I’m always mad at my parents for no reason. I’m 17 and a teenager so I get it’s hormones and stuff but I’m always mad at them for the stupidest things like for example my Mom asked me if I like her flowers and I’m like “yeah sure I guess so” or my Dad will be in the best mood when he gets home and I’m just dry with him for no reason. I feel guilty but I can’t stop being moody for no reason. Any advice for me?
20, still get into parental conflict for unclear reasons, though it's better than when I was 17 I think. Advice - be kind to yourself. (a) this is part of being 17, (b) being kind to yourself is probably gonna be more effective in calming you down than guilting yourself. Teenagers are like toddlers. They may appear mad about "the stupidest things" but they're still legitimately mad. And, like toddlers, if we seem to be mad about something 'superficial' like flowers, it's possible we're actually hungry/sleepy/stressed/overstimulated/having an existential crisis/etc. Further advice - Talk to other 17 year olds about it - they're probably going through it too Find angry music and get out your frustrations that way instead of at other people. I've got a playlist of songs that I use to absorb my rage (March of the Black Queen is my favorite). Other options include: punch pillows, make angry art (paint, write poetry, whatever), run around, tear up cardboard hope some of this helps! feel free to discard anything that doesn't sound helpful. and let me know if you find any other advice - I need it too
@Anonymous Thank you so much for this advice! I will try some of these techniques out!
(please note that I say this with a deep respect for both toddlers and teenagers!)
@User456@outlook.com Good luck!!
@Anonymous Ofcourse! 😊
I literally just posted about something like this but with my partner, you’re not alone
@kwwaddles I’m glad I’m not alone on this
I just turned twenty and I still fully agree with this - you’re not alone. I’ll comment if I can find anything on it!!
@bananapancakes Ok thank you :)
I think if you feel comfortable with it you can try telling your parents exactly this! I am sure they will have some insights and you guys can also work on your relationship together! I also know that sometimes mental health can take its toll on our energy, that’s okay you don’t need to be perfect. You sound absolutely so sweet and kind.
@JessIsConfused Thank you so much 😊
Is it just me or does anyone get mad really easily. Idk I’ve always had that problem since a kid, where I could take a joke or be laughed at because I would constant think about the humiliation and it would anger me. I would try to fight the anger when made fun of but I can’t help it. I don’t understand what’s wrong with me.
Whenever my mom thinks I’m trying to argue on purpose, that makes me think “what if I am?” “What if I’m just a baby who can’t take what she said”. I feel scared. I just disagreed with her when she told me not to wash my clothes with my work clothes because they’ll smell bad and I disagreed because she’s never said a word about this for years but two years before she told me not to wash them separately because that’s wasting electricity. So, her shutting me down by saying “don’t argue with me” makes no sense to me but at the same I feel like “does this make sense though? What if I’m just an asshole to her?” Then before she got irritated with me when I was about to throw away expired lemonade but she was the one who yelled at me by saying “if you’re not having it just throw it away!” Like I honestly don’t know what she wants me to do anymore!!!!! Sometimes when changes their mind or something, I keep feeling like “what if I’m schizophrenic and I just thought that had happened” or “what if I’m crazy” or “why am I upset by this? What if they didn’t change their mind and I’m just thinking something else” My parents getting irritated with me makes me feel like I’ve done so much wrong and I end up losing my motivation but that makes me feel even more gross because I’m not bothering to wash the dishes now..
I don't know what's going on lately but I'm just in such a bad mood, and I keep taking it out on everyone. Whenever my sister laughs at me, which is not in a malicious way, I get really annoyed that she's laughing at me. And sometimes she says she wasn't laughing at me but something else, but I get so annoyed and now I'm thinking I don't want her to feel like she can't laugh because she's afraid I'll take it the wrong way. I just feel terrible. Everything is upsetting me lately, I just need like a solo trip somewhere or something because I'm getting triggered by everything and everyone, and it's impacting other people now.
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