Hen Do…help!

I’m going on a hen do in 3 weeks to Marbella for 3 nights. I’m a bridesmaid but don’t know the other girls very well apart from the bride. I feel sick at the thought of going which makes me really sad as I should be looking forward to it. It’s the first time I’ve left my little boy and along with the soocd etc I’m really dreading it. It’s not like a fear like scared of an exam or scared of jumping out of a plane it’s a sick to my stomach don’t know how I’m going to force myself to go kind of dread and I feel like I could cry just at the thought of it …this isn’t normal someone please help me how I prepare myself as I’m so worried of feeling like Ill need to jump straight on a plane back as soon as I get there 😔😔😔

Will86

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

Sorry you're going through this. I'm familiar with the feelings. How I do it is I refuse to let the fear control me so I wait until the fear subsides and then check to see if it makes sense. Often times I end up giving myself 3 minutes and I always seem to be surprised when it's not the way my mind imagined it. I hope you can go and more so I hope you'll enjoy it. If it's too soon though it's too soon but understand it should be a motivator to keep working so that you can tell a different story later. :)

Marie_Anon

Date posted: 24w

Upcoming gathering

I’m nervous about an upcoming gathering. I feel like I won’t be welcomed or only invited for the sake of the host being nice. I am afraid of what I will say or do, that others will pick up on my non verbal behaviors like I do with theirs (i.e. a shoulder shift, eye roll, texting each other while I’m right there etc.) and I’m afraid that I will ruin the vibes of the gathering by becoming paranoid. I don’t want my thoughts to spiral so bad that I need to leave and my fiancé is out of town so it’s not like I can escape. I don’t want to be there the whole time but also don’t want to seem rude by leaving early and keep thinking that if I leave early will be a topic of conversation for others there. It makes me want to curl up and hide in the house all weekend and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it for over a week now.

purpleturtle730

Date posted: 20w

rocd

has anyone experienced this or have any advice on what to do. okay so my senior prom is today and i’m in a long distance relationship so im going alone with friends and there’s an after party at someone’s house and it’s just your basic high school party with drinking and everything and ive never been to one but i wanna go with my female friends (im also a girl btw) but i have an rocd fear of cheating or something if i go. ive only ever gotten drunk once and all i was thinking abt was my boyfriend so i don’t understand the cheating “because you were drunk” thing. if i go to this party i do wanna drink a little but im just scared cause im overthinking that something will happen even though i would never do that. i haven’t asked my boyfriend about it yet as he’s at work but i am just not sure what to do.

Relationship OCD

Jher55

Date posted: 17w

Not looking forward to this fishing trip😑!

Not looking forward to this fishing trip! I have two buddies from work that are coming to my town to go fishing. It was all cool and dandy until last minute he said he was gonna invite his oldest and I was like oh cool. Wait? It’s a 10 year old girl. When I heard that I was like “SIGH” inside voice though. Right then and there me looking forward to it was gone. I REALLY don’t wanna be in a group with a little girl. I hate it. Doesn’t matter if we’re in a group, I HATE IT!! I’m bummed out but also wanna have fun but I can’t. Reason why is this all went downhill when I saw his fb profile and had all three of his girls in the pic. And at that time I was getting hit hard with pocd so when I saw that my brain was everywhere with intrusive thoughts, false attraction. All that!! And I hated it. Fast forward, my brain when it realized who it was, basically felt like a “I don’t want to have the same reactions as before, I don’t wanna feel this false attraction” nope nope nope! .it was something I had to go through and now I have to go through it again except this time in physical form. I don’t want to go but how do I embrace it guys?? I’m going blank. My brain goes into a spiral of intrusive thoughts like what if I end up harming her or something crazy! No no no no!!! I hate it!! I hate it!!! I’m not that type of sicko! Honestly, I don’t want to go and I’m not looking forward to it! I just lines “let’s just get this over with this Saturday asap” 😪

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