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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Confessing
I need tips on how to sit here, wanting to confess, but I can’t. It’s like torture. How do y’all deal w this????
I need tips on how to sit here, wanting to confess, but I can’t. It’s like torture. How do y’all deal w this????
Ok don’t make fun of me but when I have the urge to confess I literally start singing “confessions” by usher in my head to help deflect the seriousness out of the situation. I know every word by HEART. does this help every time? No. It does help me become self aware of what’s happening when the song pops in my head though 🤐
@Anonymous Omg I love this. And I love that song.
Hi! Something I really like to do when resisting a compulsion is writing about it! Be careful as this could possibly become compulsive as well for some people, but I like to acknowledge what I’m feeling and what compulsions I’m trying not to do. For me it looks something like this: -I’m feeling anxious - I have the urge to confess - I have had this feeling and this urge many times, and it always passes. I also find it helpful to delay the compulsions! So if you feel like to HAVE to confess RIGHT NOW try to tell yourself you’ll do it later, maybe even set a timer. Ideally, if you can bring your anxiety down and get through the discomfort you’ll realize you don’t need to do the compulsions at all, even when the time comes.
Maybe I'm lucky that I have fairly judgmental people in my life, because whenever I have the urge to confess something to someone, I remind myself that doing so almost always makes things awkward or worse when I do so
To add onto what others have suggested I'd suggest you don't have to literally sit there and do nothing. Do something productive or fun. Just don't give into the compulsions. As long as you aren't avoiding the thoughts or forcing them away then you can decide to do something more important with your time. When the thoughts come just allow them to sit there and then go back to what you were doing.
Reminding myself the urge is like a wave it comes and goes regardless of what I do
I cry it out and that helps too
I’m having a big OCD relapse and would like to hear anyone’s tips on how to be present and healthily deal with these intrusive thoughts and the “need” to preform compulsions. Thank you!!
I just got off my session today and after having a confession to my husband last night with a compulsion, he obviously is going to have more questions. My therapist says not to confess because I am growing my OCD . However, this is really OCD and is about something that actually happened. My husband said, that it sounds like I have someone in my life who is justifying withholding information or lying to him. Of course when I have my obsession compulsions, he makes sense. Can somebody help explain this to me? How is my husband not right or is he?
I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?
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