Guys I’m too sensitive to others comments.. crying

Someone called me “your brain is not working properly ”.. I was not able to understand their directions due to my OCD condition and feeling brain fog. I was pretending to be fine but I actually cried a lot on my pillow. I have been this way since my entire childhood to many comments and bullying I received from people, and in recovery my old sensitive self came back again… how do I deal with this? I have understood that human beings are practical and that they are self contained to not be affected. But this is destroying my self esteem like a house of cards and I’m sobbing like anything. But it breaks me down too much. I feel completely destroyed lost and alone and tears flow down my face. I realised the world is different in the face of death and pain But I can’t handle the ruthlessness of how this world works. I can’t let go the part of me that is devastated by the facts of cruelty or loss, and gets completely destroyed by its manifestation in world. This incident completely transports me to my childhood self.

ROCDmensch

Date posted: 1y

The thing that helped me the most is to first of all accept that I am a highly sensitive person. And that my sensitivity towards criticism is relate to experiences/feelings of shame in my childhood. As a child I needed someone to give me stability and be there for me in those moments of shame. Someone to tell me that it's alright and that I'm alright and don't have to be perfect all the time. Now that I'm an adult I still have this inner child. It's my responsibility to care for it. I have to nurture it and be nice to it. So instead of being mean to myself for being sensitive I say "hey, this hurt a lot. It's okay that it hurt and that I feel the need to cry. However, this is a temporary feeling. I don't need to dwell on it forever. It's okay to be hurt for now, and move on from this feeling when I feel ready." Hope this helps :)

ROCDmensch

Date posted: 1y

Also reading about "emotional foolishness" is just another example for not being kind to yourself. You think you need to be tough to overcome OCD. It's the opposite. You need to my KIND to YOURSELF. Sorry for the capital letters haha. When you allow your inner child to mourn, then the hurt actually passes way quicker than when you try to keep it quit and "get yourself together". Embrace all feelings.

ROCDmensch

Date posted: 1y

@ROCDmensch I think there is not such a thing as too much empathy. What you mean is a lack of borders towards other and yourself. A feeling of self, detached from others, a sense of self security without the reassurance of others, but also without the guilt of being true to yourself and to not people please. Those are things we as highly sensitive people struggle with, but we can learn it. I would really recommend you to read a book about being a highly sensitive person and how to make the best out of it :)

Sanchi_dur

Date posted: 1y

@ROCDmensch Oh yes you are right about the “you need to be actually kind to yourself” I always, always miss this, actually it is the reason why I have maybe been a lot worse off because of agreeing to the OCD voice of becoming my own enemy and dictator. It is funny that this is so unnatural to me and I have to do a lot of reminding to get myself to be the opposite.

ROCDmensch

Date posted: 1y

@Saanch I get it. It takes a lot of conscious effort to change this habit of talking down on yourself. But repetitiveness will change things :)

Sanchi_dur

Date posted: 1y

@ROCDmensch Yes, hopefully. The forgetfulness of this is the worst part that sends one to spiral in self-punishment cycle.

Sanchi_dur

Date posted: 1y

The fact is that I’m extremely sensitive and easily hurt by criticism.

Sanchi_dur

Date posted: 1y

This seems to be the last straw where I’m crying and just get completely overwhelmed. I think I have been this way from past because I actually have had OCD to deal with and have been so oppressed by it..

:D!!

Date posted: 1y

I'm really sorry that you have been suffering like this :( Are you saying that you are sensitive to criticism? Or are there other things that make you cry a lot as well? Sending you a hug <3

Sanchi_dur

Date posted: 1y

@:D!! @:D!! Thank you, yes I take a mean tone, rudeness or criticism to my heart. It sticks with me for years because I don’t forget it. I think it has the ability to wreck me completely and I’m not able to be indifferent to it. I guess I’m not very tough or strong like others. I need to be. I need to cure my OCD. Otherwise my attachment and emotional foolishness will really destroy me if something bad happens with anybody especially my family in reality. I have too much empathy and really lack in any understanding of the difference between me and someone else. It’s like they are different organs of my body, where ultimately I will be pained, even moreso than the organ itself, if it undergoes actual injury. How has God made the world to be so indifferent and tolerant to pain? I believe that curing OCD and returning to the confidence of God that all these fears and pain too will cease, like it is for others without OCD.

drak4

Date posted: 1y

Dont give up. There is always something nice in world.

Sanchi_dur

Date posted: 1y

@drak4 Thanks, yes, there is. Losing so much touch of the reality is a big illusion for us.

Angel J K

Date posted: 25w

Hard to accept criticism?

Hi came to vent. Sometimes people tell me to stop overthinking and that I need to change that. And I try to give myself grace because I know ocd is real. But then I think “Or am I just lacking accountability?” Because then I hear stuff from people like “you’re just not helping yourself.” Or “you think so negative.” This and that and sometimes I really do feel like it’s just hard, because it feels so automatic… And it hurts my feelings when I’m told that I’m too much, or too negative. Or I need to work on this and that. Then I feel MORE guilt for not being able to accepting criticism well. Because the criticizing voice gets stuck in my head constantly.

shirleyCstar

Date posted: 22w

Advice and Unbiased Opinions Please!!!

This isn’t OCD related so I’m sorry, but I don’t know another platform like this where I can talk to other people and actually get responses. OCD has been a huge fucking setback for me in life. I had to drop classes, wasn’t able to do things, and just felt so shitty all the time because of it. I feel like I blame OCD for everything I’m not. I constantly feel like I’m not good enough. Just today I saw someone I once knew and felt all of those feelings I used to have that made me miserable. Anyways, I tried taking my driver’s test a couple days ago but I wasn’t able to. The DMV only accepted cash. I felt upset but it was whatever. I’m almost 19, and I don’t have a driver’s license. So passing it would mean a lot to me. I compare myself to others my age; they have cars, hobbies, friends, go to college, etc… I don’t have any of that. Maybe comparing myself and all of that is my fault. My family says it’s my fault I’m sad because I just wallow in it. Hearing them say that makes me frustrated and hurt, but maybe they’re right. My mom texted a couple of my siblings in a group chat I wasn’t a part of, “He wants to wallow and be depressed. And woe is me, wah wah wah.” That made me really angry because my siblings were agreeing with her. Maybe they are right. Maybe I am selfish and think the world revolves around me. My sister tells me I need to advocate for myself more, I just don’t want to be a burden. I’ve only been a burden my whole life. My OCD created this whole issue in my family and I hate that. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just want an answer. Am I really a loser? Do I really wallow in it? Am I not trying like my family says? I just want to talk to someone.

kiwicowgirl

Date posted: 18w

I’m “bad” at sex (18+)

So I got dumped today by my situationship. For background, we talked for like 3 months, and I just recently lost my virginity to her. We only had sex twice. After she said we should still be friends, goofily (reassurance-seeking) I asked “but the sex was good right?” And she told me it was “good for a virgin” which hurt my feelings, then going even further she said “not in my top ten.” This made me CRY, like on the spot, right there in front of her (not the most embarrassing thing I’ve ever done…. But definitely in my top ten). I started having intrusive thoughts about how I’m unattractive/unworthy of love. She asked me why I was crying, but I just said “I don’t like myself very much,” which is always the underlying problem with me. And she reassured me that I’m “not a bad person” and “it’s not because you’re not smart or not beautiful.” But the reassurance made me spiral more, bc I was thinking “I didn’t even mention feeling unattractive or stupid, she can just tell that I am.” Then it kept getting worse and worse, “I’m unattractive/unlovable/stupid. I’m not good at sex, I’m not good at anything.” I had to stop myself and realize it was OCD obsessing over the things “wrong” with me. I think I started this post wanting reassurance, but now I think I want to know if anyone has any tips on accepting criticism as someone with OCD, bc it always sends me down a “there is something wrong with me” spiral.

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