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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Confessing
I need tips on how to sit here, wanting to confess, but I can’t. It’s like torture. How do y’all deal w this????
I need tips on how to sit here, wanting to confess, but I can’t. It’s like torture. How do y’all deal w this????
Ok don’t make fun of me but when I have the urge to confess I literally start singing “confessions” by usher in my head to help deflect the seriousness out of the situation. I know every word by HEART. does this help every time? No. It does help me become self aware of what’s happening when the song pops in my head though 🤐
@Anonymous Omg I love this. And I love that song.
Hi! Something I really like to do when resisting a compulsion is writing about it! Be careful as this could possibly become compulsive as well for some people, but I like to acknowledge what I’m feeling and what compulsions I’m trying not to do. For me it looks something like this: -I’m feeling anxious - I have the urge to confess - I have had this feeling and this urge many times, and it always passes. I also find it helpful to delay the compulsions! So if you feel like to HAVE to confess RIGHT NOW try to tell yourself you’ll do it later, maybe even set a timer. Ideally, if you can bring your anxiety down and get through the discomfort you’ll realize you don’t need to do the compulsions at all, even when the time comes.
Maybe I'm lucky that I have fairly judgmental people in my life, because whenever I have the urge to confess something to someone, I remind myself that doing so almost always makes things awkward or worse when I do so
To add onto what others have suggested I'd suggest you don't have to literally sit there and do nothing. Do something productive or fun. Just don't give into the compulsions. As long as you aren't avoiding the thoughts or forcing them away then you can decide to do something more important with your time. When the thoughts come just allow them to sit there and then go back to what you were doing.
Reminding myself the urge is like a wave it comes and goes regardless of what I do
I cry it out and that helps too
Hi, the last few days I have again really struggled with my pocd however it has only been focussed on one child. I am afraid I might think something so bad that if the parents would know they would hate me forever and I won’t be allowed to come there anymore. I constantly feel the need to check if I can think of these horrible things and the find out I can, my thoughts get more disturbing everytime because I constantly fear I will think of something more disturbing. I really feel the need to confess because I just can’t believe the parent would ever want to see me again if they knew and therefore I am obligated to tell them. I feel I can never become a good person if I don’t confess this to them. I am also really trying to not confess within this post as I know it will only make things worse. Is there anyone that can relate to this and is it really possible to heal without confessing this? And also are there any tips of how I can get myself to sleep I am so sleep deprived I cannot even go to school anymore. I am in the process of seeking professional help however this process goes awfully slow and I really do not know what to do hence this post. So to summarise is it really possible to heal from pocd without confessing to the people I am hurting with the absolutely disturbing thoughts that I have, there not just thoughts a pedophile would have they are way worse.
I have been really really struggling for the past 3 months and haven’t been able to stop intrusive thoughts/ rumination and confessing. It’s making me question my entire life, my relationship and even who I am as a person. It’s mainly effecting my relationship, I am so afraid that I did something or think things that are definitely hurtful to my partner. I know my brain is contorting my own memory and making things seem so much worse. I also know I haven’t done anything bad, all my things I’ve confessed about have been considered “normal” and I’ve been told that “you’re normal, you didn’t do anything wrong”. But I have felt this intense sense of guilt and shame and it doesn’t go away, I can’t even be a normal person anymore. And I keep searching for “just one more thing I need to tell” and I don’t want to keep searching my brain of every time I’ve said or done anything that I can distort and make seem 1000% worse. I’m isolating myself and just feel like I’m a bad person. I keep confessing my thoughts, feeling, urges, etc. to my partner and while I know I would never do any of these I feel like my ocd is trying to convince me that maybe I would because “why else would you think it or feel guilty” and that makes it so much worse. I really need guidance on how to handle this. What do I do to stop feeling like this and heal?
I’ve been feeling the compulsion of confession again. I hate confessing things to my boyfriend I don’t want him to carry the burden. I’d rather hurt than him hurt. But I feel I did something wrong and he needs to know. Like I need to be punished or something. I may be over reacting to it but I just feel guilty and I had a panic attack when I woke up yesterday. I would never cheat on him. Just making guys laugh I feel like I am doing him wrong or flirting. And then when I notice it I just feel awful. I just want to be liked and noticed not romantically but just as a human. I don’t know why I act like this and feel the need to tell him as if I slept with someone. I think it’s attacking my biggest fear which is losing him. Does anyone have experience with this?
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