OCDewewew
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Confessing
I need tips on how to sit here, wanting to confess, but I can’t. It’s like torture. How do y’all deal w this????
_egg_egg
- Date posted
- 1y
Ok don’t make fun of me but when I have the urge to confess I literally start singing “confessions” by usher in my head to help deflect the seriousness out of the situation. I know every word by HEART. does this help every time? No. It does help me become self aware of what’s happening when the song pops in my head though 🤐
Catlove9Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous Omg I love this. And I love that song.
cr2857cr2857
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Hi! Something I really like to do when resisting a compulsion is writing about it! Be careful as this could possibly become compulsive as well for some people, but I like to acknowledge what I’m feeling and what compulsions I’m trying not to do. For me it looks something like this: -I’m feeling anxious - I have the urge to confess - I have had this feeling and this urge many times, and it always passes. I also find it helpful to delay the compulsions! So if you feel like to HAVE to confess RIGHT NOW try to tell yourself you’ll do it later, maybe even set a timer. Ideally, if you can bring your anxiety down and get through the discomfort you’ll realize you don’t need to do the compulsions at all, even when the time comes.
bjornkattbjornkatt
- Date posted
- 1y
Maybe I'm lucky that I have fairly judgmental people in my life, because whenever I have the urge to confess something to someone, I remind myself that doing so almost always makes things awkward or worse when I do so
StoicGuyStoicGuy
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
To add onto what others have suggested I'd suggest you don't have to literally sit there and do nothing. Do something productive or fun. Just don't give into the compulsions. As long as you aren't avoiding the thoughts or forcing them away then you can decide to do something more important with your time. When the thoughts come just allow them to sit there and then go back to what you were doing.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
Reminding myself the urge is like a wave it comes and goes regardless of what I do
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
I cry it out and that helps too
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DannyO507
- Date posted
- 23w
I need help dealing with this
I have been really really struggling for the past 3 months and haven’t been able to stop intrusive thoughts/ rumination and confessing. It’s making me question my entire life, my relationship and even who I am as a person. It’s mainly effecting my relationship, I am so afraid that I did something or think things that are definitely hurtful to my partner. I know my brain is contorting my own memory and making things seem so much worse. I also know I haven’t done anything bad, all my things I’ve confessed about have been considered “normal” and I’ve been told that “you’re normal, you didn’t do anything wrong”. But I have felt this intense sense of guilt and shame and it doesn’t go away, I can’t even be a normal person anymore. And I keep searching for “just one more thing I need to tell” and I don’t want to keep searching my brain of every time I’ve said or done anything that I can distort and make seem 1000% worse. I’m isolating myself and just feel like I’m a bad person. I keep confessing my thoughts, feeling, urges, etc. to my partner and while I know I would never do any of these I feel like my ocd is trying to convince me that maybe I would because “why else would you think it or feel guilty” and that makes it so much worse. I really need guidance on how to handle this. What do I do to stop feeling like this and heal?
Lillo2000
- Date posted
- 22w
Confession compulsion
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Mk3
- Date posted
- 18w
ROCD
I am in an endless battle to figure things out. I think I figure something out that makes me feel better about my thoughts and then I find something else to prove it wrong and the cycle continues. I have so much discomfort I want to confess to my partner so bad. How do I handle this. I don’t think I’ve ever sat in this much discomfort. Why does it feel THIS BAD.
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