I made a big mistake trusting someone in my past and it’s made me obsessive over it. To the point where everyone distrust me and I’m creating obsessions in my mind. It affects my work, relationships with family and friends I thought I had.
May I suggest to look at this differently? Trusting someone is not your mistake but theirs. When someone hurts us by behaving poorly is not something we should feel guilty about. The truth is people are unpredictable and OCD is there because our fears over uncertainty and beliefs that we will only be ok if what will fear will never happen! The truth is we will be ok in an imperfect world. Accept that even the wisest/ smartest people in the world are not capable of predicting 100% of the time human behavior. Be kind to yourself ❤️ Wishing all the best in your future relationships.
hey there, i'm really feeling for you right now. you're dealing with a lot, but remember, you're not alone in this, maintaining relationships and work while managing OCD isn't a cakewalk. you ever hear about "unstuck"? it's this really cool AI therapy tool for OCD (unstuckmyocd.com/try) and it's been a huge help for me this past month. someone on this forum mentioned it once and i wish i'd found out about it sooner. 😌✌️
How can I cope with real event ocd, with some terrible mistakes Ive made in my past? I also am paranoid and delusional pretty much about everything. I am obsessing lke a paranoid. I just want it to stop.
I’m obsessing over every past bad decision or every stupid thing I did as a kid or teenager. I have this terrifying fear that mistakes are going to come back and haunt me and ruin my life. Anyone have any encouraging words?
Truthfully i am just so exhausted from being obsessed with how I affect others in my life. I am constantly questioning if I make their lives better or worse and why. I'm an extrovert and if it seems like I'm positively affecting people when I socialize, I feel on top of the world. But when I can't improve someone's mood when I talk to them I feel depressed and drained. I have this belief that I am intrinsically awful and harmful to be around and I have to be extra helpful and cheerful to make up for it. I think about the problems that everyone in my life struggles with and convince myself that I am the cause of it or making them worse. I isolate, believing I am harmful to others and I am sparing them. When they feel neglected, I panic because I caused them harm when I was trying to save them. I don't want to live like this anymore. In some ways it was easier when I was alone. I just can't stop obsessing about my loved ones in this way. I almost begin to crave abandonment because at least the thoughts would stop coming. Does that make me a bad person? I don't really actually want to be abandoned by my loved ones, but at least I know how to handle abandonment. I don't know how to handle normal loving relationships.
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