My POCD randomly triggered over a friendship I have with someone who is eighteen. I’m sixteen and I have no intention of dating them however we do make jokes and are very affectionate. Nothing bad, normal internet friendships but it’s making me nervous that I’m somehow a victim or something even though I have no issues with it. Is this okay?
I think at this point it's important to address to yourself what is your OCD and what is legitimately making you uncomfortable. If they are doing something that is actually making you uncomfortable I think you need to speak up to them about it. If they are really your friend they should understand.
@Applecore Oh it’s not discomfort with them at all. It’s more like discomfort at the idea that joking like that is wrong or that they’re being pedophilic. I don’t want anyone in trouble is the main issue. They know I’m very comfortable with this stuff.
@Applecore I know logically 16 and 18 isn’t pedophilic, and we aren’t even dating we’re just making jokes which both parties are okay with. I guess I just wanted… confirmation.
My best friend and I are 2 years apart in age. I'm older. We met online when we were in middle school. I'm constantly worried that I somehow victimized them when I turned 18 before them. I know logically we were both teenagers and we're strictly platonic, but I'm so afraid that because I was 18 and 19 before him that I hurt him in some way.
I was forced into dating people to and it's sucks
@Boogatoo22 I’m so sorry you went through this but I am not being coerced into dating them at all!! I am very comfortable with our jokes and friendly affection and they would never force me into anything. My worry is that somehow us making jokes about romantic stuff occasionally is bad because we have a small age gap.
CAN SOMEBODY PLEASE ANSWER When I was younger (like 17/18) I met a girl who went to the same school as me and lived in the same town. She was younger than me. (like 14). I was so stupid to talk to her and become friends with her. I thought she was cute and all. She also liked me (which was very wrong) and right now (a couple years later) I'm ruminating on it. I have the fear of becoming a pedophile and I'm so scared this means that I become one. I used to chat with her, and one time when I drank too much, I told her that she was pretty and stuff. I've so much guilt around it and I feel so freaking bad. Is it normal if I liked a girl around her age that time? I'm so scared because of this, I'll have to go to jail??! I NEVER intended on more than that, she was just cute and nothing more.
So back then when I was 18 I went to Mexico the month after my birthday and I met this dude there who was 14 but turned 15 that same month and we had a thing for a eachother and he did look older and was much taller than me and seemed mature. But now I’m so worried why did I like him or talk to him that way back then. I am now 20 and he’s 17 and I haven’t talked to him at all because I’m in a loving healthy relationship with my bf who is 27. I have a fear of being a pedo and I’m so scared that what happened back then makes me a pedo :((
im still worried that a two year age gap 16 and 18 is bad and that is a warning sign im a “p” or im grooming the person
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