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When one is anxious it’s difficult to get attracted at all. Cortisol, adrenaline and so on, will not make you more interested. Most likely your OCD has hijacked the whole thing for now, and until you deal with it you won’t be able to think about attraction without these intrusive thoughts disturbing your feelings.
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Yeah. OCD tries to put things into words ans is very much trying to analyze everything, people with OCD are not usually people who can relax and just enjoy things, we stay stuck in our heads so easily. I also find that it can take away all the good feelings you experience, cause they can be misintepreted and deemed as good feelings towards something you fear. Say I had any single good feeling of any sort while looking at a person of the same sex, then I might get intrusive thoughts. No wonder a lot of people with OCD get depressed.
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Yeah. It’s strange how OCD has changed from me in 6 years since I was 20. Back then I had some HOCD and health related OCD. For two years it was almost latent. Then it came back with a tremendous fury two years ago. Since then it has been very weird, and jumping back and forth between obsessions, more focused on the compulsions more than anything else. I feel happier now than with raging health anxiety, since it caused me horrible pain. But it really nags at you..
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Well yeah, that is not to mention the first 12 years. I never got treatment though, cause I didnt think it was always OCD and I despised authority and doctors/therapists. You need to treat the OCD but also yourself and your life, happiness stops it recurring. ☺️
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Your brain is meant to think that every thing really scary can be real. Just try to force yourself consciously to not believe it.
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Yeah, it's to the point where my brain is telling me "you're forcing yourself to find them attractive" when I do find them attractive ?? it's a whole cycle of misery
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- 6y
Exactly. OCD takes anything you fear and just completely runs with it. It's caused the most depression and anxiety I have ever remotely felt in my 20 years of living.
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I'm in the same situatuon since a year. But I no longer have any anxiety.
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I'm sorry to hear that you've been battling OCD for 6 years now ? it sucks that once you get over a theme, another one decides to pop up ??
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This has happened to me with women. I’ve always been attracted to women, everything about them, but now it’s like I don’t feel anything. I will note that I’ve been depressed and have stress with anxiety. That and I’m on SSRI’s so that can take away your sex drive. Tis the life of having OCD.
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Yeah same, I'm currently experiencing depression and severe anxiety. So I'm trying to take all the thoughts I'm thinking right now with a grain of salt. But it's just so hard because it feels so real and scary ?
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- 23w
When first triggered it was every male possible. I couldn’t even go shopping… it was all ages of male, all sizes, and the groinal response was non stop. Like always a feeling there. Then it calmed down but male voices… I couldn’t listen to the music I use to enjoy or movies I’ve always been interested in. Then it kinda dyed down to people who are good looking but I’ve never in my life been attracted to males and beards. I couldn’t even always say they are good looking but never had this fear, the head ache constantly pounding feelings before. Now it’s still good looking males but I’m noticing body shape now? What is this!? Soon as I see a male figure my body feeling like it goes into shock, preparing for the anxiety feeling of ‘false’ attraction. It makes me sweat, and nauseous. Is this OCD or after 32 years of loving woman now gone? I don’t really have attraction towards woman (brief moments but not how I use to be) and this makes me so depressed. I don’t want to live like this. The only thing stoping me is my children and wife.
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- 15w
I don't know for sure if I have HOCD, but it seems like I do, I tried to accept the idea that I'm gay, I felt calm, and then I started to get scared because I didn't feel anxiety anymore, I still feel attracted to my girlfriend, both physically and emotionally, but I feel an attraction to boys, sometimes I panic when I feel attracted and sometimes I don't (but most of the time I do) and I don't want to break up with my girlfriend I want to get back to normal
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- 12w
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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