ROCD

so I have been diagnosed with OCD, and my current intrusive thought is about ROCD, it started when I had the urge to tell my boyfriend that when I was already talking with him I probably liked someone else, and it made him feel terrible, and me as well. So my OCD likes to grab to what I care about the most (my boyfriend) and the intrusive thought is, "what if I still like this person" but I don't want to, it's like please no 😕 and it makes me feel extremely depressed and horrible, and I just try to act normal around my boyfriend (by the time I had this thought my boyfriend and I were already 9-10 months together) I truly hate the thought, but it doesn't go away.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Ask yourself if it’s true. Would you want to leave your boyfriend? Do these thoughts align with who you are and what you truly feel/want? If you’re happy with your boyfriend and feel at peace with them then you know those thoughts are not true. They are just ocd. Like you said ocd likes to attach itself to things we care about and ocd is the opposite of who we are and what we believe in. Every time you have an uncomfortable thought just ask yourself and then you’ll feel better knowing these thoughts aren’t you. Because you know what you want.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous OCD thoughts cause anxiety and are the opposite of our values and beliefs. If those thoughts are causing you anxiety then they aren’t what you want.

IloveDieguito

Date posted: 1y

Thank you for answering, I truly try to do this, but my ocd makes it seem so real, and it hurts, :(

IloveDieguito

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous But what I do know is that, this thought appeared a long time after being in my relationship with my boyfriend, the intrusive thought Hurst, and that when I have had other OCD themes I saw this intrusive thought as stupid

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@IloveDieguito And that’s the thing with ocd, you’ll go over the memory time and time again. And it’ll try to convince you of something that isn’t true. It’s not real If you know it isn’t. Take a break. Ask yourself every time you have an uncomfortable thought and as you progress you’ll be able to tell yourself that’s not true because you’ll get better at distinguishing what’s true and what’s not. And the thing with love is that, you chose who you want to be with. And you choose you boyfriend everyday. You’ve been faithful to him because you want to be with him. And that also matters.

IloveDieguito

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous Thank you, so.. all this time that I never had this intrusive thought, and was with my boyfriend, it means that I would always choose him no matter what, the fact that this intrusive thought is disturbing me, it means that it isn't real (egodistonic) and no matter what OCD wants me to believe, i know I love my boyfriend, and rhat is what matters

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@IloveDieguito Exactly!!! Don’t forget that the thoughts aren’t you and even when you don’t have great days you’ll be okay. You’re human and these thoughts aren’t you.

IloveDieguito

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous Thank you, I'm really hard on myself to be honest, because there is a time that these intrusive thoughts feel so disturbingly real, and I just hate it to be honest. So my OCD just starts like checking, " how do I feel in this situation", " how about this one" and of course the OCD will try to confirm the intrusive thought, when I don't want it. Thank you for your help

IloveDieguito

Date posted: 1y

+it feels so real, and I don't want it to be

cmax20

Date posted: 16w

ROCD

for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.

Sillygoose27

Date posted: 13w

Intrusive thoughts about others

I am in a relationship but I cannot stop getting thoughts about this new coworker I met, my mind convinces me they are so attractive and so great and I hate it so much. My current relationship has its imperfections (as every one does) but I am so happy with her and have always been so loyal. Would OCD target those imperfections and exploit this situation? Additionally I believe I’m feeling ROCD fears of cheating but I know in every opportunity I’ve talked with other women I am loyal to my partner by bringing her up. Does anyone experience the same thing? Is this really OCD or other subconscious intrusive thinking?

M_8

Date posted: 12w

ROCD- help please!

My ex boyfriend broke up with me last summer and it was really rough on me even thought we only dated for a little while. He treated me terribly but I guess I wanted it to work. However during the fall I was healing well and met my current boyfriend. I knew him as a kid and we reconnected and started dating. It’s the most WONDERFUL relationship ever and I love him so much. However for the past couple months, on and off, I have been obsessively thinking about my ex, to the point of feeling so sick to my stomach. Just the thought will do it. I have been stopping myself from checking his instagram because that just makes it worse. I do not want me ex back at all and I am so happy now. I recognize these thoughts as intrusive and hurtful. I just want them to stop and be in the moment. Has anyone had a similar experience? What did u do? Also, I want to tell my boyfriend about this but I am unsure on how to do so.

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