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@WillowT Thank you so much for replying!! I don’t know if it’s ocd or genuine questioning and I don’t know how to tell the difference Do you ahve any advice or tips?

@Anonymous It does sound like some sexual orientation based ocd, my best advice would be when you have those thoughts just go “maybe, maybe not” like “thank you thoughts but I’m kinda busy right now” even if you don’t believe it tell your thoughts that you don’t care. Thankfully sexual orientation isn’t something that we have to know, and if you don’t like the idea of spending your life with a woman then trust that instinct

@Maryam992 1 - Is your sexuality something you always knew or had to figure out 2- was you scared it be gay? Or was it more scared to come out? 3 - have you ever had a boyfriend? 4 - when you imagine your life with the same sex, getting married and stuff does that make you happy or give you anxiety? Thank you for replying and sorry if any of these are to personal, please only answer the ones you feel comfortable with x

@Anonymous 1- I always knew to some extent, i started thinking about it when i was ten, got influenced by the hetero social norms so i suppressed it for years, i came out when i was 17. 2-when i was young sure i was scared but that’s only bc of who i was and where society was, i wasn’t afraid of coming out by 17 i was kind of done pretending lol 3-girl yes ive had so many in high school and i slept w them 4-it makes me happy! of course as someone who suffers rocd it scares me for other reasons but the idea of being happy with my partner is something i value

@Anonymous 1. I didn't have an explicit sexual life due to my religion and traditions. 2. No, I haven't come out yet; not everyone knows about my attraction to women. 3. Yes, I had a girlfriend, but we broke up. 4. When I imagine being married to a woman, I feel at ease, more so than imagining a relationship or marriage with a man. Sorry for the late response; I felt sleepy and couldn't reply quickly.

@Maryam992 Are you arabic ?

@star1232 Yhaaaa

@Maryam992 From where please?

@star1232 Qatar and u?

@Maryam992 Iam from 🇹🇳 Please tell me are you feminine? Do you keep your feminity !

@Maryam992 Great i love this beautiful country

@star1232 Sorry, I didn't understand what you meant by "my femininity." If you are asking about my appearance, I’m a tomboy. My family can't change that, but they do criticize me. If you are asking whether I’m keeping my virginity, then yes. I'm not sure if this is the answer you wanted.

@Maryam992 I am talking about , you still wearing female clothes and long hair and those stuffs ?

@Maryam992 Are you a tomboy since your childhood? Or after realizing u re gay ? Sorry if im asking too much

@star1232 I don't like this appearance. I don't dress like other girls, and I don't go to celebrations because I don't have dresses, makeup, etc.

@Maryam992 I got it , u re like this since your childhood?

@star1232 Do you struggle with your appearance and dress differently than you want to?

@star1232 From my childhood until I was nine years old, my family controlled what I wore and bought me dresses. But after that, I started choosing what made me comfortable. They didn't object at first, but now I receive criticism from them. I think they believed it was just a phase that would pass.

@star1232 I think most of us couldn't control what we wore in our childhood.

@star1232 But honestly, I can't lie—I love seeing dresses on someone I care about.

@Maryam992 Since my childhood i love being feminine, wearing feminine clothes, love pink colors, obsessed with makeup and all those stuffs and hated to dress in a boyish way … till when so ocd hits me ( i hope it is ocd and not a sexuality crisis ) my mind told me since you like girls so u are a man , you wanted to be a man subconsciously, you just is a woman because u love women … etc , my life ruined since then and now i live a severe depression and a measurable life , the last thing i want in life is being a man or dressing like them or appearing like them , now i lose my sense of feminity and self and i do not know who i am anymore, i really dont want to be gay or love girls or have sex with , i ve always dreamed of having sex with men , at least I accept being bi ( which i do not want to )

@star1232 My first childhood love was a boy and i loved him so so so much so at least i have a little hope that im not totally a lesbian but things are so confusing but also i cant picture a romantic relationship with a woman

@star1232 Oh hey star, you can wear men's clothes and still like guys—that's not a problem. There are lots of girls who dress like guys and are into men; they're not lesbians or have any same-sex attraction. Or, there's another possibility: you might be bisexual and just denying that side of you, which is totally normal. Also, keep in mind that lesbians come in all types. There are couples where both have a feminine style, and sometimes one has a feminine style while the other has a more masculine style. Feeling attracted to women doesn’t mean you’re a guy. That doesn’t make sense, my lovely friend.

@star1232 Nah, OCD can mess with your head, but it can't change who you're into. Your sexuality is part of who you are, and OCD can't just flip it like a switch.

@star1232 So, you're not lesbian, but you've got your own unique style, and your style has nothing to do with your orientation.

@Maryam992 I really dont want to wear like boys😭 its not something i desired or wanted

@star1232 I really do not want to be with a woman too, this makes me sad and depressed not happy at all

@Maryam992 Do you try to impress girls in a way to love you ?

@Anonymous Thanks for your replying!! Did you know the whole time you was pretending? And when the thoughts popped up how did you feel and react to them? I’m not sure if what I’m experiencing is denial or so ocd How did you feel towards your boyfriends at the time?

@Maryam992 Thank you for replying!

@star1232 The situation you're describing might be a mix of non-traditional gender identities and sexual orientation. If you feel like a man sometimes but were born female, you might be experiencing something known as "gender fluid." People who identify this way may feel that their gender identity changes over time. As for sexual orientation, if you're attracted to men, this suggests that your sexual orientation is towards the opposite sex (heterosexual), or you might be transgender and your attraction is to men.

@Anonymous Welcome

@star1232 I don't know if I impress them in some way, but I have my own way.

@star1232 I think it's been since my childhood because I never felt that I liked girls' clothes or even their toys. It's true that I like girls' clothes when I see them on a girl I love. No problem at all! I hope I answered you clearly, and I apologize if I took a while to respond.

@Maryam992 I told you that i have never felt like a man before hocd and tocd , I always hated imitating men or wearing like them

@Maryam992 I am the opposite, since my childhood im a big fan of barbies, makeup … girly things

@bdads27 And how was the sex with men for u?

@Neytiri not enjoyable at all! obviously i’m at a different point in my life, i was 16-17 then and im 21 now, so my sexual experience and life has evolved. there is definitely such a thing as exploring and some of my experiences with men were fine, but when it came to real sex it wasn’t what i wanted!

@bdads27 But were u attracted to them? Why did u date men?

@Neytiri well who knows? i really think that a lot of it was where i grew up and how comfortable i was with my sexuality. i was certainly interested in the attention of men, but i would say it was a largely social aspect of my small high school. i’ll say this babe: sexuality is very fluid and a spectrum. lovingly it sounds to me like there is some reassurance seeking here so i would want to you to see that. but i think that taking the liberty to understand and accept your own sexuality comes with time. when we talk about sexuality, a lot of the time we mainly think of sex and attraction to others. but it is so much more than that! sexuality is about knowing and discovering yourself as well, what you like pleasure wise, how you express yourself, what type of partner you may want etc etc. it takes time and the understanding is not always linear. anxiety, doubt and fear will be there either way, and there really is no telling how you may feel one day, but as you grow into yourself and learn more about what you like i know you’ll be able to be at peace🫶🏼

@bdads27 Thank u for this. And how did u realise that u are attracted to women?

@Neytiri trial and error and acceptance! just went with the flow and when i was ready and could grasp the concept better

@bdads27 When you were having sex did you know I was gay

@bdads27 The word acceptance triggers me. Not that that’s your fault at all your jsut explaining your experience which is great but it just scares me because what if I’m using ocd as an excuse and I need to jsut accept myself. Do you know what I mena?

@Anonymous i’m the same way! i think about that too, but what i’ve come to realize it THATS my

@Anonymous Same as the above if that’s okay Thank you for replying! X