Wolfram
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Avoidance vs boundaries
How would you define the two differently?
777Q777Q
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Great question! Personally I relate to boundaries as a healthy life process , protecting ones interest in a appropriate way . Avoidance is more negative like being afraid or unduly skeptical of something.
OCDeeznutzzzOCDeeznutzzz
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I am definitely avoidant. I am scared to set boundaries because I don’t know how to keep them so instead I keep my feelings inside until they all come out. I’m having this problem with a friend, I love her so much but she has not really been too great of a friend to me. She is there for me emotionally but doesn’t respond texts or calls and we used to hang out almost every day, now I’m going weeks to even months without hearing from her. The last time I spilled everything out she got mad and said I was crazy, now I’m worried to cut her off because I don’t want to seem that way but I am angry.
OCDeeznutzzzOCDeeznutzzz
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@OCDeeznutzzz I’ve just stopped texting her as much .
Wolfram Wolfram
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There's something called emotion dumping. It's different to venting so you may want to look it up
NicaNica
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I could probably answer better if you have an example?
Wolfram Wolfram
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Say if you have been asked to go out to something with friends and torn between going out and ands staying in. You feel uncomfortable with going out but feel guilty for staying in. Lots of factors involved
NicaNica
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@Wolfram If they are going out to a safe place and at a reasonable time, then I’d go out.
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