How can I get over the feeling of needing to confess everything? Even private thoughts & situations … nobody’s business but my own. But I feel like I’m doing something wrong and keeping big secrets. Thanks!
I struggle with this too! My therapist has given me the phrase “the time limit has expired” for when I start to ruminate on my past “mistakes”, especially if they are things that happened beyond 6 months ago. Not everything necessitates confession. I sort of have a rule that if I really really want to confess something I can speak to my therapist but I can’t keep bringing up the same things. Discussing it once is enough. I’m struggling not to bring up a past mistake with my current therapist that I discussed with a previous therapist but I tell myself that it’s been put to bed. It’s OCD wanting me to get reassurance again from a different therapist. It’s so tough to keep going and accept all of this! OCD will always try to make you doubt what you’re doing so just remember if doubt is present then it’s most likely OCD. Don’t fuel it with the confession compulsion.
I really struggled with this when I was younger. It can be really hard to need to confess things that don’t need to be revealed. My mom used to tell me that some things are meant to be kept to yourself, and that it’s not lying about it either if you do. It’s healthy to have secrets as long as they aren’t harmful to anyone.
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