Nia
- Date posted
- 6y
UltimatelyumiUltimatelyumi
- Date posted
- 6y
I understand this, a lot. I have been through this before and I used to be TERRIFIED of being abusive. Try and let yourself press the button. Don’t even let yourself check if you’re manipulative, just... press it! “ur being manipulative ahahahha” Is what your OCD might say. But you know what? FUDGE IT. say what you want to say!!! Maybe you are being manipulative, maybe you’re not. Who knows? It’s okay to be uncertain. Keep doing what YOU want to do, don’t let your OCD keep you away from your values!! Sending love to you!!! ?❤️
UltimatelyumiUltimatelyumi
- Date posted
- 6y
@Svaupe Don’t you think that saying that to the other person is a compulsion? Since it relieves you of the idea that they might think you’re manipulative, so you tell them yourself that you’re not being manipulative.
SvaupeSvaupe
- Date posted
- 6y
I often feel this way too! One thing I’ve started doing recently is to explicitly express this concern to the person I’m talking to or texting with. For instance, I was texting someone about something sensitive recently and was afraid I might come across as manipulative so I just honestly mentioned something along the lines of “I promise I’m not trying to be manipulative, I genuinely —“. That made me feel much better, and the other person understood this and responded positively. While you can’t always control what others might think, I find that being honest about these concerns helps you keep your conscience clear and also let’s the other person know that you don’t intend to manipulate them in any way.
harriet221harriet221
- Date posted
- 6y
@svaupe I completely understand why you do that as I do things to relieve myself to but apologizing for it, kinda buys into the idea that you are that. At that moment it’s just a mere thought, by mentioning it you kind of are making it real. I suggest trying not to and see how it goes :)
SvaupeSvaupe
- Date posted
- 6y
@Ultimatelyumi - Yes, I think you’re right, I’m so sorry! Thanks for pointing that out, gives me something to contemplate about as well.
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- Date posted
- 21w
anybody else
any of y’all feel like every single thing you say is some sort of manipulation. like you’re not genuine at all and everything you do is to get something out of something? the same with therapists too. i feel like ever since i was a kid i’ve manipulated my therapists in some way, like to look like the victim or so they’d think about me a certain way. like therapy could never help me cause i can’t tell when i’m lying or manipulating or whatever. i’ve seen someone mention something similar on here and just wanted to see what y’all thought!
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