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- 5y ago
I understand this, a lot. I have been through this before and I used to be TERRIFIED of being abusive. Try and let yourself press the button. Don’t even let yourself check if you’re manipulative, just... press it! “ur being manipulative ahahahha” Is what your OCD might say. But you know what? FUDGE IT. say what you want to say!!! Maybe you are being manipulative, maybe you’re not. Who knows? It’s okay to be uncertain. Keep doing what YOU want to do, don’t let your OCD keep you away from your values!! Sending love to you!!! ?❤️
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- 5y ago
@Svaupe Don’t you think that saying that to the other person is a compulsion? Since it relieves you of the idea that they might think you’re manipulative, so you tell them yourself that you’re not being manipulative.
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- 5y ago
I often feel this way too! One thing I’ve started doing recently is to explicitly express this concern to the person I’m talking to or texting with. For instance, I was texting someone about something sensitive recently and was afraid I might come across as manipulative so I just honestly mentioned something along the lines of “I promise I’m not trying to be manipulative, I genuinely —“. That made me feel much better, and the other person understood this and responded positively. While you can’t always control what others might think, I find that being honest about these concerns helps you keep your conscience clear and also let’s the other person know that you don’t intend to manipulate them in any way.
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- 5y ago
@svaupe I completely understand why you do that as I do things to relieve myself to but apologizing for it, kinda buys into the idea that you are that. At that moment it’s just a mere thought, by mentioning it you kind of are making it real. I suggest trying not to and see how it goes :)
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- 5y ago
@Ultimatelyumi - Yes, I think you’re right, I’m so sorry! Thanks for pointing that out, gives me something to contemplate about as well.
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So, if I'm retelling a story or relaying information to someone, after I'm done speaking, my brain will send me thoughts like, "What if you lied? You might have told the story wrong! You're lying!" I've started second-guessing myself, even when I know I'm not lying or telling the story wrong😭 This has also bled into twisting my intentions behind certain actions... For example, the other day, I'd been babysitting my younger brothers. I'd gone to use the restroom and thought, "What if the door isn't locked or closed all the way?" Because this has happened once in the past. Turns out, it didn't lock correctly, and one of my little brothers almost walked in on me, but luckily, I shut the door in time, and we laughed it off. But then, I kept getting thoughts like, "You knew that would happen, and you didn't double-check! You wanted that to happen and for him to walk in!" :( I know this isn't true, but it's so annoying! Has anyone dealt with this? If you have, do you have any advice on how to deal with these thoughts?
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- 11w ago
When I talk about how terrible I used to be to my girlfriend it makes me feel like I’m gonna do it again which I don’t wanna do and it scares me and then I get intrusive thoughts and feelings about it doing it but I don’t want to, weird I know.
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Recently ive been getting very scared to even be angry bc of the horrible thoughts I have and it feels even more real when I'm angry or even annoyed. Rn I was not even super annoyed at my neice but I felt a twinge of annoyance since she went up to my face and was yelling at me while I was resting on the bed and I got this image of doing something bad to her and I felt my hand twitch very little. I got nervous and felt relieved when her dad told her to stop screaming for no reason. I've been hyperfocusing on my bodily reactions (mainly my hands or how I'm feeling like did I just enjoy that? Was I considering???) And I've noticed the small twitches whenever I'm mad or annoyed and it's scaring me so bad! Like do I want to act out? Am I holding back??? I used to not even twitch at all when mad and I felt 100% sure I'll never act out but now it feels like I don't know bc what do these twitches mean?, I do know I don't want to ever act out but it's so scary. Recently whenever I feel angry once the argument is over I cry really bad after I'm alone and I pray so i never want or act out. And when the annoyance passes I also feel so guilty and want to stay away. Im scared these are real urges and i research for many many hours to make sure they arent urges or impulses and i also tend to ask chatgpt or here if the anxiety gets so bad 😕
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