Idk if this is an OCD thing or a just a me thing but I have a very strong aversion to drugs(other than drinking/smoking) and if someone I’m dating does any at all even if it’s barely at all, it feel exactly the same as being cheated on. Like same level of anxiety and everything and legit makes me feel betrayed and sick. Anyone relate?
Hello! I relate to you. I struggled with this as well with my partner. My partner tried to quit vaping cold turkey which didn’t work and they are exploring different ways of quitting, like lessening how often they vape. For me, in my head, it was all or nothing and it made me feel betrayed too and like they don’t love me for still choosing to even vape at all when it’s made me uncomfortable. I learned that she is still trying her best to quit and that’s what matters most. I also want to ask, is there any childhood trauma that this could stem from? An adult or parent with drug issues? I had a father with drug abuse issues and I believe that has played into some of my aversion to drugs as well. I hope this helped and I hope you find more answers. Cheers!
@helloworld60 Nope! Both of my parents drink a normal amount and used to smoke cigarettes but quit. Not sure where it comes from but has been there since I was little kid and have lost many friends to the fact that I don’t like being around psychedelics or and drug that’s harder than weed. My ex definitely didn’t help because he basically told me exactly what my intrusive thought did but the feelings were there before. Part of it is my current boyfriend doesn’t see a problem so he’s not actively trying to stop which makes it worse. Mostly just the self deprecating feeling of they would rather be doing drugs than being with me and if I have a problem with it they can always leave me and find someone who doesn’t care about it as much
@at160443 Definitely doesn’t help when an unhealthy ex confirms and supports your intrusive thoughts, sorry about that. I can definitely relate to the part about feeling like they could just leave whenever if they want someone who cares less, definitely plagues my mind too. That sucks that your current bf doesn’t see a problem with it, especially if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable as well. Just some advice, do what you think is best of course, but it might be worth it to evaluate whether it’s worth it to stay if you both don’t agree on the “morality” of drugs yknow. It’ll only cause you more hurt and anxiety if he continues to not see a problem with it when you do and that doesn’t fully mean either of you are wrong or bad people, obviously drug addiction is something I’d say is not great, BUT if he doesn’t see a problem with it and you do and it’s only causing you anxiety and self deprecation, might be worth it to evaluate how much u value the relationship. Reply with how things have been since I left my first comment or if there’s any updates! You got this!
I've just started dating this really great girl. She doesn't know about my ocd which is fine but I've noticed that a lot of my intrusive thoughts and worries about not following routines now revolve around losing her or her believing I'm a bad person. I just don't want this relationship to make me so paranoid. I also know have this where if I see a girl on my Instagram or on the Internet, I'll feel an overwhelming urge to clean myself and the device I viewed it on. This is part of a moral reaction and I also worry I'm not being loyal. I feel I should try and not follow through with these compulsions but as they now revolve around keeping my girlfriend I'm not sure. Any advice?
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
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