i don’t know if this could be my ocd playing into it but recently my dad just turned 60 and for the past 3 days i’ve been thinking about how my parents aren’t gonna be around forever and it’s making really anxious and sad, i keep questioning how long i’ll have left with him and looking up if 60 is an old age. Has anyone else gone through this ?
I've had this, and also fears about ageing in general. What helped me was knowing tomorrow is not promised. I could fear how much time I have left with my parents and worry about the future but the truth is things could change in an instant. You could go before your parents, they could go before you. You just never know. People step out of their houses ready for another regular day and they never return. My point is just focus on each day as it comes, worrying about the future just brings unnecessary stress.
Yup sure do.
I feel this way with my parents too. There's no easy way to deal with it but one thing I often think of is think of how old you are, and how it's likely that by the time you're the age they are now they could still be around. If that makes sense
Hi, my dad turned 80 a few weeks ago and last year he was diagnosed with a very advanced terminal cancer and given only months to live. He is hanging in there and doing better than expected all things considered. He lives in Europe and I live in the USA. Yes, it is extremely hard. Fortunately, I have a great boss who lets me travel back and forth between the US and Europe and I am here with dad now and I got to celebrate his 80th birthday with him. I had the same exact thoughts - just wrapping my mind around the idea my parents won’t be here anymore. I am working on accepting that none of us will live forever and I just do my best to be there for my dad now. I also have a good support system - friends who are very understanding and are there for me when I am upset and cry. All those fears you have about parents again are normal. It is totally terrifying watching my dad go from being completely mobile, driving and self-sufficient to malnourished and barely walking with two canes now. We go on walks together and we talk about life and I work on accepting the reality. It is very hard.
@Anonymous That’s very heartbreaking. Wish you and your family all the best.🙏
@elliss2 Thank you so much!
hey, i totally get how you're feeling. it's really tough dealing with those kinds of thoughts, especially when they spiral out of control. it's okay to feel anxious and sad about the future, but remember, you're not alone in this. 💔 have you heard about "unstuck"? it's an ai-powered therapy tool specifically for ocd (unstuckmyOCD.com). it's been a huge help for me this past month and could offer you some support too. another member here recommended it to me, and i just wish i'd known about it sooner.
hey, i totally get how you're feeling. the thought of losing someone close, especially a parent, can really stir up a lot of anxiety and sadness. it's tough, but you're not alone in this. many of us here have faced similar fears. 🖤 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck?' when i was going through something similar, what really helped me was this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyOCD.com/try) that my nocd therapist recommended. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it provides personalized step-by-step support when ocd tries to take the wheel with these kinds of fears, acting like an ocd therapist in your pocket. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3
@LeslieB3 Unstuck? I want to know more!
I actually have this app and it is genuinely such a game-changer for me when Im really struggling too, great rec
I get this as well. Like putting yourself through the mental and even physical trauma without the trauma even happening.
Does anyone else think about life so deeply all the time, i have always been a deep thinker since i was young and ive had ocd my whole life so that has made me think 10x deeper. I always think and worry how we are all here and nobody knows why and the fact that we all die also terrifies me and we dont know what happens after we do die. Im terrified of the people i love dying . but i also have suicide ocd, i dont want to hurt myself ever but i worry that if i become so depressed that i will or something like that and that turned into an ocd for me, i really dont want to ever hurt myself but feeling depressed scares me. For years now it has been an ocd thing for me about the people i love dying and i have to do mental complusions every single day , although it comes in phases where its worse than others. It has gotten worse because my dad just turned 50 and i turn 19 in 6 days, life is changing and everyone is getting older and its been making me depressed and anxious and theres nothing i can do about it because it is life. I just want to know if other people feel the same also. Its christmas eve and im just depressed and i dont know why.
Since I was a kid around 10/11 I’ve developed this extreme fear of aging, every birthday would send me in a spiral and my mind would be telling me “you’re getting older, no one will love you once you’re 30 or 40” “every single day you’re getting older” “you’ll only be young for so long” etc. It causes me extreme anxiety & due to my mental health I haven’t accomplished as much as other people my age. Does this count as OCD? How do I deal with this when it’s a FACT that I’m getting older every single year? I can’t avoid it.
idk if this is even ocd related, or if anyone relates, but im so sad about growing up. im gonna be twenty in 2 years. its not even a regular sad. i get like nauseous and a pain in my chest like when ur HEARTBROKEN. i cant think about my upbringing and especially my teenage years, and what i wasted, or time and memories i will not get back. I always get sad how I’ll never be 14,15,,16, again(this also makes my pocd act up but anyways lol). realizing I’ll never be able to experience an era of my life ever again really is gut wrenching to me. I can’t think about it too long or I’ll cry and feel really depressed. how do I feel better about this?? help??!
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