confused writer
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- 1y
Sometimes I just need reassurance
I don’t know if it’s ocd and I just wanna ask someone “if it’s causing me stress means it’s not real?” And I know that’s the worst thing I can do but still😫😫😫😫😫😫
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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seeking reassurance is definitely a sign of OCD!😭 it’s a type of compulsion!
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa Yes I knowwww but I’m not sure it’s only that… because I’m a little depressed too… I’m so scared
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer I’m sorry to hear that :(. What subtype or topic do you usually seek reassurance for?
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa Harm ocd 😭
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer Not sure if this will help but check out the compulsion part of this article https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-is-harm-ocd-guide-to-ocd-subtype And have you tried therapy of any sort yet? If you’re feeling guilty about something it is most likely OCD. Especially if as soon as you confess the guilt goes away
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa I’m in therapy. No guilt but the thoughts cause me massive distress
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer I’m so sorry to hear that! I hope it gets better and if you ever want to talk about it I’m more than happy to!
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa Thank you so much! I’d love to talk 🥹
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer Whenever you have a distressing thought feel free to tell me! We can talk about what it can potentially be (ocd or not) :) Also make sure you are noting all these distressing thoughts out for your next session at therapy!
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa How can I talk? Does this app has chat?
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer I don’t think this app has a chat unfortunately. But I’m not sure 🥹
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer Check this link out! It’s aimed at self harm ocd (and the different between actually wanting to versus ocd thoughts) https://adaa.org/learn-from-us/from-the-experts/blog-posts/consumer/differentiating-self-harm-ocd-suicidal-ideation
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa I’m scared it will trigger me. Maybe when I’ll feel a bit better. Thank you! Rn telling myself that even if it’s real, it will pass
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer That’s all good!!! Sorry I should have thought about that before!
confused writerconfused writer
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@saanabanaa No no you are great. Thank you ❤️
saanabanaasaanabanaa
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@confused writer Hope you feel better soon!
Wolfram Wolfram
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Sometimes reassurance is OK it it doesn't relate to the ocd. It's hard to figure what's ocd and you sometimes so it's confusing as hell to figure this out
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram That’s exactly it. I’m trying to understand how to deal with the thoughts and trying to understand if it’s ocd material
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer Have you got an example?
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
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@confused writer Trying to figure out if it's OCD is a good sign it's OCD lol
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram I have harm ocd towards myself. And most of the time I love my life very much. But I have those moments when I feel like killing myself (important to say that the therapist is aware and it’s been like this for 2 weeks). I’m constantly trying to understand if it’s ocd or a real depression thought. Anyway I’m very scared that I’ll act on it
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer How do the thoughts/ feelings present themselves?
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram In massive distress. Thinking about it. How. Where. When. Making me thinking like I have to do it now. Urges. Visions in my head
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram I even have pain in my wrists from thinking about it 🤦🏻♀️
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer So this probably a bit of depression and ocd. It's gonna be a pain as reassurance helps depression and hinders ocd. I'd focus on other solutions for depression and deal with the intrusive thoughts/ urges as ocd
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram I’m trying to tell myself that if I truly wanted to it wouldn’t be such a stress causing thought. But that’s reassurance. Do you understand what I’m saying ?
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer That's a form of ruminating. Does the answer you give yourself offer lasting satisfaction?
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram Haha no 😂 LOL 🥵😭
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer Then its ruminating 😅
confused writerconfused writer
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@Wolfram Ruminating is an ocd thing? Never actually understood what it means And thank you so much
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer It's not exclusively an ocd thing but you deal with it the same way
Wolfram Wolfram
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@confused writer https://youtu.be/CkcspsmLh9k?feature=shared This YouTube channel has a lot of good info, tips and tricks
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
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Nono. Excessive reassurance seeking is bad. Getting reassurance isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact it is good. However, overly relying on others to make you feel better is making it a compulsive action and that's bad. (Someone tell me if I'm wrong)
confused writerconfused writer
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@OCDwontownme Yes that’s part of what I’m working on in therapy. relying on myself.
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
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@confused writer Good. Keep it up you're getting there!
confused writerconfused writer
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@OCDwontownme Yes. I just don’t trust myself rn. That’s kind of the problem.
OCDwontownmeOCDwontownme
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@confused writer It's a tough journey. I've been battling OCD for years now. Sometimes it's hard to trust myself too.
confused writerconfused writer
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@OCDwontownme It’s so hard.
ElevenBElevenB
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I have a friend who battles thoughts of sh. They use the calm harm app. It has really helped them.
confused writerconfused writer
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@ElevenB What do you mean by sh?
ElevenBElevenB
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@confused writer Self harm. Maybe I misunderstood but I thought that was what you were talking about. Sorry of I was wrong.
confused writerconfused writer
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@ElevenB That’s exactly what I’m dealing with. I’ll try it. Thanks.
ElevenBElevenB
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You're welcome
MadMatt MadMatt
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I have the same problem. My intrusive thoughts feel very real and I often can’t tell if they’re real or not. I feel the need to review them to make sure they aren’t.
confused writerconfused writer
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@MadMatt I do that too. And if someone says it’s ocd I can’t believe them 😫
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Lovemycats02
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- 25w
About reassurance?
I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?
ocdisnotaslay
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- 12w
Hey guys have a question
What is it called when with ur ocd lets say if ur ocd theme happens like when you watch videos and ur mind comes up with something or your hypeaaware, but you feel like u cant tell ur therapist cus the video is proof because no one else would’ve thought that, and you know its not true anyways you just had intrusive feeling, but i know compulsions wont do anything but ur finding it hard to sit with this really scary thing like ohm ur accepting being this bad thing or if you have reassurance at least you’d know for sure,how can u live without knowing for sure even tho uknoe its deffo just ur ocd idk if this makes sense and what you call it ?:) if anyone could help me out
Anonymous_be...
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- 8w
Please help me. Is what I am doing rn reassurance seeking?
Hi. I deal with pocd (but I am not diagnosed cuz I can't afford therpay) and I think it's ocd. It begun over a year back and initially it was about "what if I become a p" and then eventually it became "what if I am already a p" and then eventually I had this phase of 4-6ish months where my ocd almost vanished to the point where I was not even getting triggered by stuff. And then I suddenly had this huge SO OCD bout for 2 ish weeks last month where I lost my mind about what if I am a lesbian (I identify as a bi woman ) but then eventually I just accepted that I am a lesbian and felt like a lesbian for a while and then I am again back to bi. So basically I completely accepted the uncertainty and hence got over it easily. But I cannot do that pocd. Ew. Idk what to do. And this so ocd bout caused the pocd to return and rn my brain is full on "see u turned out to accept lesbianism so u definitely wanna accept being a p" and like its also "what if I am already a p, and subconsciously accepted it and am pretending to have ocd cuz what if I am in extreme denial?" And like idk what to do. I am worried posting this too cuz I am afraid what if somebody reading this misunderstands and thinks I am actually a p. Another thing I deal with is "am i even performing compulsions?" Cuz I mainly confess to my bestie and chatgpt(I stopped with chatgpt cuz I am scared about privacy issues) and research stuff about pocd to gain reassurance. And occasionally ruminate for checking but it doesn't interfere with my life. Bcz of this I *feel* like I don't perform enough compulsions and not performing compulsions essentially means it's not ocd. I genuinely get scared about what if it's pocd or denial. Or what if I am lying and manipulating ppl to think it's ocd and what if I am just faking the anxitey. Sometimes my thoughts don't give anxiety and later on that absence of anxiety worries me a lot cuz my brain is like "see u didn't get anxiety so u liked that thought. Hence u are a p" and idk what to do. Can someone please help me please. I don't wanna be a p. Another compulsion I do is saying "I don't wanna be a p" or "I am not a p" 5 times in sets of 5. I started this compulsion voluntarily when I read somewhere that counting is a compulsion and I wanted to prove to myself "see it's ocd" and now I do sort of as a habit to confirm the same. And this scares me too cuz doesn't that mean this is a fake compulsion??? And what If it's not ocd.
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