OCDewewew
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Confessing
I need tips on how to sit here, wanting to confess, but I can’t. It’s like torture. How do y’all deal w this????
_egg_egg
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- 1y
Ok don’t make fun of me but when I have the urge to confess I literally start singing “confessions” by usher in my head to help deflect the seriousness out of the situation. I know every word by HEART. does this help every time? No. It does help me become self aware of what’s happening when the song pops in my head though 🤐
Catlove9Catlove9
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous Omg I love this. And I love that song.
cr2857cr2857
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
Hi! Something I really like to do when resisting a compulsion is writing about it! Be careful as this could possibly become compulsive as well for some people, but I like to acknowledge what I’m feeling and what compulsions I’m trying not to do. For me it looks something like this: -I’m feeling anxious - I have the urge to confess - I have had this feeling and this urge many times, and it always passes. I also find it helpful to delay the compulsions! So if you feel like to HAVE to confess RIGHT NOW try to tell yourself you’ll do it later, maybe even set a timer. Ideally, if you can bring your anxiety down and get through the discomfort you’ll realize you don’t need to do the compulsions at all, even when the time comes.
bjornkattbjornkatt
- Date posted
- 1y
Maybe I'm lucky that I have fairly judgmental people in my life, because whenever I have the urge to confess something to someone, I remind myself that doing so almost always makes things awkward or worse when I do so
StoicGuyStoicGuy
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
To add onto what others have suggested I'd suggest you don't have to literally sit there and do nothing. Do something productive or fun. Just don't give into the compulsions. As long as you aren't avoiding the thoughts or forcing them away then you can decide to do something more important with your time. When the thoughts come just allow them to sit there and then go back to what you were doing.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
Reminding myself the urge is like a wave it comes and goes regardless of what I do
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
I cry it out and that helps too
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- Date posted
- 19w
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