How can I get over the feeling of needing to confess everything? Even private thoughts & situations … nobody’s business but my own. But I feel like I’m doing something wrong and keeping big secrets. Thanks!
I struggle with this too! My therapist has given me the phrase “the time limit has expired” for when I start to ruminate on my past “mistakes”, especially if they are things that happened beyond 6 months ago. Not everything necessitates confession. I sort of have a rule that if I really really want to confess something I can speak to my therapist but I can’t keep bringing up the same things. Discussing it once is enough. I’m struggling not to bring up a past mistake with my current therapist that I discussed with a previous therapist but I tell myself that it’s been put to bed. It’s OCD wanting me to get reassurance again from a different therapist. It’s so tough to keep going and accept all of this! OCD will always try to make you doubt what you’re doing so just remember if doubt is present then it’s most likely OCD. Don’t fuel it with the confession compulsion.
I really struggled with this when I was younger. It can be really hard to need to confess things that don’t need to be revealed. My mom used to tell me that some things are meant to be kept to yourself, and that it’s not lying about it either if you do. It’s healthy to have secrets as long as they aren’t harmful to anyone.
I don’t know how to stop confessing. It’s driving me insane. I confess every little thing to my boyfriend. I confessed that I liked attention (this is so obviously human), that I liked it when people found me pretty (also very human??) I confessed about a million other things and I feel out of control. I felt so safe with him last night that it just started pouring out of me. I felt guilty and awful and I just needed release, I couldn’t breathe I felt like I was dying. I’m stuck in a confessing loop and I know I’m only making things worse. Has anyone experienced this and been able to overcome it? It feels absolutely horrible and impossible. I tried to ERP this and I genuinely feel like I am suffocating if I hold off. I feel so disappointed in myself, but I can’t seem to stop. I even had a dream where I confessed to him and woke up needed to confess that. I’m scared I’ll start sharing my worst intrusive thoughts I’ve had if I feel too safe around my bf. Help please :(
I understand trying to find comfort in your thoughts but what can i do if i can’t keep these thoughts to myself sometimes?
I feel like I need to confess everything to my wife. This week it’s gotten me in a lot of trouble, there’s more I feel I need to confess but I know it’ll hurt her. How do I just not!
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