OCD ruining friendships

I feel like OCD is ruining all of my relationships and I hate it. My symptoms have been significantly better since I started on medication but recently I’ve been struggling with just constant thoughts that my friends don’t actually like me. I also reassurance seek a lot and so much so that I had a friend say we needed to take a break from being friends because she couldn’t deal with my excessive reassurance seeking. I just have this anxiety surrounding every single one of my friendships and this fear that they don’t care about me and I hate it. I’m scared of loosing more people because of OCD. I’m still young and I’m worried that I won’t ever be in a meaningful relationship because everyone I try to get close to will push me away because of my anxiety. I just hate OCD and I wish it wasn’t affecting my relationships to the point where I don’t feel like I can even reach out and talk to them.

Username: Rissa94Rissa94

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 29w ago

I have relationship OCD something my therapist helped me with is sitting with that uncertainty. Maybe they like you and maybe they don’t. Mine was more about my husband cheating. I never knew this was a subtype for years but I finally found the proper help I needed and medication to help me. It had done wonders for me. It takes sometime but you got this. Try to sit with the thoughts and do your best at avoiding those compulsives.

Username: fruitbat42069fruitbat42069

Date posted: 29w ago

I relate to this for sure. Most of my OCD issues since becoming an adult have been around relationships, especially after my parents divorced and we found out my dad was cheating followed by several friendship breakups. I felt like I couldn’t trust anyone after that, not even myself. I still struggle with these thoughts and fears. It’s important to practice self-assurance without it becoming too compulsory. A good place to start is this youtube channel I found called OCD & Anxiety with Nathan Peterson. From there you can start to give yourself affirmations as well as practicing sitting with discomfort and uncertainty, like this person above had said^

Username: fruitbat42069fruitbat42069

Date posted: 29w ago

I definitely have these fears too. You’re not alone and there are people who understand how OCD works and can help you work with yourself instead of against yourself.

Username: Cece Piglet

Date posted: 5y ago

I’ve had ocd for a while, but I really don’t know if I should tell my friends. I’m worried they’ll hate me or act different or ignore me. They are the nicest most understanding people I’ve ever known so why do I feel this way? I end up feeling horrible because I don’t totally trust them. OCD has been like a never ending circle and I just don’t want it to affect yet another part of my life.

Perfectionism OCD

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

How to let myself be loved?

I feel like I'm harboring a horrible secret, or that I'm a monster, because of my OCD & I'm struggling a lot to let myself make friends and have deeper connections with others because of it. I know it's OCD, and I would never feel like other sufferers' are their fears - but when it comes to me, I just can't disconnect my intrusive thoughts with the idea that they mean something about me as a person. There's someone I'm starting to like, in a serious way I think, but it gives me so much anxiety to let him get closer to me or consider things becoming romantic in the future. And I hate it, because I know that if I didn't have OCD I'd be overjoyed with how much he seems to enjoy my presence - but I feel like a liar, like by not telling him all of my intrusive thoughts I'm hiding my "true self." I know that it's an OCD thought, and I need to not engage with it, but it's hard. I don't want people to care about me just for me to end up being the monster my OCD warns me I am. I can't afford therapy - so any responses are welcome, tips & tricks or just comfort that I can get through it. 🥲

Username: goldendog7

Date posted: 1y ago

Ocd ruined everything

I just want to say I don’t know who reads this but I def can say ocd has ruined evuthing I have from friendships, my mind, education, and just myself I really can’t believe how destructive this disorder is and how manipulative it’s hard because I really don’t want to live like this and I know they aren’t real but tell me why does my body feel that way I’m scared but I don’t want to loose myself or have annoying and depressing thoughts .

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