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ruminating
how do you stop ruminating on a thought? it keeps intruding back into my head. and I can’t feel relaxed
how do you stop ruminating on a thought? it keeps intruding back into my head. and I can’t feel relaxed
I write down my intrusive thoughts when they get really bad. When I write them down, I affirm myself with positive remarks or evidence against my intrusive thought: "I am having disturbing intrusive thoughts about my boyfriend with another woman. These are just thoughts. I am safe and valued." And then I try to journal and explore why I might be having these intrusive thoughts. I find that they often come about because of a trigger.
I have this same problem, I find the line between "ignoring" and "letting the thought come and go" is very hard for me when I feel like no matter what I do my thoughts are triggered
This is me everyday thoughts just trigger me the moment I open my eyes in the miring
Same here, I have existential ocd and feel like nothing around me is real, and I always wake up sick to my stomach and it's the worst 😭
@Jay🫶🏽 Same here. Every morning I need very long to start my day because of the thoughts starting from the moment I wake.
@Anonymous I know the sick to your stomach feeling in the morning. It's terrible. The images are killing me!
@Jay🫶🏽 Me too. It’s exhausting
How To Stop Rumination Video: https://youtu.be/CkcspsmLh9k?feature=shared
@Nica I just watched this and I love it. Thank you so much for sharing
I’ve found that rationalizing with my thoughts only give temporary relief. Then they come right back. It helps me when I acknowledge the thoughts are there and do not engage. For example, mine right now are of my husband with another woman. When my mind paints that picture and wants me to dive into it I will say “mmm don’t like that, no thanks”. And kinda try to giggle about it. Sometimes I’ll just say “I see you, f*** you, no thanks” Kinda vulgar I guess but the thoughts make me so mad 😂
When you want to ruminate you instead say maybe, maybe not or just agree with the thought or thoughts like totally ,non engagement responses
you need to start looking at youtube more to watch funny videos like Adam Rose he cheers me up.
I struggle so bad with intrusive thoughts. They can be so bad that I'll cry because I KNOW that's not how I feel or want to do. (Too embarrassed to say what they're about) I'll constantly try to figure out why I have them, and constantly figure out what they mean, causing me to constantly circle around and around. I had to get on anxeity meds, which helped a little but the thoughts still happen. How do you help yourself with this? How do you know that you're just not some physcopath? 😅
Two things are happening: I get thoughts that just keep looping. They almost feel like song stuck in my head. Also, I’ll imagine something and I feel my stomach drop. Then as the seconds go by I keep getting fragments of the this thought but with different details. For example, it’s kinda like how a “vision” is portrayed. I’ll get a glimpse of the thought and then it’ll rapidly expand into something worse every few seconds. I don’t know if I’m causing this or if it’s just an automatic thing like any other intrusive thought. It feels unavoidable, idk if this is a compulsion or if it’s just another manifestation of an intrusive thought. Apart from that remembering an intrusive thought triggers the full thought again and then it just keeps looping or expanding. I don’t know how to stop any of this. Help?
OK, this might sound really dumb, but when you guys get intrusive thoughts, do they just come once and then go away? I’ve heard that repeatedly thinking about an intrusive thought is considered ‘checking,’ but it doesn’t feel like I have any control over how many times it comes up in my head. It’s not like I’m trying to check anything—it just keeps showing up, almost like it’s terrorizing me every time. I can’t seem to stop it from looping, stop remembering it, or prevent it from coming up. Every time it does, I feel horrified, and I already know it’s going to horrify me. I don’t think I’m actively trying to see if my feelings have changed, so is this still considered checking? How do other people get an intrusive thought and just move on? Doesn’t it pop up a million times for them too? I always thought that was normal, but now I’m hearing this could be a compulsion, and I feel really confused, scared, and lost. Is this why my OCD feels so extreme? Because I really don’t feel like I can control how many times the thought pops up.
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