Someone help how do I know if I’m gsy I was never like this my attraction is gone no anxiety thoughts don’t bother me they feel so forced bro I’m so confused like they were bothering me couple months ago so as the anxiety what is going on with me am I gay?
Since you are distressed by It its probably OCD
@Anonymous But I don’t feel distressed anymore
@Anonymous Like they don’t bother me
@SpriteDude13 But you still have Them?
@Anonymous Yes
@Anonymous Like the thought is just there but it doesn’t give me fear anxiety it leaves then I think about it again
@SpriteDude13 This Is a good sign! I think that if you were gay you would be sure about It or you would want to experiment on It etc. Your case makes me think that you were once really distressed by these thoughts and even though you still get them, they dont stress you out anymore.
@Anonymous I'm the same way. I have these thoughts alot saying that Im gay and stuff. I get more annoyed than anything. In the very beginning before i even knew i had ocd, i was confused so I did go through a questioning phase but it wasn't even 2 months and i quickly went back to being straight and I'm very happy
@Anonymous Exactly and that makes me feel gay cause they don’t give me stress
@AmandaB345 Well it’s been 5 months should I be concerned
@SpriteDude13 No, you shouldn’t Im confident in my sexuality now but it takes time and remember you are young. The older you get the easier it can be especially as you grow into who you are
@AmandaB345 But I don’t want to be gay I want to be straight how I was but I got no attraction
@AmandaB345 Idk if it’s ocd or im denying
@SpriteDude13 Trust me it's ocd because you remind me of me alot. The thought of being gay makes me feel gross and makes me cry and i know I'm straight and that's how i want to live. Now it just feels like because i did a mini questioning phase and didn't even do anything with no woman Im hiding something
@AmandaB345 But like the thought now doesn’t bother me no more or make me think it’s gross I just doubt like when this first started it did but not anymore
@SpriteDude13 That means you're desensitized to it. You are slowly beating Ocd
@AmandaB345 But I keep seeking an answer and I still don’t got attraction to girls back
@AmandaB345 And the feeling of like oh why am I having this thought makes me think im gay even though I have never liked a guy or dated one only girls but now when I see a guy my mind goes oh he’s hot etc
@SpriteDude13 That's the ocd trying to take control of the situation just remember you are in control
@AmandaB345 Like my attraction feels forced now
@SpriteDude13 Again that's the ocd taking control
@AmandaB345 So what do I do?
@SpriteDude13 Just sit with the thoughts and the uncertainty
@AmandaB345 Like look I forget about the thought then it comes back
@SpriteDude13 And then I feel like I’m forcing it
Like I’m so confused
If they aren’t giving you stress that means it is coming to an end you are just accepting the thought for what it is
@Iloverowdy12 Does that mean im gay then cause I still don’t got my attraction back
@SpriteDude13 OCD can convince us of Anything
@Iloverowdy12 I just wanna like girls again so simple I need this to go away aalrsdy
@Iloverowdy12 So I have ocd?
@SpriteDude13 I can’t diagnose you but from the looks of it yes
@Iloverowdy12 I mean I got diagnosed from a ocd specialist but I keep doubting that I do
@SpriteDude13 OCD is called the doubting disorder
@Iloverowdy12 So I have it cause I was diagnosed with it
In school the thoughts are there but they don’t bother me as much in the house they just come flooding in but in school sense I’m distracted I have no doubt but as soon as I’m home the doubt comes
I could tell myself a million times I’m straight etc doubt still won’t accept it I get erections to women still doubt like it does not go away and it’s so frustrating
@lalalalalalalalal But I’ve always been aroused to girls
@lalalalalalalalal It’s very scary I’m so scared that imma find out that I’m actually In denial
@lalalalalalalalal But it feels like denial but that’s probably ocd like never before I have liked a man I’ve dated and liked girls
@lalalalalalalalal Like the thought the feels so forced it confuses me
So this all ocd
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@lalalalalalalalal Wait you mean like before I even had ocd did I like them?
@lalalalalalalalal Yes I did I had lots of anxiety
@lalalalalalalalal And before this even happened I had Girlfrienre and never questioned my sexual toy
@SpriteDude13 Sexuality.
@lalalalalalalalal Ok thank you hopefully it goes away soon it’s just the Doubt is still there
@lalalalalalalalal Like idk how to explain it it’s so weird the thoughts go away then come back it’s so weird and the doubt creeps in
@lalalalalalalalal Yes I do
@lalalalalalalalal Exactly I feel the same
@lalalalalalalalal Yes I don’t feel like myself I feel trapped
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@lalalalalalalalal Of course let me see what my user is
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@lalalalalalalalal Well I don’t know if I like them what do you mean by like like do I get turned on by them and stuff?
@lalalalalalalalal Like I said the thought I forget about and I have to think of it again and no anxiety that’s why I think that I’m in denial
@lalalalalalalalal Yes I never liked them before never thought about them only dated girls and liked women but then I got triggered from my friends calling me gay and making me take a gay test but I had no attraction before that too because I was very depressed but I didn’t question my sexuality
Hello, im a 21ye old male. All of my life i was always atrscted to girls, even if it was only a hug by a girl i liked i got a boner. I always fantasised about doing fun stuff (not onyl sex) with my gf. Had a gf for almost two years. Two months ago i fell into severe anxiety about my sexuality changing. It happened to me 2 years ago bit then i had my gf and i did not need to worry if i will find a girl i love or will i be able to because i already had her. The toughts were realy intense but they faded and for 2 years i did not experience any doubts or fears about it. Then it happened again in december. For 2-3 weeks i was realy down...constant toughts about doing things with men i never wanted to do, fear that i liked someone, fear of denial...but them bc of getting back with my girlfriend it was okay for three weeks almosf. Then we broke up again and after a few days i had the worst days of my life. I felt like i actually changed, i did not know what to do. Then after a week I went out with a girl and when she laid on me when we wafched a show I got aroused like i always did with my ex. I felt such relief and i could handle my fears and anxiety for almost a month. Then a week ago the fear returned and i am again in a very bad spot, i dont know what else to do, i have no girl that i love, i am afraid i will never be able to experience those same feelings and moment that i had with my ex and then again the toughts of being in denial came back. I dont know what to do. My psychiatrist said i dont have ocd but onyl simptoms and that my anxiety is the proboem. Any one experienced something similar? Thanks
I've always found women pretty and admired them since I was younger, never wanted to be with them or anything. I always pictured having a boyfriend and my crushes were always boys. I have a boyfriend now but because this has happened I feel nothing towards him or any men. To be honest I'm so exhausted I don't feel much at all, there was so much anxiety at the start and now there is none. Does that mean I have accepted the thoughts. My mind keeps going you were suppressed all these years but I do find women pretty so that's what's making it worse. Am I just in denial and being delusional? I never doubted my sexuality before this I always considered myself to be straight but I feels like my mind has been twisted and can't remember any attraction to guys but can remember thinking girls are pretty? Does this mean it's all real? I don't know anymore
I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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