ive been having a real bad struggle with my ocd around people being mean to me. when i come home from work my brain doesnt know how to stop the voices of those rude customers throughout the day and its starting to make me super depressed. its hard to not take it personally for someone as sensitive as i am
You can use being sensitive to your advantage. I also am a HSP , highly sensitive person. Figure this the average person that is rude is more than likely dealing with a lot of personal issues that are stressful and hurtful to them . And people lash out at others that have nothing to do with their own dramas . I know it is difficult getting dumped on with negativity but try your best to be positive and kind . In the long run good karma will come back to you.
my grandpa always says to treat others the way you want to be treated and thats what im doing. i did cry about why people are so rude multiple times this month but.. i gotta keep on being nice to rude people hopefully theyll be nicer once im nice i tried being kurt with people because im just sick of it at this point but whats the use if theyre just going to tell me that im being rude? so my goal is to just be nice. thats it
TBH I can be rude at times and depending on the situation, if the person on the receiving end of me being rude is calm and polite I might apologize at a later time and explain that I was out of line that I am sorry š. No one is perfect.
today i wasnt being rude to a customer but he came in screaming about a return that he didnt even buy at the store and when i walked away (because ive had trouble with that i always wanna know why the person is so angry) and told the dude that someone else will be handling him he came back at me with the whole "that was really rude to say" when all i was doing was being nothin but nice to him so of course i went to my car on lunch and cried like a baby but i finished the day being as nice as pie
i just wish people had more respect for others all i wanna tell em is "STOP IT I HAVE REALLY BAD OCD AND WHAT YOURE DOING IS MAKING IT WORSE!" ahahahaha
man these few weeks have been so hard. iām in the process of getting diagnosed with ocd, im almost positive i have it because everything on here relates to me on an insane level. but im just so scared dude. these thoughts of me harming someone are so scary and im so scared im gonna eventually act on them and i know i never want to but its still so scary. like sometimes when i talk to my mom about it i think in the back of my head āyou know you want toā when i dont, and it makes me think or gets me scared that i do. these thoughts literally just happened out of nowhere and it messes me up so bad my literal perspective on life in general is just messed up. like i view life as its more common to be a bad person and its rare/hard to be good. can someone please just pray for me or just wish me better days. i dont even like looking at myself anymore and im scared i give off creepy vibes to myself or others now, this sucks so much
I feel super sad and depressed i'm tired of feeling so scared it's really changing me. My mom is a pretty difficult person she's a borderline narcissist. Over the years our relationship has changed a lot and recently i've been pretty hard on her because i feel so angry that she's not able to support me mentally in the ways that i need. I see now that she's mentally ill herself and i should be nicer and more understanding. she doesn't know better and she's trying her best. she was just a girl once and i feel bad that i said she lacks a motherly instinct. i love her a lot and i love seeing her laugh and be herself. she's super beautiful and unique and she deserved so much more out of life. I think my ocd makes me super angry towards the people in my life because i know i deserve the love i give. I would be so willing to have a really deep loving conversation with the people close to me yet i get such surface level support.
(I work at a bank, this is my first full time job. I am in the teller drive through and this is my second week, I am also the youngest and least experienced employee of this branch.) We were extremely busy, thereās only me and one more employee in the drive thru. Thereās 3 cars in each line waiting, and Iām overwhelmed and sweating. Spot 4 sends up the tube, and rings for assistance. I speak into the mic to her spot, āIāll be right with you!ā. She begins to demand something but i turn off the speaker because I told her iād be with her soon and I donāt have time rn. I jokingly say to myself āGirl i said iād be right with youā. My coworker (who has previously called customers b**ches behind their back) says āthat isnāt how we speak about customers, we just remind them again that we will be with them in a minuteā. i say āsorryā and speak to Spot 4, āIām so sorry maāam thereās a couple ppl ahead of you, Iāll be right with youā, she starts screaming and cussing me out, saying āIF YOUD LISTEN TO ME YOU ****ā etc etc āI NEED TO DEPOSIT THIS NOWā i say āokay maāamā. iām bad at confrontation, im sweating and on the verge of tears. i finish my transaction and her tube comes back with a 7ā stack of u organized and mutilated bills and 3 different deposit slips. I panic, iām new, the amount is over my drawer limit. i say āiām not comfortable doing this ladyās transaction, i donāt feel ready, can i watch you do it?ā my coworker says āno you can do itā. itās already 30 min past my shift ending, i havenāt balanced my drawer, i closed last night and opened this morning, im running on 3 hrs of sleep, and i havenāt eaten in 2 days. Spot 4 is ringing again to demand me to hurry up. i start tearing up and looking around for help, i finally grab someoneās attention, and they help me thru the transaction, but it was obvious they were annoyed. i canāt stop rethinking this and thinking i made it all up and im just an idiot. what did i do wrong???? ive been having a panic attack for 2 hours since my shift ended, im in hysterics, it feels like im doing compulsions extra due to the stress
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