I honestly do not have a desire to be sxeual with a woman (I am a woman) nor do I see myself in a relationship with a woman romantically but since this theme has popped up again I panic around pretty women. What if me acknowledging she is pretty or has a nice figure means I want to have sex with her. I don't.
Sit with the uncertsinty. Or keep going "I'm gay" as ERP. you could maybe try being sarcastic. Just go "I am the gayest gay there is. I am so extremely gay. I am a pride flag" and talk back to ocd like that?
Exactly what the person who commented said! Be sarcastic with it and joke ! It’s because you’re freaking out over the thought so much to why it’s so strong ! We gotta let this shit go! Try to! It’s all ok! It doesn’t define who we are ! I get those thoughts sometimes too! Not a lot anymore , but I’ll see a good looking dude and think I got a crush on him, but then realize wait, he’s got body parts I don’t like lmfao, then think back to Jo koy (a comedian) calling a black man a sexy anubian god in one of his stand ups lol. And he’s straight . It’s totally fine to think the same sex is good looking or attractive , it’s doesn’t mean jack whatsoever .
hey, i totally get how confusing and distressing those thoughts can be, especially when they don't align with how you truly feel. it's super tough dealing with those intrusive thoughts, but remember, they're just thoughts, not reflections of your desires. 💭 so, i'm actually navigating a different ocd theme myself, but i've stumbled upon some tools that really help. one of them is the "unstuck ocd therapy tools" app. it's been a game-changer for me, offering AI-personalized guidance and exercises right when you need them. my local ocd support group recommended it, and it's been super helpful. also, the ocd stories podcast has been a great listen for me; it's full of insights and experiences from others living with ocd, which might offer you some comfort and understanding. 🎧
i have this app and i love it.. just a shame that more folks in the OCD community dont know about it yet!!
Hi, please be kind, this is quite a lot for me to open up about. I’m a 31 year old womanwith OCD and have had it for most of my life. Partly due to OCD and other things, cultural upbringing etc I’ve never been in a proper relationship, and as a result not had sex (not wanted a one night stand etc) but have always seen myself as eventually marrying a guy and having kids. My main obsession is worries about my family and harm but also for most of my life I’ve also been questioning my sexuality. I have never kissed a woman but seem to be obsessed with boobs and feel I am sexually attracted to women more than men, who I don’t tend to feel sexually attracted to but instead romantically I want to be around them, however I’ve only ever felt that with a few guys. I’ve only kissed a handful of guys and enjoyed only one of those experiences. Due to my confusion about whether it is OCD or whether I am queer I’ve identified as bi for a while, which seemed to fit. However the last few days I’ve been convinced I was a lesbian. I do compulsions, the am I gay quizzes, on the internet, looking at pictures to see my response etc which is characteristic of OCD but I also enjoy being around women and it doesn’t fill me with anxiety like my OCD symptoms around other themes. Is there anyone here who has had SO OCD but also discovered that they are queer and has trouble pulling apart which bits are ocd and which aren’t? I keep trying to sit with the uncertainty and tell myself maybe I’m gay, maybe I’m bi, but that doesn’t seem to bother me like statements with my other obsessions. I’ve been doing a lot of research on sexuality and think that also if sexuality is fluid which I think it is how does anyone commit to a stable relationship? I had a really bad mental health day last week, suicidal thoughts, extreme PMS where I looked through my life experiences and thought ahh it makes sense im actually a lesbian, eg. All the times ive wanted to hug my female friends or stared at them and the times ive been on dates with guys but then my interest just seems to fizzle out or I feel bored or felt uncomfortable with. Im not looking for reassurance just would like to hear from people who have questioned their sexuality and thing it’s is more than OCD or queer people with OVD who have similar experiences. Thank you
Are there any demisexuals on here that struggle with SO-OCD (I'm a straight woman, or so I think I am). It's a struggle to know what's OCD and what isn't
SOOCD sufferers! Do you sometimes worry that you're true attraction is your false attraction and vice versa? and that you actually dont really know what true attraction is but if you go with the unwated sex you will know? Ima actually really struggeling between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone.... I'm a straight female (I think) and I recognise a beautiful women more than a handsome men. Like I wasnt really attracted to my bf's body before actually being with him. However since in my mind, the female body has "more" if feels like I'll feel more if Im with a women? ughh soo weird. Like I dont see a men's naked body and automaticcaly get turned on, I have to be intimate with him for that to happen? honetsly between that and the romantic feelings that I feel like are not "enough" it really sounds like denial even if my therapist really diagnosed me. UGH
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