I am getting married in two months. Today was a terrible day. I went to church with my fiancé and there was no attraction at all and I felt I was towering over him so much taller. I couldn’t stop thinking about the attraction all day long. It just got worse as the day went on. What do I do in these situations. It is so bad at times:( what should I do when this happens
I remember leading up to my wedding I obsessed about these exact things every day . I told my partner what my ocd was saying and I did my exposures . OCD wants certainty and I don’t think we can give it it. Maybe your attracted to him , maybe your not. I’m sorry the work is so horrific and deffo got me up to a 10 anxiety but luckily it would take 40 mins to get it down and first and then eventually about 10 mins.
@Beatingocd Did it ever feel like you were completely not attracted at all. Height has always been an issue but yesterday it felt like my feelings were so true so I obsessed because I truly felt that way.
@bruin @Beatingocd did it ever feel like it was true feelings and not ocd? I’m so confused and just want to feel okay
Getting married is a big step. OCD hates big steps. It’s gonna hit you with everything. The presence of ROCD is usually the tell tale sign that you do truly love this person. Perceived lack of affection is the number one symptom of ROCD. BeatingOCD is right though. You have to accept uncertainty. Say “Maybe this isn’t OCD. Maybe this is REALLY how I feel.” You can’t struggle with the thoughts.
hey, i'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this, especially with your wedding coming up. it sounds like these thoughts about attraction and height differences are really taking a toll on you, making it hard to enjoy what should be a super exciting time. it's tough dealing with those intrusive thoughts that just won't quit. 😔 by the way, have you heard about this new ai-powered ocd therapy tool called 'unstuck?' when i was dealing with similar intrusive thoughts, this free ai ocd therapy tool (unstuckmyOCD.com/try) that my nocd therapist recommended really made a difference for me. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it offers personalized step-by-step support for dealing with intrusive thoughts, just like what you're experiencing. it's like having an ocd therapist in your pocket for those moments when the thoughts get overwhelming. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have qs or just want to talk more! <3
I actually have this app and it is genuinely such a game-changer for me when Im really struggling too, great rec
@LeslieB3 How do you move on when it is all you think about. I just can never get past it. I have been doing ERP it just seems to never go away. It makes me question everyday
@bruin - hi bruin, i really don't have an answer to that. I'm sorry. but I really do understand you and the frustration that you're having. I've experienced that and what happened to me was that I gained help from my therapist and also looked for things that would distract me.
I love my boyfriend so much. I am so afraid to get married though because of my OCD. A year ago I was fine and excited to eventually get married, but now it seems super nerve-wracking, and impossible, to me. I am a Christian and I have struggled with a lot of sexual sin in the past, before me and him started dating, but it eats me alive and I feel like if we do get married I have to confess all of it to him and that if I don’t I’m being dishonest and it’s horrifying. I know that nothing I ever struggled with was really that bad, I’m not going to get into that but he pretty much already knows the worst of it, but even when I have opened up to him I just feel like it’s not enough. My intrusive thoughts tell me that if I don’t tell him *everything* I’ve ever struggled with that I’m terrible, dishonest, a bad person, a hypocrite, a liar, that one day things will completely implode, that I’m destroying our relationship even though it’s completely healthy and he’s SO good to me, etc. I hate feeling this way. I want to marry this man, but it has become so terrifying to me. I feel like I absolutely do not deserve him and that I’m too awful and damaged for him. Me and him are long-distance and I’m even scared to meet him, to kiss him, etc. because I’m terrified of these fears coming up when I do. When I picture myself in 5-10 years being potentially married with kids, that thought in itself doesn’t give me anxiety, and in the grand scheme of things I can picture myself moving on from this anxiety, but at the same time in the present moment I feel like I’ll never move past this. I think this may be a form of ROCD and/or scrupulosity. I hate it I hate it I hate it. Does anybody else feel this way? Any other Christians who maybe relate?
Ok so I am getting married next year. My fiancé and I have been living together for a long time. I honestly am so worried about getting married to him, because of my most disturbing thoughts about my physical attraction to him. This thought originally came up when confronting the major life decision of moving in together, and it hasn’t stopped since. I feel sick, because a lot of times these thoughts and disturbances come up when I see him and actually don’t feel attraction to him. Almost every day I have these thoughts and think that I am hurting him by marrying him. On the other hand, I don’t want to deprive myself of something that I’ve always wanted, and I don’t want to be alone. Both of these fears seem like OCD, so it seems like the universe isn’t telling me the right decision to make. Help?
My anxiety has been terrible everyday for 8 months straight due to engagement and getting married. I am now a month away and everytime I see my partner I start really freaking out over height. The anxiety is so intense nothing is helping. I just cry everyday. It doesn’t feel like ocd but real thoughts. What do I do:( please help me.
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