I keep getting anxiety about this one friend

Try to asnwer OCD's question with non-engagement responses as "i don't know"; "i won't figure that out", "maybe", and don't avoid meeting with her because avoidance is a big compulsion. Be willing to tolerate the dicsomfort anxiety and uncerainty. You've got this!

This is very relatable to me! I have a friend like this too. When I was growing up I had a big crush on him. But now we are grown and I’m in a relationship with a man I adore! I want to be loyal, it’s one of my biggest measures of my self worth, but oftentimes I have thoughts as if I still have feelings for my friend. Just as you described, I know logically that I don’t like him and I don’t want to like him, but it makes me feel like the thought alone is a betrayal. You know, I actually talked to my boyfriend about my worries and he said that actions have more value than thoughts. Thoughts come and go, they pop up uncontrollably, they don’t mean anything on their own. Actions are easier to trust, they are the real indicators of who we are and what we want.

hey there, i can see how tough these feelings have been for you, it sounds really draining and intrusive. 😕 and how it feels scary and confusing because it's regarding a friend. everyone deserves to have peace of mind, you included. btw, have you ever heard of "unstuck"? it's an ai-powered therapy tool for ocd (unstuckmyocd.com/try). i've been using it this month and it's really been a game-changer, you might find it helpful too! 🙏 another member on here recommended it to me and honestly, i wish i'd known about it sooner.