i have some kind of prejudice about non binary

how so? do you want to share your story? :) I dont like having this prejudice but it feels like everybody I know that feels like that has been mean to me or my friends so I just automatically think they are bad even if it isnnot true

@steleven OK just putting in to perspective that the majority of my friends are gay and I'm the token straight guy. When I go out, I always go to the gay bar because they are the nicest people and the guys actually dance rather than being serious wallflowers. There were a lot of genders and sexualities I was seeing out in the open and surprised to see most of them as being quite young like gen z. The older generation wasn't half as mind blowing. There was one grandmother that wanted to talk to my drag queen friend and introduced the grandkid as a drag princess because she wasn't quite old enough yet. I thought it was a girl but this kid probably want even 10 and was in drag or trans, I wasn't even sure. I didn't so much judge them as they were happy and having a great time. Really lovely kid. It was trying to figure out how they would've been exposed to that kind of world and made that decision on their own that confused me. It's just not the world I grew up in. It was a culture shock. As I looked around and questioned how many of the kids were actually trans and I couldn't tell. I stopped questioning pretty quick because there were so many variables and possibilities that I was most likely never going to know and realised that every single one of them looked happy. So I refocused on having fun instead and it was a good day. I think the thing that shocked me initio was, when I was young, I was the "stand out" for being the only vegan in school. Now being vegan is fairly common and this felt like the next thing like that.

@Wolfram hey that is a nice story! I believe I would feel as you did initially thinking how did so young people chose to change genders but it is nice your perspective of looking around and see that all of them are looking happy :)

@steleven It's their life. If they're happy, let them live it. I see a lot of stuff in the news and on talk shows where they purposefully pick people with clear mental health issues to represent the community (they've done it with vegans too) and it gives a completely biased and unfair impression of them as a whole. For an example, an extreme version of prejudice against a group of people is racism. I think it's absolutely insane to hate someone you've never met on the other side of the world purely based on the colour of their skin. You haven't even met them 🤦‍♂️ With non binary, it's fairly new and not as commonly known about as race obviously. This gives a lot of people the opportunity to shift opinions in either way based on what information is presented and how it's presented. There is propaganda on both sides. Everyone is an individual at the end of the day, no matter what they or you identify them as. Go off of your own personal experiences with the individuals and try not to group them as public opinion tends to change with the selective info put out there.

@Wolfram i understand what you say and it is not like I go there saying to them that they are not valid. I just wanted to venr because it is something that makes me feel bad but it feels like I cant control how my brain reacts, that doesn't mean that I can't control how my mouth reacts tho

I agree with that last comment completely

that is absolutely valid and I understand but my brain seems to always assume that tehy are going to be mean ik it doesn't make sense tho

@steleven Start making friends with nonbinary people (the ultimate exposure) and hang out with them, form intimate relationships, educate yourself on their experiences, trauma etc. Do this and the prejudice will likely go away :)

@Anonymous I will try :) but i am afraid i accidentally say something bad

@steleven If you do then it is what it is. It’s not about our mess ups but how we react to them when people check us lol— if someone gets upset aim to understand why, apologize, and adjust accordingly. That goes for all relationships in life.

@Anonymous yeah, but there is also no need to judge my fear. Thanks for the advise tho

@steleven That wasn’t my intention but sorry if my comment made you feel judged. If it means anything to you— I do not judge you! You are trying to seek help and that’s admirable.

@Anonymous thank you dear anonymous, I am sorry maybe I overreacted :) I will try to meet people that identify as that so my brain can wire itself to be less judgy thank you for your words

@steleven No problem at all :) wishing you all the best!

@steleven I'm uneducated with religions and afraid I'd say something insulting so I ask questions if they're OK to talk about it

thank you for your words 😊