Hii 💋 Could u tell me what are u avoiding because of OCD, I have harm OCD and i am avoiding social interactions and I am working on it, doing exposures, but sometimes it is giving me a lot of anxiety, do u have any advices expect exposures how I can be as social as I was before these theme
I avoid a lot bc of my perfectionism ocd- but I think you should start with a small hangout with friends, maybe for like an hour, and build your way up from there. Take small social steps until you can build up to the point you were before. If the anxiety is too much, you could use distress tolerance tools, and continue taking steps. This could be inviting a friend to go for a short walk, or even just texting for a little bit.
@anonynonymous Yess I am trying to do that and go for a short walk for example, but every time I am saying now I have to go home they force me to stay, because they don’t know about my OCD. That is another problem. Thank u very much for your replying
My thoughts, are driving me crazy so my avoidanceis sleeping and hanging out in my room I’m working not doing that because that’s supposed to be one of the worst of what is compulsions you could do because you’re basically doing isolation which makes it worse.
@Brooke cookie Yes i was very social person before my OCD flared up, i had other OCD themes but that did not effect my social interactions, and this harm OCD and urges are hard to deal with
@cocacolaa For me ,harm ocd of others I hang around people anyway and that seemed to help me not feel distress from the OCD as I clearly see that I’m not gonna hurt people.  Many years ago when I was afraid I was gonna hurt my family. what I did was hang out with them anyway especially my little sister. It was very scary at first but eventually I got used to it and now we have a good relationship and I’m happy about it, but it was very scared to do so because I was having very graphically disturbing images of hurting her and hearing dark intrusive thoughts, so it took me a lot of strength, and some a lot of time to do that. I hope this helped. I could see how harm ocd would make you feel really down. If you were very social person and now you having harm ocd is probably making you not be social which is causing you to feel down. Stay strong keep working on your OCD. We will get better but it will probably take some time.
@Brooke cookie Thank u very much for your replying, all your effort means u are stronger than OCD☀️ we will be better, we can do it
hey I avoid a lot of things because of my contamination ocd But also my magical thinking ocd and harm ocd It’s certain places for me , certain objects ,clothes and sometimes even people it’s exhausting and feels as though it’s taking over me bevuase I’m constantly avoiding different things depending on my thoughts
@ambermayx I can feel u, I am avoiding my friends because i am afraid I will hurt them, even though i really love them
@cocacolaa I understand this , I also get s3xual intrusive thoughts so avoid people close to me bevuase it makes me feel like I want that or that I’m gonna get weird thoughts so I just feel really disgusting (I know that’s weird)
@ambermayx It‘s okay 🥰 they are thoughts and we are not our thoughts 💕I can understand u totally
@cocacolaa It’s so hard to remember that they are not me x
I remember reading a comment someone had made to one of my posts on an OCD subreddit and they told me how they believed their OCD symptoms got worse during a time in their life when they were socially isolated. Reading this comment made the brightest lightbulb go off in my head because it basically summarized most of what I’ve been going through. In addition to OCD, I also struggle with depression and social anxiety. I feel like these three things and the profound sense of loneliness I’ve felt throughout my years in college (undergrad) feed off of each other. I know that OCD can manifest in so many different ways regardless of what your social life looks like, but I can’t help but feel like the lack of relationships (specifically friendships)/community in my life has something to do with my mental health and the delay in my recovery. Side note: I’m still relatively new to NOCD, but I’m happy to say that I’ve been making some good progress in my therapy sessions <3
like the title says, i also suffer from cancel culture OCD, even more these last two months in which i have noticed that several people have been deleting me from social media, in fact two days ago i had a spiral as someone recently blocked me. i won't go into it to avoid the compulsion to confess but basically i had issues before with my ex and some of his friends that he himself ended up involving, even though we are on good terms he made sure to make me look like i was the problem and several mutual friends have been detaching themselves from me. the thing is, i see many people say that to fight their cancel culture OCD they delete their social media and then just. disappear. but i don't want to do this - i don't want to hide, i want to stay in the public eye and create things, in fact, i am an artist. but since the last year now i live in constant fear and also somewhat sensitive to what others think of me thanks to the rumors about me and i'm afraid that one day i might be "exposed" or something like that; and i also feel like i'm "pretending" to be a good person all the time. so, with what i already said, how do i deal with this without having to resort to deleting my social media? i think that exposing myself every day and continuing to post things on social medias despite the constant fear and guilt i feel would count as ERP, right? thanks.
I had avoided a lot with school specifically, but I did do it in other areas of life as well. School for some reason has been the biggest trigger that sends me into avoidance and it has been for the longest time. Does anybody relate? If so, what did you do to help besides therapy? In high school I used to sit in the bathroom stalls for hours so I could avoid going to classes. I was struggling to keep up because my OCD makes me perfect my school work so much so to the point where I’d never turn it in because I’d never be satisfied with what I’d produce. I’d get so incredibly frustrated with myself and the fact that I could never meet my own standards, never mind the rubrics given. I took ages analyzing all my writing, all my answers, all my google slides and I burnt myself out. So I stopped trying. I stopped turning in work because I’d never be satisfied. I’d cry because I felt I wasn’t good enough. Then I’d be missing assignments, getting them done but not submitting them because I was too ashamed. So, I avoided classes because I’d be in trouble or be called out for not getting anything done. Unfortunately this habit bled into my first year of college last year, and OCD coupled up with depression, made going to the dining hall and attending classes even worse. So I avoided it all together. It’s so hard being a freshman in college, so so hard. I unfortunately failed out of that school but I tried to medically withdraw either semester. No, I wasn’t partying, or drinking or smoking or hanging with the wrong people. I was a college freshman struggling with ocd and depression. I’m trying to not make excuses for myself either because I’m well aware this is my fault and I’m trying to reverse it now at community college. Right now I’m trying to get those Fs turned into Ws from my old school so I can fix my gpa. I want to transfer, I want to be a forensic psychologist, I want to be independent, I want to be ok. It’s gonna take me so long to transfer from community college but that’s on me. I’m willing to put in the work. I’m so embarassed, please help me.
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