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There is also a reason why NOCD specifically asks people to agree not to seek reassurance with the posts they make, but a ton of a people just bypass it and seek reassurance anyways. If someone genuinely is here with NOCD to find help *from professionals* and community-members who are serious about getting better, they will respect and honor this. If not for their community of peers who are struggling with them, but for their own future. If you or others just wanna be here to give eachother reassurance, then just wait till you're old and realize you've let OCD waste some of the best years of your adult life away.
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@FJustRightOCD I agree with you some people just aren’t ready to get better or don’t want to get better( to readers that’s your prerogative ) i don’t want ocd anymore it has stolen too much from me already I appreciate your post. I don’t want to give into this ocd nonsense anymore. I actually want to get better.
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@In the twilight zone - You can do it, I know you can. I appreciate your openness. I know my post triggered a lot of people who aren't ready to really face what I was actually trying to say, and I appreciate you understanding.
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@FJustRightOCD No problem
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When I read your first post I took it seriously and thought about it. I wanted to wait for more comments to appear and so here I am now reading them. I really don’t think it’s okay to be hating on other people with ocd because they seek reassurance. I mean, that’s what we DO. We have ocd and so along with that you get obsessive reassurance seeking. I agree with your original statement, but you are a grown adult telling a teenager to “grow up” on a forum for people with ocd… You also made a completely separate post following the first one telling a teenager to “grow up and stop condoning it.” I think you need your take a step back.
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This app for all ages is for working on OCD, and it has community guidelines. Of course everyone is welcome to share their struggles along the way, but that is not the same thing as repeatedly engaging in reassurance-seeking behaviour when NOCD is literally asking people to agree not to do it. Someone who signs up to be here, and makes a post, has signed onto those community guidelines. (They literally pop up before someone posts something too, and people regularly bypass them. After years of seeing this, it upset me.) You're welcome to feel how you feel, but I don't appreciate your perception reframing me as a hater. Especially towards a 15 year old. (And I did not know the user was 15. And you can see my response to them above.) You are welcome to step back from my post if it makes you uncomfortable. Or flag NOCD to this.
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Time to break the cycle Thank you for posting this We must stand up and fight ocd with everything in us
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Telling me to grow up is wild I’m 15 I have every right to feel the way u do and u or anybody else will not tell me different I’m in a constant battle with myself every day and if I need the relief I’m gonna get it I’ve read the articles and watched the videos and trust me it doesn’t do much cus I’m always back to square one ur older than me and have more experience I will deal with this in the best way I know how and ur not gonna make me feel bad abt it
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I did not know you're 15, I sympathize with you and understand the struggle. And however, this is an app for people of all ages who are here to work on/through their OCD. If you're struggling, and aware of the behavior you need to work on, I suggest seeking out the professional help you need. Instead of using the forum to keep engaging in behaviour the app is literally asking you not to do, isn't contributing in a healthy way for the community. Or for yourself.
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This literally isn’t about YOU. Some people are still new to OCD, they’re coping in whatever ways they can. Seeking reassurance isn’t the way, yes, but telling people to grow up instead of actually explaining that seeking reassurance will feed into the OCD more in a more positive way is wild. I’m sorry but if you don’t like seeing certain posts on here then just block some users. Easy. You’re not about to be here to make people feel bad about this.
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I never said it is about me. It is not about me. This is a *community* app, for people who are *here to work on their recovery journey* and is not a reassurance-seeking Reddit forum. Being here means signing up to work on their OCD, and agreeing to community guidelines made by the professional developers of this app who are informed on our health and safety. And I think people who are getting so defensive and triggered by my frustrated mentioning of this, are miscontruing something: There is a difference between violating community guidelines of a *mental health recovery app* by choosing to repeatedly engage in harmful, reassurance-seeking behavior, VS sharing struggles with how hard it is to not give into compulsions and ask for advice from their fellow community members. In terms of user experience in this community space, I and others should not have to block 70% of the people on here who are abusing this app. But if that's so easy for you, you're welcome to block me. "You’re not about to be here to make people feel bad about this. "
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If I stop seeking reassurance will the thoughts become less?
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I’ve heard it’s not good to seek reassurance or give it because it lowers your tolerance to uncertainty. But how do I avoid seeking reassurance when my thoughts and doubts are so bad, I genuinely just don’t know anymore if I’m a bad person or if it’s just OCD? I know I’m supposed to sit with the uncertainty, but how can I do that when the uncertainty has me unable to trust my own brain? Especially when the OCD is real event and POCD? How can I not seek reassurance when I feel so alone and so abnormal and just don’t wanna feel that way anymore? In turn, I see so many people on here struggling so bad and my heart breaks for them. How can I give advice to towers without giving them reassurance and hurting them in the long run?
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I see a lot of posts and comments here along the lines of... "the thoughts/urges aren't you -- they're just OCD." Though this is often true and comforting, isn't this just a form of reassurance? The way to beat OCD is by accepting that the distressing thoughts MAY be true/real, a.k.a. "from you" or "not just OCD." By brushing distressing things off as "just OCD," you excuse the thoughts and therefore feel reassured. Obviously it is good to be aware of what OCD does to you and know when you're experiencing a spiral, but crediting all distressing thoughts to OCD is a way of finding certainty about them. What do you guys think of this? Am I right or wrong? This is just the way I think about it, but I see the "this is just OCD" thing so much on here and I often wonder if that is a form of reassurance.
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