And that everything has become really serious? I used to be such a happy go lucky guy who just took everything in his stride and now my whole life is about this ocd and trying to work out where it come from and what i can do to sort it out
I can relate!! I feel so overwhelmed and consumed with all this new information and how to sort through it. I miss the fun side of me but I think we have to have grace with ourselves. I used humor and fun to hide emotions for so long. I buried decades of child pain. Time will make things better and we got to find the little examples of hope, humor, and love when we can. The fun side is still in us and we will be even more fun and powerful on the other side!!! Cheers to you and your journey!
Don’t lose the fun Joe87 life is too short! Try to watch an episode of The 3 Stooges for a quick humor pick me up.
My boyfriend does not have OCD, but he ruminates and gets stuck on unrealistic expectations. The "shoulda's" are his favorite. How he should be a certain way, how he used to be so much more, it's an unrealistic expectation that things should be a certain way, and that leads to frustration and disappointment. It's important to truly see yourself and know that no matter what may happen, how things may seem, you are still you. The person you want to be is still there. This time is not to compare the way things were, but to adapt and learn, to practice self compassion and patience. I woke up one day with neurological tremors that completely affected my world. I was forced to retire as a walking OSHA hazard lol and that left me feeling and thinking that same frustration and disappointment. It's not easy, and your feelings and frustrations are valid and understandable. See yourself less of a different person, and more of a new you, whatever that means is up to you. "Ad astra per aspera."
Does anyone whos been through trauma and ocd or just ocd alone feel like they’ve changed like not the same happy go lucky person you use to be. Maybe have a outlook on life that isn’t has positive as it once was? My parents told my wife that I’ve changed but I’ve been through a lot and it’s only been 2 years like I expect people to be as positive as they once were to some extent. Idk maybe just me.
It’s so weird how OCD just comes about with no explanation, out of nowhere. My issue has been feelings. I have moments of hyper focusing on feelings, trying to figure them out, and it’s exhausting. Logically, I know that what I’m going through with the things happening in my life (relationship ending that was abusive, my father just getting diagnosed with dementia, etc) would make anyone feel the way I do. But I keep trying to fight my feelings. “Normally, old me” would embrace them and let them be. Ever since my OCD returned, I can’t help but fixate on them and stress even more. It’s almost like my emotions and the way we are as humans in my mind has become even more of a problem than the problems themselves. Can anyone relate? I am doing my best with ERP. I definitely helps. But I’m still waking up not feeling like myself and it hurts.
how can I stop obsessing over my thoughts? they won’t go away and I’m convinced it’s never going to get better for me. I used to be such a happy person and ocd has completely destroyed me and taken over my life. I can’t enjoy things anymore.
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