Idk if this is an OCD thing or a just a me thing but I have a very strong aversion to drugs(other than drinking/smoking) and if someone I’m dating does any at all even if it’s barely at all, it feel exactly the same as being cheated on. Like same level of anxiety and everything and legit makes me feel betrayed and sick. Anyone relate?
Hello! I relate to you. I struggled with this as well with my partner. My partner tried to quit vaping cold turkey which didn’t work and they are exploring different ways of quitting, like lessening how often they vape. For me, in my head, it was all or nothing and it made me feel betrayed too and like they don’t love me for still choosing to even vape at all when it’s made me uncomfortable. I learned that she is still trying her best to quit and that’s what matters most. I also want to ask, is there any childhood trauma that this could stem from? An adult or parent with drug issues? I had a father with drug abuse issues and I believe that has played into some of my aversion to drugs as well. I hope this helped and I hope you find more answers. Cheers!
@helloworld60 Nope! Both of my parents drink a normal amount and used to smoke cigarettes but quit. Not sure where it comes from but has been there since I was little kid and have lost many friends to the fact that I don’t like being around psychedelics or and drug that’s harder than weed. My ex definitely didn’t help because he basically told me exactly what my intrusive thought did but the feelings were there before. Part of it is my current boyfriend doesn’t see a problem so he’s not actively trying to stop which makes it worse. Mostly just the self deprecating feeling of they would rather be doing drugs than being with me and if I have a problem with it they can always leave me and find someone who doesn’t care about it as much
@at160443 Definitely doesn’t help when an unhealthy ex confirms and supports your intrusive thoughts, sorry about that. I can definitely relate to the part about feeling like they could just leave whenever if they want someone who cares less, definitely plagues my mind too. That sucks that your current bf doesn’t see a problem with it, especially if it’s something that makes you uncomfortable as well. Just some advice, do what you think is best of course, but it might be worth it to evaluate whether it’s worth it to stay if you both don’t agree on the “morality” of drugs yknow. It’ll only cause you more hurt and anxiety if he continues to not see a problem with it when you do and that doesn’t fully mean either of you are wrong or bad people, obviously drug addiction is something I’d say is not great, BUT if he doesn’t see a problem with it and you do and it’s only causing you anxiety and self deprecation, might be worth it to evaluate how much u value the relationship. Reply with how things have been since I left my first comment or if there’s any updates! You got this!
This topic triggers me so much because I don’t think I ever experienced “gut feelings” about my relationship until the ocd. I know that generally people get these feelings when something’s off like their values are different, or the partner has strong bad habits, or something they’re doing is wrong. But my relationship is perfect to me: we communicate so well and I feel so vulnerable and safe. He’s amazing and sweet and we share the same values and life goals. We’re not perfect but I wanna be imperfect w him. I’ve never felt the way I feel for him with anyone else before. So why does it feel like the next stage of our life (moving in together) feels like I’ll change my mind later on?.. I get anxious at the idea and thought of sharing our whole life but I know I want to marry him. The idea of us growing old together, I feel like my life would be complete with him. But why do I feel like I don’t want to :( Do people have doubts anout their relationship even when there’s nothing to doubt?? There’s nothing wrong with us at all and I want what we have forever but when I think about our future I feel so anxious like I won’t last long until I decide I can’t do it anymore
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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