Seeking reassurance is NOT the answer! Be careful!

I have noticed users posting multiple times everyday, daily, for weeks now. Every time someone does NOT provide reassurance in their comment sections, they try posting again until, eventually, someone comments reassurance. This is not a healthy method to solve your OCD and is rather a constant feedback loop that will never combat OCD at its source! This app can be a temptation and CAN worsen our OCD. I know this, I’ve experienced it. Just like any other tool, it can do both good and bad. Hopefully this doesn’t sound incriminating because it’s more so me expressing genuine concern for some of you all.. ****TRIGGER WARNING AHEAD*** I’ve seen some of these situations escalate in terrifying ways. One user used s*lf-h*rm as leverage to guilt trip another user into giving them reassurance. Another user got upset when others didn’t give the right responses and called them horrible names. Guys, this is NOT how this app should be used. Please, if you find yourself desperate for reassurance multiple times a day, PLEASE leave this app! The app is NOT helping. For the ones who escalated, this app is making you desperate in ways that are harmful to both yourself and others!!!! We want the best for you, but if you find yourself unable to listen to our advice, PLEASE reconsider how this app may be helping (or not helping) you heal. Best wishes, everyone. Sending love to everyone here!!!

Date posted: 1y

I think there are lots of young and inexpirenced people here that dont know where to start. Maybe some reasurance can help them stay here and learn more about OCD and their problems. Its important for them to know they are not alone

Cinnamoroll

Date posted: 1y

@FZ Very good point!! I agree. I hope I didn’t sound too harsh in my post. When I first sought out therapy, I wasn’t familiar with OCD (and neither was my therapist), so I was given nothing but reassurance. It was helpful at the time, but ultimately not a long term solution. I am also more so referring to those who have escalated!

Date posted: 1y

@Cinnamoroll Reasurance in OCD is practicaly form of compulsion in some way if you ask me and its unwated in threatment. But I think some confrontation to the newcomers is good to stay here with us or seek help somewhere else. They are very sensitive and confused.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 43w

@FZ Knowing they are not alone, can happen by listening and replying without giving reassurance. We should not give the newbies reassurance to lure them in to staying. We should explain to them right from the start that reassurance seeking and giving is bad and why.

Nica

Date posted: 1y

Great post! ❤️💪🏻

Date posted: 1y

But of course its not a long term treatment

Date posted: 1y

And should be avoided as much as possible

Ocd9239

Date posted: 1y

I 100% agree with this post

Bepis23

Date posted: 1y

My dumbass drove to a friends house in the middle of a work night just to seek reassurance. I’m really regretting it and still don’t feel fulfilled.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 43w

@Cinnamoroll: You posted this very important comment over 200 days ago. Unfortunately, nothing has changed. I even found that some users seem to do not much else than constantly reassure others. I also made a post about it though, but I don't expect much to come from it.

moon0270

Date posted: 25w

I think I need to take a step back

Finding this app has helped me a lot in feeling like I'm not isolated and I've definitely met so many kind and helpful people here. You guys have helped me on my darkest days. However, because of my fragile state of mind, I think scrolling on here is becoming a compulsion and I feel like I end up triggering myself more by scrolling through some posts. I think it just ends up adding more to my intrusive thoughts and more ammo for my false memories and POCD to latch on to. And I know exposures are good for treating OCD, but this level of exposure seems to be doing more harm than good. So I will try to be less active (maybe I won't, who knows lol).

Derickk

Date posted: 23w

Let me be honest.

Ok so I just downloaded this app like two days ago because I was looking for a OCD specialist. Maybe this is just my opinion but the posting’s on this app can be super triggering. If feels like even sharing your experience on an app like this can contribute to fueling OCD. So many people I see reassurance seeking, confessing and posting the same things multiple times to gain certainty. Makes me wonder if this app is counterproductive to the point of OCD treatment. I’m guilty of spending hours scrolling through the post trying to find people who relate to me, but in the end it makes me more anxious and fuels my OCD. Idk what do you guys think.

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Date posted: 20w

Reassurance Seeking

I told my OCD group about NOCD and one of the members brought up that this app, despite its intent to create a safe community for sharing OCD experiences could potentially be used for reassurance seeking, thus contributing to compulsions. I’ve noticed some posts about people venting and asking for reassurance and I wonder the same thing.

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