I struggle to think of ERP messages to anchor myself to when trying to avoid mental compulsions. Anyone have any to recommend, especially in regards to ROCD fears and moral scrupulously?
Yes. I think it's the hardest ones to do. Most of my relationships issues are do I love my partner, are they going to leave and they can spiral from there. I have a thing w being honest to a fault and worrying I overstepped a boundary or did or said something wrong. Quite honestly I'm not sure if what I do will work foe you. When I have these thoughts I do the following in the order. I tell my partner " hey my ocd BOB is saying a ton of shit now about you. BOB is a pain in my ass. And my partner will respond yeah he is a jerk. That usually will stop me from getting into a 5 plus hour long discussion about our relationship and from asking for reassurance. If the thought pops up again, cause come on BOB is nothing but persistent I will journal. Then outlook I say maybe, I don't know, omg your annoying me I'm going to listen to an audiobook. But that's foe that thought. Keep them coming BOB. For the other stuff like lying, did I hurt someone's feelings etc I again tell my partner " hey, BOB is telling me I lied, hurt so and so etc" and my partner will say we'll who know, or maybe. I say yup, I'll just wait and see. That's what I do. Idk if it will help. And no matter what I do not go seek relationship advice from Dear Google or my friends. Noone can give me the answer I want because there's no answer so I just don't go there.
@Anonymous This was honestly really helpful, thank you! My OCDs name is Clarence. 😆
@danielle421 Well honey, Clarence is a jealous jerk and wants you all to himself or themselves. Bob and Clarence should get together and leave us alone.😏
I try and think of the things that bother me everyday and then purposely put myself into a spiral to habituate out of it
hey, i totally get how tough it can be to find the right ERP messages, especially when dealing with the combo of rocd and moral scrupulosity. it sounds like you're really putting in the effort to tackle your ocd head-on, which is super brave. 🌟 by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called 'unstuck?' when i was in a similar spot, what really helped me was this free AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my NOCD therapist recommended. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it can provide personalized step-by-step support tailored to your specific fears and scrupulosity issues, just like an OCD therapist would. it's like having a guide to help you craft those ERP messages whenever ocd tries to mess with you. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3
Anyone have any suggestions for ERP exercises for Partner focused ROCD?
Hi everyone, My therapist is not a fan of ERP, we are doing a compassionate based therapy and she really wants to get to the bottom of what is behind my OCD and core fears. However, we have been trying CFT for over a year and I am still struggling with CFT and day to day life. I am really keen to try ERP and she has said yes if I come up with suggestions. Would be very grateful for some ideas of good first ERP exercises for someone with SOCD and ROCD. Thanks in advance!
ERP has been tremendously helpful for me, but I find it difficult to plan exposures to my obsessions, given that most of my intrusive thoughts are mostly about moral or conceptual issues, so it's hard to put them into smth "actionable". Do you guys have any advice?
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