I might have to move out

I wrote alot of posts with this topic but now i realized i might need to move out from my parents house. I dont want to and it makes me so sad. I dont want to leave my dog and live alone, with noone to help, i dont care about the things i have to do, cooking for myself and washing/cleaning, im okay with that, but mentally its really not a good idea. Im now crying cause im working on the sadness that i have to leave my dog and i wont see him. People cant understand others situation, its makes me angry that theres no other options on the internet, its just "move out" but these are the people who wanted to move out cause they cant go to party or stay outside late night, and they move and say it was a good idea, they are free and some people treat others like they are losers if they stay home with their parents, and how theyre a better person cause they live alone...I dont want to move, not because dad and mom buys and pays me everything and i can do what i want, since im working, im buying things for myself with my own money, i can cook for myself and i like to do it, and i would pay rent at home too. I dont want to move because of loneliness, that depressing feeling, going home after work and noones there to ask you how you doing, how was work, or if its even just a dog being happy that you came home. Moving out would be a mental suicide for me. I bought that dog a year ago cause i felt loneliness and boredom many times, but since i have him i didnt experienced those feelings, and now i just have to throw that away. Im really scared of feeling lonely. Others would say move with others, its not that easy, im struggling having friends, the ones i have already live with their girlfriend/boyfriend, you cant just find people. For some its easy, i went to uni and some of my collegues had to live in apartments cause they came from other cities, but they werent christians and you know uni life is about drinking, they just did that everyday. I couldnt live with people like that. Its not that easy to move away. If you want to and you have friends to not feel alone yeah its easy, but my only thing that makes me feel not lonely is my dog and i have to leave it to live alone its just puts me back to be misserable... if it would be a different reason that theres no other choice than okay i work on accepting it, but im angry cause i feel that theres other choices, its just everyone is so drunk with "move out". I know i will have to move out one day but its with my wife to start another family, if it would be that i would be happy, thats what im waiting for. But it doesnt seems like i would get a wife anytime soon... Im really sad that i have to leave my dog and it will be so hard to go through that...

bpino912

Date posted: 1y

I’m sorry you are struggling! Why do you have to move out from your parents house? Is there no way you can stay?

PRIV8

Date posted: 1y

Its because of my father. He is verbally abusing us, he says things like we will never be anything, and he is the only reason why we are here, and many times talk down on us. I had enough of it, it makes me feel bad and sometimes i have these days when im just so tired of it. It doesnt happens everyday but im still tired of it. I dont want to move but its not good for my mental health either... its so annoying that everywhere i read about this, people say "move from home, you have to do it" and it makes me feel depressed, cause its like i have to move just because of this. I dont want to live with my dad but i dont want to leave my other family members and my dog, and i dont want to live alone. I have an idea what could i do but maybe it wont happen cause its kinda complicated.

bpino912

Date posted: 1y

@PRIV8 I’m sorry to hear that. It’s definitely got to be very hard to deal with going home to that. I know you don’t want to be alone and I lived with a roommate who was barely home so I felt alone very often and sort of feel like it made my ocd/anxiety worse. It is hard, but I got a dog which helped tremendously. I can see how it could be hard to leave your dog. Maybe you can look for a rental that allows pets, then you’ll still be able to bring your dog as a companion. I know it’s not easy to find those places as most landlords don’t allow it, but don’t give up on doing what’s right for you.

Nica

Date posted: 1y

It’ll be a big change and hard and will stress you out a lot, but you can also look at this as a new start and most likely, things will get better. You’re not in a safe place and therefore your Brian has been trying to protect you/itself for ages, and it’s REALLY damn hard to get better when you are constantly getting knocked down. High stress levels have negative effects on people in many ways.

PRIV8

Date posted: 1y

I will still be alone...im dont care about the challenges, its when you go home and theres nobody who waits for you to go home...

PRIV8

Date posted: 1y

@PRIV8 I see alot of videos about this on social medias that yeah you are free and you can do what you want but many times is so depressing

Nica

Date posted: 1y

@PRIV8 Go out and start doing social stuff slowly. I’d say being alone but working on being social is way better than being abused constantly.

miku -_-

Date posted: 24w

Rocd

I have a question is it selfish for me to want to move out of my parents house in 2027? For reference I graduate fall 2026 of next year and I live out of state for college. I know graduation is close but I want to stay in my college state because I am used to living here and my home environment at home is toxic. My boyfriend lives in my home state and he wants to stay with his parents and pay bills ( higher than an apartment). His home is also toxic but he chooses to stay there even after he graduates this semester. We got into an argument today because he doesn’t want to move here with me and work down here I told him it’s a better place than where we live but he refuses. He would also be more happy mentally but he doesn’t want to. He feels like me wanting to live down here is a bad thing because I’m trying to independent without any help which is not the case. I also don’t like that he lives at home because he feels obligated to pay for things because it’s his parents but his mom uses him for money. And he’s brainwashed by her because she said to him stay with me as long as you want to and don’t move out because it’s expensive and also because she needs him. They have a trauma bond that I feel like I could never amount to. I just feel like when I graduate I might have to break up with him because he doesn’t have a future for himself outside being at home and driving his mom everywhere and working to pay the bills in the house and not having money saved for us. Can someone please help me? Am I being to harsh on him? For reference I am 19 about to be 20 and I have money saved enough for my own apartment but the only reason I haven’t moved out yet is because I want to finish my degree and have a stable job and I am also building up my credit at the moment ever since I was 17.

PRIV8

Date posted: 21w

Feeling emotions

I get alot of times that you should let yourself feel your emotions,now I kinda see the emotions i was struggling with before, and the problem might have been that i didnt let myself feel them, and i even think that thats why i experienced panic attacks. However im struggling again cause letting myself feel the emotions made me emotional and throughout the day many times i feel something that i dont know what to do with, giving them attention makes me spiral. Now its about my dog, for two days he vomitted out what he ate and now he doesnt want to eat his food, some food he does want but those are some human food that he shouldnt eat. But my mom brought chicken meat to him, he doesnt want to eat it, and she made something for him but he doesnt wants to eat that either...This makes me really sad cause im afraid i will lose him. I feel really bad when someone who i love is sick and with him its hard cause dogs cant tell you whats the problem. I have a deep sadness about it and fear and I let myself feel it but it gets so bad that it doesnt help me at all. I dont find it helpful, its just makes my day harder. Now again makes me angry if i hear someone saying you should feel all your feelings... Being aware of it, it takes your focus too, i never understood that, how you are aware of something and your focus does not move there... The bird exemple is not true for me, if i go out and hear a bird chirping either im aware of it and it takes my focus,or I enjoy it with the view, or I just notice it and then ignore it,I dont give so much attention to it. Right now birds are chirping, if i put my awarness there i notice them, but if i focus on here that im writing now, i dont notice them,i forget that birds are chirping...Its not like im aware of both... I agree that i should let myself feel more emotions cause alot of problems came there but I dont know where is the line and when im giving too much attention or when im dealing with them too much...

NateN49

Date posted: 10w

Afraid of being at home

I’m 21. The 3 year anniversary of my graduation from high school is soon. Lately, I’ve been worried about where I’m going in life and if it’s even worth it because I don’t know why I exist or what my purpose is After graduating I lost a new job I loved due to poor management on my boss’s side, they failed to teach me my job then fired me for it, and moved from my mom’s house into my dads house due to issues with my stepdad, both of which put me into a depression. I got a new job 3 months later. But ever since being fired and moving out, I feel like I’ve been in a depressive cycle of Eat, Sleep, Work, Repeat. I’ll get home and doomscroll for hours, and occasionally play games with friends at nights. Occasionally I’ll do my hobbies but usually feel guilty for it. I don’t see my friends and family nearly as much as I used to. I want to, but it feels like everything I want to do, my intrusive thoughts find a way to keep me at home. “It’s a waste of time.” “You need to be productive on your time off or you’ll go nowhere in life so stay home.” But then if I stay home it’s “you need to go out and do something.” “You’re being unproductive sitting at home all day.” “Seeing them wont make you feel better, you’ll never be happy” My girlfriend lives 6 hours away and is usually the only time I’d go outside and live and feel in the moment, but even then I’d feel guilt. I feel like my OCD makes me feel guilty for everything. She’s helped me a lot, but lately we’ve had a few issues we’ve worked past that made me fear for losing her too. I’ve felt depressed for years now. Before being fired, I usually felt pretty good and was almost normal feeling. I’d had control over my fears and intrusive thoughts of suicide and the meaning of life, and had accepted them and wasn’t afraid. I knew it wasn’t me. But lately I’ve been trying to push myself out of this depressive cycle, and it’s made my OCD and fears of suicide and if life has meaning, come right back. I’m handling it slightly better, but it’s still hard. I just want to move past this and stop questioning why I’m even doing anything, if I want to end it all, when I know for certain I don’t want to and that I get to make my own meaning in life. I have dreams, I want to get back into art. I want to move in with my girlfriend eventually and start a family. But my OCD makes me so scared to even try to make art, and it makes me so scared I won’t be happy or content with my dreams. I feel so alone and sad. I feel like life will pass me by while I’m stuck feeling this sad and scared. It sucks, but I’m trying my best to get there. Gotta keep moving

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