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When one is anxious it’s difficult to get attracted at all. Cortisol, adrenaline and so on, will not make you more interested. Most likely your OCD has hijacked the whole thing for now, and until you deal with it you won’t be able to think about attraction without these intrusive thoughts disturbing your feelings.
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Yeah. OCD tries to put things into words ans is very much trying to analyze everything, people with OCD are not usually people who can relax and just enjoy things, we stay stuck in our heads so easily. I also find that it can take away all the good feelings you experience, cause they can be misintepreted and deemed as good feelings towards something you fear. Say I had any single good feeling of any sort while looking at a person of the same sex, then I might get intrusive thoughts. No wonder a lot of people with OCD get depressed.
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Yeah. It’s strange how OCD has changed from me in 6 years since I was 20. Back then I had some HOCD and health related OCD. For two years it was almost latent. Then it came back with a tremendous fury two years ago. Since then it has been very weird, and jumping back and forth between obsessions, more focused on the compulsions more than anything else. I feel happier now than with raging health anxiety, since it caused me horrible pain. But it really nags at you..
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- 6y
Well yeah, that is not to mention the first 12 years. I never got treatment though, cause I didnt think it was always OCD and I despised authority and doctors/therapists. You need to treat the OCD but also yourself and your life, happiness stops it recurring. ☺️
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Your brain is meant to think that every thing really scary can be real. Just try to force yourself consciously to not believe it.
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Yeah, it's to the point where my brain is telling me "you're forcing yourself to find them attractive" when I do find them attractive ?? it's a whole cycle of misery
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- 6y
Exactly. OCD takes anything you fear and just completely runs with it. It's caused the most depression and anxiety I have ever remotely felt in my 20 years of living.
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I'm in the same situatuon since a year. But I no longer have any anxiety.
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I'm sorry to hear that you've been battling OCD for 6 years now ? it sucks that once you get over a theme, another one decides to pop up ??
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This has happened to me with women. I’ve always been attracted to women, everything about them, but now it’s like I don’t feel anything. I will note that I’ve been depressed and have stress with anxiety. That and I’m on SSRI’s so that can take away your sex drive. Tis the life of having OCD.
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Yeah same, I'm currently experiencing depression and severe anxiety. So I'm trying to take all the thoughts I'm thinking right now with a grain of salt. But it's just so hard because it feels so real and scary ?
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- 15w
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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Hey everyone I’ve been doing good lately. I have an ocd therapist and I’m working on myself. Haven’t been doing as many compulsions or checks The last couple days I feel like I lost physical attraction to my wife and my mind says it’s because I’m gay. At this point I’ve been going back and forth on this for years so I’m more accepting but it still freaks me out. Then I noticed a coworker who is define as an attractive guy and thought about what it be like to be gay with him. It didn’t seem horrible but it seemed off somehow. Fast forward I tried gay porn…..again. At first like always it did nothing but I kept like making mental accommodations and trying to physically put myself in the situation. Then all the sudden I ejaculated. Sorry if too graphic. It’s happened before like that but I don’t get why. I feel horrible after it happens too. Anyway I tried straight porn to balance it out and it took forever. Maybe I just need to accept I am gay or not totally straight. I notice attractive guys and girls but I dream about my wife/girls, feel more comfortable thinking about a heterosexual relationship and can’t like get aroused to guys outside of porn. Can anyone relate? What does this mean? I might be seeking reassurance but need help
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- 6w
I feel that I’ve come on extremely well. I still can’t accept uncertainty. My attraction to the opposite gender (females) comes back but doesn’t last how it used to too. I feel that excitement, thoughts like “she’s well fit” then a horrible depressed feeling and those voices saying “but you don’t like females anymore…” The false attraction towards same gender (male) isn’t as bad as it was. It used to be every single male, old young, big, small, even voices, cartoons and so on. Now it’s a quick spike when I see a male followed by disgusted, I still pull a horrible face and I shake depending on how bad the thoughts/ feelings. This HOCD/SOOCD happened 14 years ago but not as severe as this time round. Then just went for 14 years. Has anyone been through the same and got through it??
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