connect w/ a guy because im secretly gay ! ? like what happened to the good old days w/o hocd?
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I think its teiggered by trauma at least mine is forsure bec before it I never had these thoughts and I think it teiggered my anxiety even worse is it normal to have it with PTSD also?
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Triggered
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I think it is normal definitely. The only trauma i can think of is that people in my family thought i was gay because i never dressed girly growing up and i always liked different things. Mine started in 8th grade.
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That's a trauma for sure
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Oh good to know. Well im glad we're all in this together! Hopefully one day we can go back to liking guys w/o the hesitation. Ihope everything wotks out with u. I've started to do the self ERP on this app. U shoukd check it out too it might help
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I did as well thanks
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As I’ve posted before, my friends has developed TOUGH hocd and has hit rock bottom :// She told me to ask y’all here if any of you have had a similar experience NOT reassurance (she doesn’t have NOCD). “Hi NOCD community. When I was like 5 I had this distant female cousin whom I played with and grew up. She had super short hair like a boy, but we low key had same interests in toys/tv series etc. and then at THAT age I got a very weird though which said: do you like her? And I remember getting a lot of anxiety and my stomach hurting cause why tf would I have that kind of thought about my female cousin? I remember ruminating about it the whole day, and the next day that thought disappeared and I never had that thought again. We grew up and obviously she’s my family like my sister. But now that I have HOCD, I keep thinking about that memory and I have so much anxiety about it and cry often about it. While growing up I’ve only had crushes on tons of boys at school etc. has anyone had a similar experience?” Thanks for reading if u did! We need support 😭🙏🏻
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Can hocd create mental feelings or things that resemble inclinations Without a physical response?, but such as arousal and mental attraction, for example, I have so ocd and I'm afraid that I might like women.So, in the last period, when I look at photos of girls, especially beautiful ones, I feel something strange or attracted,sometimes their bodies.And I'm confused as to what that might mean, it's like sexual orientation, is this from me or OCD produced by it?'The feeling is like the feeling of discovering new inclinations and this breaks me, I just want to reconcile with myself in any sexual orientation or identity, but I just can't feel comfortable and reconcile with the fact that I may like women or it may happen in the future.And I have these feelings that telling me messing around the girls would be fun, and I feel something like desire, but I never come to terms with this.. I'm going to be 15 years old, I know, I'm not supposed to think like that, I don't have the right to determine who I am now because im young, and I shouldn't continue to dream of marrying a man..My mind keeps reminding me of the fact that I'm a teenager and the likelihood that everything will change is high, but right now, I'm not asking for anything but rest.I want to love myself and reconcile with her.
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hi guys i added to list. i’m freaking out i just need some help. signs of comphet (comphet is when lesbians who don’t know it and just follow norms and believe there straight) ive felt: “I never felt anything when kissing boys and totally thought that was normal… I talk to men, go on dates, but I think it’s to keep my life ‘interesting’ and have something to talk about with friends.” • lack of deep, natural emotional connection • • talking about my boyfriend to other people made me feel “cool”, “worthy”, “interesting” and felt like a way to prove myself • being able to clearly articulate all the reasons I liked a guy crush/my boyfriend (he’s smart, funny, kind, handsome, etc) whereas with a girl crush I can’t exactly put my finger on why I like them but I’m just naturally drawn to them • never missing my exes or feeling heartbroken about them (i would feel sad from being lonely and no longer having that daily routine of having someone to talk to, but didn’t necessarily miss that specific person) • i was always very hesitant about “becoming official” with a guy i would be seeing and would make him wait before deciding to date because i “didn’t know if i really liked him or not” only being aroused by their the man’s desire for me • Thinking I was cooler than other girls because I didn't spend any time thinking about how cute boys were or being "boy-crazy". I was under the impression for a while that I must just be less shallow than other people because I didn't really take looks into account when I had a crush on a boy, I only factored in their personality. chasing the ego boost more than emotional closeness agreed with friends or mom about someone being attractive even if you didn’t feel it—another big flag being bored, ditching serious commitment, chasing the drama again it also feels like i’m acting a lot of the time to make it more romantic cause i cringe When you fantasize about men, it is mostly just enacting a kind of narrative. More focused on movement than features- the men in your fantasies might be faceless or blank-featured or their bodies might symbolize some emotion. you might not even be in the in the fantasy, but instead another faceless woman might be. You might even imagine yourself as the man. The narrative follows the sexual script, but the details are more vague and abstract and might even shift and change throughout the fantasy. i dont care about like what guys looks like. like my sister saw a video of a guy working out and was like got damn omg gotta like that. if i saw that i would prob be like damn to try and prove something to myself but i don’t really understand what i should feel it feels like i relate to so much comphet after i read it on reddit and it doesn’t even make me want to cry and die anymore. it feels like i tolerate men or have done it for attention or because i thought it was going to happen at some point cause it was what was happening around me like sister and friends. i’m scared ill never find someone i want to marry that’s a man it feels like it’s all just comphet and i don’t want to actually be with a man the more my meds work and anxiety lessens the more the fear feels real because i can’t get myself anxious about it anymore. i can about other stuff but not this. i always told myself i don’t chase i attract. maybe thats cause i never wanted a big badly enough. maybe what im missing is a girl what if that ends up feeling more real Straight people don’t need to talk themselves into what’s hot. like during the hocd break i would try and like see what was “hot” and and be like yeah that’s hot. i also i refused to masturbate to women and not think about it because i didn’t want it to prove that i still liked it but i mean idk if that was left over hocd
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