I love to day dream, about different scenarios, different people! Just fun stuff. It’s calming, but then ... I’ll turn it into, if I’m day dreaming all the time I’m not fully living my life... and maybe I do this because I’m not really happy with my real life... and I should feel bad because I’m never fully present... which makes me a terrible person - AND THEN WHAT IF- Anyone else have this issue? How do you relax, because it’s exhausting?

I do this as well and there’s nothing wrong with it!!! It’s called immersive daydreaming not to be confused with maladaptive daydreaming, which is dangerous. Immersive daydreaming is a healthy and fun experience and is great to clear your mind. People who are immersive daydreamers also have to capacity of lucid dreaming. So consider yourself special :) Anyways a lot of daydreams do paint yourself in a better light and it’s not that you’re necessarily unhappy with your life. You’re just playing around with the what if’s. I daydream of acting even though I don’t really have an interest to do so. It’s just a curiosity thing. It can become time consuming as well, but that’s if you let it. You can learn how to manage this and your time. Some people manage to dream while doing other tasks, so they can have fun and still be productive. I personally just daydream in most of my free time and whenever I get bored. Anyway, hope this helps!

If you daydream about fun stuff, why not accept the daydream and take it as: you’re visualizing what you want, therefore you’re working towards it? You’re becoming a visionary ;) If you’re not happy with your life, your mind is giving you a movie of how to make it better, or at least where to head towards :)

I feel like why should this make you a bad person you know? It’s like you watch titanic and dream of marrying Leonardo Di Carpio haha. If ocd is telling you, no no no no no you’re bad don’t do it. Take a deep breath. And see where that impulse to feel like a bad person is coming from. Maybe you learned that you were a bad person if you showed certain behavior? From teachers, religion or parents? Also what stands out in your post is that you say that maybe you’re just unhappy in your life. Is this related to your current partner as well? Is the daydream a way to visualize how it would be otherwise?

This thread was so helpful! I catch myself daydreaming a lot about someone other than my husband and it has been worrying me to death!

But if it’s about other people than my partner... does that make me a bad person? You know? That’s where my head goes a bit. Then the whole spiral happens and something that was fun and light and easy turns into something toxic. Sigh... ocd

You mean daydreaming romantically with someone other than your current romantic partner?

Yes :( but like... just funny scenarios or like I’ll watch a romantic movie! And say dream in that aspect but other people, none is ever be with or anything, just diferent. It can be difficult.

Thank you! It really did! :)

Awww I’m so glad!